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MasterSlaveLA -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/17/2011 9:07:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

Some would call even that kinky. [;)]



Possibly, with regard to the sexual things... but if the "order" was to mop the floor, clean the bathroom/toilet, or run an errand, I'm-a-guessin' they'd be less likely to view those things as "kink" -- where I view both the sexual and non-sexual in the same way... an order that is followed.





tazzygirl -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/17/2011 9:19:15 PM)

Oh I had those same orders... and the only one I looked forward too, eagerly anticipated, and waited with baited breath was the one for sex.

But then again, I am strange that way.



MasterSlaveLA -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/17/2011 9:28:27 PM)

 
I've just never gotten the Dom/sub or kink thing... to each their own -- M/s always just made more sense to me. (shrugs)




tazzygirl -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/17/2011 9:38:57 PM)

I wasnt putting you down, just teasing a little bit. Some people dont have kinks, or feel their preferences are just vanilla... nothing wrong with that at all.



Hillwilliam -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/17/2011 9:42:05 PM)

Whatever works for you and your partner(s) is what is right for you and your partner(s). How other people do it just doesn't matter.



ResidentSadist -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/17/2011 10:06:01 PM)

Rungs on a ladder, boundaries, "the edge", are all good images for conveying the scope of your awareness.  I don't believe anyone's morals or scope of appreciation are set in stone.  It's something that shifts over time with your knowledge.  I believe, and have proven, that you can teach almost anyone to like anything if you educated their palette and perspectives.  ...conditioning.

So about your ladder, as you ascend, you become more aware, more intimate with the next rung as it grows closer.  The nature of things you couldn't appreciate at a distance come into focus and so your tastes evolve.  

Nice thread. 



MasterSlaveLA -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/17/2011 10:10:43 PM)

 
Oh, I didn't think you were... not at all.  Sorry if my reply was taken the wrong way. [:)]




tj444 -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/17/2011 10:27:22 PM)

climbing??? ascending?
I started out in the middle of the ladder and have since decended down the ladder.. and that is where I intend do stay.. I am happy where i am, i have no desire to climb up again...



Casteele -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/18/2011 12:31:44 AM)

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

Would that type of addiction be bad in your opinion?

In general, no, I don't think it is necessarily bad; it just is what it is. My focus with the statement was that for those who posted along those lines, that appears to be what their misgivings are on the terminology used.

For my own personal perspective, I'm mostly indifferent. If it is what a person needs to feel fulfilled, so be it. I know a good many subs whom state that they enjoy BDSM in large part because their Dom(me)s are constantly pushing their boundaries. I might show some concern if I felt they were entering dangerous ground in their pursuit, or would engage in activities which might threaten or harm themselves or others. But that remains true for anything taken to extreme.



Casteele -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/18/2011 12:37:48 AM)

Well, nothing wrong with climbing down the ladder (.. in to the dungeon ;-)).. But I digress..

As long as you are happy and fulfilled, I think most people here would agree that is what matters. Maybe some day I would reach a point, but given my personality, I do not think it possible as it's the adventure and exploration that makes me happy and fulfilled. Not that I think either is better or worse, just different.



Kana -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/18/2011 12:45:00 AM)

All this cat knows is that ladders make damn fine things to tie slaves to and from.

Very much so. Like I could wipe out a Bondage Depot ladder section and die happy.



fadedshadow -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/18/2011 12:51:22 AM)

because i'm a narcissist, i really don't like it when someone thinks or acts like they're superior to me. it doesn't matter when, where, or how it happens but i prefer to be equal to other people, not beneath them.



JanahX -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/18/2011 1:05:35 AM)

There was no ladder for me. I have a fetish, I/He indulge. My fetish is pretty up there when it comes to "when I really think about it, it really can go all sorts of shades of wrong". Its hard to put on any kind of ladder since it seems to have a branch all its own. I cant really compare it to oh I started down here and ended up up here. It was always ____THIS_____. That's where my mind was always wired and that's what always got me high. Nothing else did or probably will.

I do indulge in other fetishes in complying with what my partner likes (as long as they're not my limits) But I don't consider it a ladder. Just something that I tolerate, to make him happy.



It wasn't like doing drugs where someone starts off smoking pot and climbs a ladder to a more hard core drug like heroin.



Missokyst -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/18/2011 9:05:21 AM)

I am the opposite. I began backwards. I started out as a slave and stayed there until an opening presented itself for me to get out. With 7 yrs of being a slave behind me I had to climb down that ladder to find a rung most comfortable and joyous. Slavery for me is death. After my resurrection I have made it my path never to allow myself to let anyone have that much control over me again.
Since then I have moved up and down the kink ladder, taken jumps over to different ladders, and even slid down a pole or two, quite happily.


quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterSlaveLA

 
I've just never gotten the Dom/sub or kink thing... to each their own -- M/s always just made more sense to me. (shrugs)






tazzygirl -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/18/2011 11:51:58 AM)

oooooo a fireman's pole!



tazzygirl -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/18/2011 11:53:42 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: fadedshadow

because i'm a narcissist, i really don't like it when someone thinks or acts like they're superior to me. it doesn't matter when, where, or how it happens but i prefer to be equal to other people, not beneath them.



Not sure what that has to do with the topic.



LaTigresse -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/18/2011 1:18:41 PM)

Maybe it has something to do with the drugs Janahx was talking about.



tazzygirl -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/18/2011 1:42:58 PM)

Good possibility.



kdsub -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/18/2011 3:15:58 PM)

tazzy... there are two ways of looking at your ladder. I understand wanting different things but eventually you will have climbed to the top rung. So the ladder is one thing... The other is who is holding the ladder and the view as you climb.

Otherwise even if you have tried every type of kink you want to... each kink will be different with a new person and how you view this person and kink as you climb again will be a new adventure.

But of course we all know there is a difference between love and passion...if passion and kink is all you want then a change of partner from time to time should refresh your passion. But with love there is a new challenge and perhaps reason for a new thread.

Butch



tazzygirl -> RE: Climbing the kink ladder (12/18/2011 3:45:53 PM)

Thats pretty much my thoughts as well, Butch.

Im not trying to steer the direction of this thread. The ladder was more a metaphor than an actuality, many people may not be reaching for more, some may have found more is too much, others may fear the "more"and still some may decide none of it is for them.

I do find it interesting how different people interpreted the thread and replied.

[:)]



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