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littleone35 -> Ashamed (12/8/2011 2:19:41 PM)
Something happened today. I mentioned Master was very happy with something i did and gave me a reward. My friend asked me what did he give you. It was sexual in nature and i was a little embarassed to tell him but eventually i did. He said that is all good why were you ashamed to tell me that? I was honestly surprised he said that i might be embarassed to say something. Ashamed no never i am never ashamed of anything Master does to or with me..To me anything he does to /with me feels good and right. So my question (mostly for those are not into humilation) do you feel the same? Why or why not? Matt's littleone

xxblushesxx -> RE: Ashamed (12/8/2011 2:25:43 PM)
Well, it depends on the friendship. I'm pretty open though, and would not be ashamed. (although I might not have mentioned it was a reward) But if it were a friend I did not talk about sexual matters with, I still wouldn't be ashamed because I would not have mentioned it.

DarkSteven -> RE: Ashamed (12/8/2011 2:26:53 PM)
You're owned. How would your Master feel about you sharing?

Winterapple -> RE: Ashamed (12/8/2011 2:36:59 PM)
I wonder if the more appropriate word for your friend to have used was embarrassed? It's not quite the same thing. Modesty often prevents people from sharing personal stuff. I don't think modesty is shame based. Some people are open books and some people are by nature private. I don't tell friends the details of my intimate life with a partner because for me that's a sacred thing between the two of us.

LafayetteLady -> RE: Ashamed (12/8/2011 2:38:26 PM)
Are things of a sexual nature something you normally will talk about with this friend? Or even as a general rule with other people (face to face)? If you don't normally do that, your being ashamed to talk about it is pretty normal. Sex is a private thing that many people don't openly discuss with others. If you DO normally talk about these things with your friend, then I really don't know why you feel that way. I will temper my discussions with friends based on the types of things that we do or don't discuss. I have friends that I don't discuss my sex life with, and others that I will. I am not ashamed of things I do, but I am respectful of my friends' feelings about discussing such things.

littleone35 -> RE: Ashamed (12/8/2011 2:39:59 PM)
Steven with this paticular friend he is cool wiith it. I would not share it with the world. Matt's littleone

Missokyst -> RE: Ashamed (12/8/2011 2:59:53 PM)
I don't discuss intimate details with friends who have not spent time between my legs and that leaves out pretty much everyone. I said, "intimate" and by that I mean more than basic info. Basic info, yeah I am all there. We had sex. We had sex for hours. Not the hows or the why. Since most of us have had sex and enjoyed it, I see no shame or embarassment in admitting I like it. I like to save embarassment for getting a rush of blood pulsing through my genitals and turning on my mate.

littlewonder -> RE: Ashamed (12/8/2011 3:38:27 PM)
I don't discuss my personal life with friends or family. It's just simply something I don't feel needs to be aired with others. It's personal and stays between us. However, I'm not ashamed or embarrassed ever. I just feel there's a time and a place and certain people with whom I share certain things. Yeah we might talk about sex but it's just sex in general, not anything personal between Master and I. It's just never dawned on me to ever even have a need to talk about it with others.

Fornica -> RE: Ashamed (12/8/2011 4:39:56 PM)
fr Ashamed seems a strange word to use. Can you explain why you chose that word?

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Ashamed (12/8/2011 4:46:43 PM)
I don't really understand using the word "ashamed" either... shame connotes something negative to me. Did you feel negatively about what happened or about telling the friend? A friend I've known for yeeaaars asked me once if I've ever done anything kinky. I felt embarassed, evenn though we often talked about her sex life, because I thought she'd be alarmed at how much my definition of "kinky" had outpaced hers. But it was the giddy, fun kind of embarrassment, nothing negative...

DesFIP -> RE: Ashamed (12/8/2011 5:53:32 PM)
There's a difference between being ashamed of having done something and feeling uncomfortable talking about something very intimate with someone you don't normally share intimate subjects with. I'd have been annoyed that someone wanted to hear prurient details of my relationship. Doesn't matter how close we are, I still am an intensely private person and don't believe anyone but the two of us should know about those things. Does your master approve of you telling these details? Ask him how you should respond in the future when someone is pushing you to do something you aren't comfortable doing in that situation.

