stellauk
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I actually understand it completely.
It doesn't matter whether it's online, offline, face to face, lying next to each other in a bed, or coming at you from a television screen words and gestures are still communication, it's still people relating to one another, the connections are still relationships, and the words and what they imply still convey and arouse genuine emotions.
The vehicle for all this is projection. We all project, constantly, or if you choose to call it by something else 'vibes'. We all give off vibes, and we all pick up on them.
We all play roles, we develop personas, and through this we mask and enhance different aspects of our characters and personalities just as skilfully as any actor.
Some come here to post and interact with others, and some don't. They come, they read, they observe. You might not know much or even anything about a person, or have even had contact with them.
But that what you read here in their words can tell you so much about them, their general attitude to life and people, their issues or lack of them, their insight, and even in some cases how they are feeling on that particular day or what sort of day they are having.
Similarly, when posting, it's not only what you say which draws people's attention, but what you don't say. Coming here is no different from an actor standing in front of a camera or appearing on stage. They present a character, project and deliver their lines just the same. And different people who read the posts, like different people in the audience, notice different things and pick up on the projection.
However that what you pick up from soneone's words... is it the truth? How do you know? Do you understand the reasoning and motivation behind it? Or is it just your assumptions? A measured guess?
Where is the truth? Where does the truth lie? Actually there's no such thing as 'the absolute truth'. Academics argue over what is an acceptable universal definition of The Truth.
Generally speaking, there's more that one. There's five in fact. The truth you tell yourself about yourself. The truth you tell yourself about someone else. The truth someone else tells you about you. The truth you tell someone else about them. And the truth you tell everybody about everything.
The common factor here is of course, it's all relative. It's all relative to your own individual awareness, your own individual understanding of people and life, and your individual perception.
And isn't this what really lies at the heart of the matter? Isn't that why many of us, if not all, come here? We come here to increase or develop that awareness, that perception, that knowledge, both of ourselves and of other people.
How seriously we take things here I find is relative to how much the interactions here impact on our lives and how much we allow them to. We all have our own individual reasons for coming here, our own circumstances. Some manage to squeeze in half an hour or so in a busy life, while for others at that particular time all they have for company is a screen, a keyboard and a mouse.
Words have an effect, they can sting, they can soothe, they can inspire, and some can damage your feelings of self-esteem and self-worth if you allow them to.
The same words carry the same power to convey pain or happiness irrespective of whether they are here or expressed between people face to face.
They all come from the minds and hearts of people who are very real.
Edited to add: This is my opinion and observation, and what was going through my mind when I responded to the topic. Therefore please don't regard this as being any sort of specialist knowledge or any claim that I am an authority on the subject. I'm not.
< Message edited by stellauk -- 12/9/2011 8:18:34 AM >
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