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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/18/2011 11:08:05 PM

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You're a frosted flake... I would just pour milk on you.. within moments you would be a tasteless soggy mess.

Funny papers my ass... you're in the bowl dude.

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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/19/2011 12:14:25 AM

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Come on, people!!!!!!
(Throws some raw meat into the forum to keep the biters at bay before she starts making Her comments!)

The OP's profile clearly says that her account is being monitored by a Dom, so of course she's not going to be into talking to other males.

And her profile doesn't directly say she won't speak to a Domme. It says she would like to talk to other female subs to get some feedback, to ask questions, etc.
Sounds perfectly normal to me. If I wanted to find out what it was like to be a Dominant...why would I go and ask a submissive??

As for "being under consideration," not everyone utilizes that term towards the same end. There are submissives who have indeed been "under my (own) consideration." It simply means I am considering asking them to be my submissive, and that I am not just leading someone on. That they are not being patient for nothing. It's a form of encouragement coming from me, especially considering how selective I am!

Please ease up on the OP.
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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/19/2011 6:36:07 AM

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I see these threads a lot. Asking for vague advice. What the hell are we supposed to say? Any advice I could offer? About WHAT? What do you wanna know?
There. That's my tiny rant.

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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/19/2011 7:41:20 AM

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ORIGINAL: chocolateeyes46

I am currently under consideration by a very worthy dom and am here to learn more about the D/s lifestyle and where this leads me (I am totally new). I have no interest in talking to any men, only females to get their advice, answer questions and gain perspective from their point of view. Any help you would offer?

Yes, it would be to read what Poise wrote....over and over again until it sinks in:

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ORIGINAL: poise

I would also caution you to not assume that being under consideration is some lofty position,
as it often means someone has their hands in quite a few pieces of pie already, and use that
term as a way to keep them all eagerly awaiting his next word.
Remember, he is also under your consideration until you decide to give him authority over you.
He has to earn that right just as much as you do.

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ORIGINAL: searching4mysir

Being "under consideration" is BS. Sorry, but it is true. It is the equivalent of dating in the vanilla world.

No, it's not. It's the equivalent of being a pair of jeans put on hold at the store while shopping at the rest of mall to if there's something that you like better.

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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/19/2011 8:07:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: chocolateeyes46

I am currently under consideration by a very worthy dom and am here to learn more about the D/s lifestyle and where this leads me (I am totally new). I have no interest in talking to any men, only females to get their advice, answer questions and gain perspective from their point of view. Any help you would offer?

Yes, it would be to read what Poise wrote....over and over again until it sinks in:

quote:

ORIGINAL: poise

I would also caution you to not assume that being under consideration is some lofty position,
as it often means someone has their hands in quite a few pieces of pie already, and use that
term as a way to keep them all eagerly awaiting his next word.
Remember, he is also under your consideration until you decide to give him authority over you.
He has to earn that right just as much as you do.

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ORIGINAL: searching4mysir

Being "under consideration" is BS. Sorry, but it is true. It is the equivalent of dating in the vanilla world.

No, it's not. It's the equivalent of being a pair of jeans put on hold at the store while shopping at the rest of mall to if there's something that you like better.

Giving the term "lay away" a whole new meaning.

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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/19/2011 8:20:15 AM

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I'm so glad to see you ladies with such giant brains here! I wish you could make all the women as smart as you are!

(yes it IS an official Fuck Grammar Day!)

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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/19/2011 9:56:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: Clickofheels

Come on, people!!!!!!
(Throws some raw meat into the forum to keep the biters at bay before she starts making Her comments!)

The OP's profile clearly says that her account is being monitored by a Dom, so of course she's not going to be into talking to other males.

And her profile doesn't directly say she won't speak to a Domme. It says she would like to talk to other female subs to get some feedback, to ask questions, etc.
Sounds perfectly normal to me. If I wanted to find out what it was like to be a Dominant...why would I go and ask a submissive??

As for "being under consideration," not everyone utilizes that term towards the same end. There are submissives who have indeed been "under my (own) consideration." It simply means I am considering asking them to be my submissive, and that I am not just leading someone on. That they are not being patient for nothing. It's a form of encouragement coming from me, especially considering how selective I am!