Buzzzz -> RE: Ashamed (12/8/2011 7:13:16 PM)
According to the original post, her friend said the word "ashamed" . She said that she felt embarassed (which I think fits more the bill).

LillyBoPeep -> RE: Ashamed (12/8/2011 8:40:31 PM)
That's a good point Buzzzz but she's also using it here in this thread. Why does this friend feel like exchanging these details is so important? I assume her M already doesn't care if she talks about this.

Focus50 -> RE: Ashamed (12/9/2011 2:15:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littleone35 Something happened today. I mentioned Master was very happy with something i did and gave me a reward. My friend asked me what did he give you. It was sexual in nature and i was a little embarassed to tell him but eventually i did. He said that is all good why were you ashamed to tell me that? I was honestly surprised he said that i might be embarassed to say something. Ashamed no never i am never ashamed of anything Master does to or with me..To me anything he does to /with me feels good and right. So my question (mostly for those are not into humilation) do you feel the same? Why or why not? I think you dodged a bullet. If this involved my girl, then I'd be cranky at what played out here. Matters sexual in nature that involved me - being revealed/discussed with another male? Kaboom! I don't particularly like it when women reveal such things to their women friends, but accept that sharing intimacies is often the nature of the female species. But to another man? I mean, if your - or her - instinct was to get embarrassed at the question, then surely that's your cue to NOT answer? I would've been mightily disappointed - but that's me. Focus.

mons -> RE: Ashamed (12/9/2011 2:25:08 AM)
I am very private and i am not one of the women whom will tell someone something of a sexual nature at all, but i have strangers come to me and tell me things that shock me, this happen to my twin also. I wonder why people pick us to tell personal things i am not speaking of this cm but this is at stores or anywhere! It is something i have gotten use too! It has happen for years lol , once i was on a bus coming to ca many many years ago and a young ;ady about the age i was then she has granny eyeglasses on and her hair pin up and when everyone went to sleep she took off her glasses and let her hair down and she talk and at that time i did not know a thing , and she told me things that made me blush! Lol i still remember it, i do not like t o travel that bus ride was a nightmare! LOL mons ( people change when the light go out lol ) hey where am i ?

Hiskajirah -> RE: Ashamed (12/9/2011 2:33:47 AM)
My Master would not be pleased with me if I discussed his business or his rewards to me with other men. I have several close male friends and it still would not be allowed. It makes me wonder littleone how really cool your Master is with it or if he even really knew you were engaging in that conversation at that moment. You may not be ashamed to reveal, but it also makes me wonder the other mans (your friends) motive for even wanting to know and asking if you were embarrased... it's almost like getting you further into revealing.... more. Which really shouldn't be something he should know. If it was a girl friend, I can see exchanging conversation like this... I do hope I'm not offending you.. You said "So my question (mostly for those are not into humilation)" It's almost like somewhere inside you did want to feel some humiliation.. maybe that's why you answered your friends question in the first place. I do wish you well, ~twinkle

fragilepieces -> RE: Ashamed (12/9/2011 3:38:17 AM)
Sometimes I do feel ashamed--but probably because I still have that 'sex is dirty' theme my mom preached about stuck in my head. On the surface no. I love my partner and love being with him. I would not find myself in your situation however because I don't discuss private moments---unless it was something uber funny---but private moments are just that and I like not sharing those with anyone.

xxblushesxx -> RE: Ashamed (12/9/2011 5:34:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven You're owned. How would your Master feel about you sharing? If that question was directed at me, Steven, he could really give a you know what. He knew who and what I was when he got me. (a dirty girl with a perverted mind, who is pretty open about it...and a great cook. lol)

DesFIP -> RE: Ashamed (12/9/2011 5:56:07 AM)
The Man would have a cow. He has rules about how much I can share, even on a board such as this. Considering what the op has shared about her relationship in the past, I'm betting her master won't be too cool with this when/if she tells him.

littleone35 -> RE: Ashamed (12/9/2011 7:32:55 AM)
Des he already knows and he knows the friend so he is ok with it. I tell Master everything,i have nothing to hide. If i knew Master would not be ok with me telling this friend i woulkd have asked first I did not telll my friend chapter and verse just told him in general terms what happened. Thank you all for the responses. Many of you did not answer the ststed question though. Matt's littleone

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