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kalikshama -> RE: Online domination (12/13/2011 10:44:44 AM)
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That's kinda like the old "who REALLY has the power in the relationship?" topic.
Change "relationship" to "scene" and you've given me a great segue:
http://www.niu.edu/user/tj0bjs1/papers/scclm09.pdf
With respect to control, some SM practitioners claim that
the bottom is truly in control of the SM scene, and in the
larger context in which the scene takes place, the bottom does
wield considerable control. Before many scenes begin, the
bottom and top negotiate the activities that will take place,
with the bottom setting limits on the type and intensity of the
activities. During the scene, the bottom can use safewords
that indicate to the top that the activities must slow down or
change or that the scene must end immediately. Thus, the
bottom exerts control both before and during the scene.
However, during the scene, the top controls the nature and intensity
of the activities, and particularly for scenes involving
bondage, the bottom must rely on the top to stay within the
negotiated parameters of the scene and to respect any safewords
the bottom uses.
In addition, some bottoms avoid negotiation and safewords
as a means of surrendering more control
(Easton&Liszt, 1998). In the present studies, the rise
in cortisol observed in bottoms but not tops might reflect the
control the top exerts during the scene itself despite the
control some bottoms exert in negotiation and in the use of
safewords.
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