Please ease up on the OP.
Thanks,
Clickofheels

No one is talking about who she receives or responds to email from. It's about the concept of posting a question and then rather than continuing the discussion on the boards, picking a poster and continuing the discussion in private email, never returning to post on the thread you started.

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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/19/2011 11:59:35 AM

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Under consideration means whatever the two of you want it to mean. Just like collars, being submissive and everything else.

To help you determine if he really is worthy: how does he treat those he is more powerful than? If the kitchen screws up the order, does he blame the waitress who had nothing to do with it? If you have children or pets, do they like him? Does he offer you anything he wants from you first? IE real name, pic, address, what he does. Does he want you to do things that will negatively impact your life like getting arrested for public nudity or indecency? Does he want dirty emails from the office computer knowing IT monitors it and you can lose your job?

Have you met him yet?

And if you want people to ask questions of, ask on the forums and not in private only. Because it's through interacting on the boards that we come to like each other and want to chat offline.

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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/19/2011 12:01:37 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: chocolateeyes46

I am currently under consideration by a very worthy dom and am here to learn more about the D/s lifestyle and where this leads me (I am totally new). I have no interest in talking to any men, only females to get their advice, answer questions and gain perspective from their point of view. Any help you would offer?

Also.....have you met in real life? If not, you're considering becoming committed to a stranger.

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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/19/2011 12:30:45 PM

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Hello, no need to know my name or any real details of my life... but would someone submissive personally get involved with me and the dynamics/training and personal life of this worthy dominant that is considering me and me, a newbie... while he watches everything I do and has access to all our conversations? I need a submissive mentor and although I am new, I know this man is worthy. Take my word for it.

How many things can I poke a stick at in all of this? Jaded or not...

First of all you walk into a group of strangers as a newbie and annouce that you are new but you know a worthy dominant when you see one. You give no details and then ask to talk to submissive women so that they can advise you, discuss how they feel about things and do so all under the watchful eye of this worthy and most assuradly... confident dominant. So of course if you discuss anything on a personal level... these strangers... and this watchful dominant knows it all. Will he be sitting there while you discuss things? Well, not actually. Its more like he will be watching over you to make sure all things go as he wants them to. It isn't a conversation between three people you get to know... or will it be? Will he be next seeking a sister slave?

There are far too many questions here. So maybe they intend to sort all that out in email. Okay... cool... lets go there. From the generousity of a stranger that just wants to see that newbies have support systems and support this... lifestyle... you enter the lives and relationship of two people. One a newbie and one... a what? A worthy dominant of course. One that watches over that of which he is considering somewhat like a parent of a teen that knows they have been doing bad things and will again or as a protector of an adult.

Strangers... getting involved in a personal manner, which cannot be done in public, with a dominant that is going to be watching over the situation... with one that is clueless and needs to be watched over or protected.

Now that sounds like some drama I want to be a part of and/or... a place I would feel comfortable aligning with, promoting or disputing and getting personally involved in.

While we're at it... I'm really broke... may I ask you a stranger for a loan? (That was me! lol) Some things are just a little odd and a bit too much to ask.

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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/19/2011 12:55:00 PM

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Dear OP,

Being "under consideration" is BS. Sorry, but it is true. It is the equivalent of dating in the vanilla world. There is no commitment on his part, so frankly there shouldn't be on yours either. Test him just as much as he tests you. Don't give in to sub frenzy and just take the first guy that seems to take a liking to you. Watch his feet, not his lips (actions speak louder than words).

You are new to the lifestyle? Pick up a copy of "The Loving Dominant" or "Screw the Roses".

I agree.

'Under consideration' [sic] is all too often a scam to get women out of circulation as it were and stashed for that rare bootycall, as one fellow put it. He told me that he knew of a 'dom' who had 6 women all 'under consideration.' They waited at home alone for that phone call for dinner and a blow job. Then next day, on to the next dinner and...

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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/19/2011 2:22:18 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

Hello, no need to know my name or any real details of my life... but would someone submissive personally get involved with me and the dynamics/training and personal life of this worthy dominant that is considering me and me, a newbie... while he watches everything I do and has access to all our conversations? I need a submissive mentor and although I am new, I know this man is worthy. Take my word for it.

How many things can I poke a stick at in all of this? Jaded or not...

First of all you walk into a group of strangers as a newbie and annouce that you are new but you know a worthy dominant when you see one. You give no details and then ask to talk to submissive women so that they can advise you, discuss how they feel about things and do so all under the watchful eye of this worthy and most assuradly... confident dominant. So of course if you discuss anything on a personal level... these strangers... and this watchful dominant knows it all. Will he be sitting there while you discuss things? Well, not actually. Its more like he will be watching over you to make sure all things go as he wants them to. It isn't a conversation between three people you get to know... or will it be? Will he be next seeking a sister slave?

There are far too many questions here. So maybe they intend to sort all that out in email. Okay... cool... lets go there. From the generousity of a stranger that just wants to see that newbies have support systems and support this... lifestyle... you enter the lives and relationship of two people. One a newbie and one... a what? A worthy dominant of course. One that watches over that of which he is considering somewhat like a parent of a teen that knows they have been doing bad things and will again or as a protector of an adult.

Strangers... getting involved in a personal manner, which cannot be done in public, with a dominant that is going to be watching over the situation... with one that is clueless and needs to be watched over or protected.

Now that sounds like some drama I want to be a part of and/or... a place I would feel comfortable aligning with, promoting or disputing and getting personally involved in.

While we're at it... I'm really broke... may I ask you a stranger for a loan? (That was me! lol) Some things are just a little odd and a bit too much to ask.

Let's also add that this "worthy dominant" sent his novice submissive to a bunch of strangers to learn about D/s rather than doing it himself.

I find the "worthy" thing funny. She knows nothing about having a D/s relationship and I'm willing to bet that they've never met face to face...but she KNOWS he's worthy. How often do we see these women come back crying how they were used and taken advantage of?

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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/19/2011 2:36:42 PM

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Your statement of being currently under consideration by a worthy Dom but being new is a contradicting statement. How would you know that hes a worthy dom if you are new and don't know about D/s? Your statement about being under consideration is ambiguous. You asking for women's help for you to gain perspective from their point of view is a moot question, being that no one knows what it is the hell that your doing.

Your whole post is completely flawed.

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ORIGINAL: chocolate eyes e46

I am currently under consideration by a very worthy dom and am here to learn more about the D/s lifestyle and where this leads me (I am totally new). I have no interest in talking to any men, only females to get their advice, answer questions and gain perspective from their point of view. Any help you would offer?

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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/19/2011 2:37:14 PM

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I'm so glad to see you ladies with such giant brains here! I wish you could make all the women as smart as you are!

Well, I'm not. It makes things tougher for men when women can see through us!

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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/19/2011 2:51:31 PM

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Bottom line... clueless to the games some people play, a sucker is born every day and naivety is supposed to be a safe place to play love games. There is no excuse for being ignorant in your own life and before you give up adult rights to someone, you really ought to be an adult... a wise one... and know a worthy partner... no matter what he says or claims to be.

The dominant isn't a dominant... is playing what looks like an online, diminant game to prove his ego has a leg to stand on and has found someone naive enough to fall for it and try to convince others of it and include them.

Bottom line... I am either one fucking bitch or have seen this shit before. And yes... Osidegirl is right... they tend to come crying after they didn't listen to those they came to listen to, because they were caught up in the fantasy of a fated love.

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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/19/2011 3:42:32 PM

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chocolateeyes46 - I am a sexually submissive female. Feel free to ask me questions.

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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/19/2011 4:03:07 PM

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We can do that regardless

@OP: Your post is vague and lacks any kind of.. well.. anything. If your intention was to get a bunch of us to respond so that you could ask us in IMs/emails then you should just say that outright rather then act as if you want us to seriously try to answer some subtle clue in your post.

Edit: Why does the 'at' symbol turn into four astrix? @

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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/19/2011 4:10:48 PM

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Probably to prevent email addresses from being shown here.

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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/19/2011 4:14:04 PM

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I'm so glad to see you ladies with such giant brains here! I wish you could make all the women as smart as you are!

Well, I'm not. It makes things tougher for men when women can see through us!

Hahaha! DarkSteven, funny boy!

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RE: new sub female looking for help - 12/19/2011 10:13:36 PM

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My 100% honest advice? Ask on a different site, as you can see from the responses you have received so far, you won't actually get much in the way of useful advice from anybody here. This is not the place for somebody who actually wants to learn.

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