RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists

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SilverBoat -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 9:26:47 AM)
I haven't fiddled around much with the Friends/Favorites/Admirers features at this site. (And just now, in poking around with those, discovered that I'd acquired an Admirer over a year ago and never dropped her a note. Oops., I usually try to do that just to be polite.) Most of the local kink community seems to be more active over at FL, so that's been better for staying in touch with people, events, etc. Having the Favs/Adms labels on the bookmarks does seem a little awkward, though I can see why the site would want users to be aware that people had viewed, tagged to review, etc. And there have been a few times that people perved My profile, but closed or hid their profiles soon afterwards. I've never checked to see if the latter takes them off the Favs list. Oh, well, might experiment with that later. It also looks like people who perv a profile can see the Friends, but not the Favs or Adms. SB

LadyHibiscus -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 9:29:06 AM)
I always checked who's viewed me, too, and it's almost always total strangers from BFE. It's the internet! We have profiles so that folks will LOOK at them!

SilverBoat -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 9:39:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus I use the "admire" feature for the ones I talk to the most. That's how I've used the Fav/Adm lists, and one passed-on former partner is still there. It's nice, wistful even, to see the name every so often, the grieving cycle seems mostly done. I've mixed feelings about asking CM close her account. Maybe it's best as-is ... SB

Clickofheels -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 9:44:41 AM)
I am going to clarify ONE LAST TIME!!! I believe people are being presumptuous when they add me to their favorites list BECAUSE THEY HAVE NOT ASKED ME IF I WOULD MIND IF THEY DID! I think it makes NO LOGICAL SENSE to add some one to your "favorites list" when you have never spoken with them before and you are ear-marking them to watch. Littlewonder said it perfectly... "why someone wants to bookmark me is beyond me." I NEVER SAID profiles are presumptuous and rude. I said SOME PEOPLE ARE, in my opinion. I am NOT being deep nor psychotic. I am merely stating MY FEELING on the actions and why it bugs me. To those who didn't think I worded the beginning of my thread "correctly," all you had to do was explain the how/why reason behind a "favorites list" and tell me not to let it bother me. Comments like "seriously????" and "chill" were hardly what I expected...especially given their origin. And Stella? My day will improve when I stop returning to this post of mine, and realize I needed to dissect and analyze everything before posting.

LaTigresse -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 9:50:47 AM)
Christ on a fucking stick......... It's a god damned message board. No reason to get your panties wadded. In case you had not previously realized.......when you create a thread you have zero control over what others type in response. Kinda like you have zero control over who 'favourites' you. Why you are getting so excited over either, is beyond me. Trust me when I say, the only one that is showing any emotional investment in this thread is you. So what it didn't go as planned. So what people don't agree with you. So what you don't like how you think people are perceiving your posts or visa versa.... It's just pixels on your computer screen. It's not that big a deal.

littlewonder -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 9:51:18 AM)
while I don't understand why someone would want to bookmark me, it doesn't bother me either. I just shrug and laugh. Why are you letting it bother you? If you don't want others to view your profile then hide it.

stellauk -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 9:54:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Clickofheels And Stella? My day will improve when I stop returning to this post of mine, and realize I needed to dissect and analyze everything before posting. Sending positive vibes and warm wishes.

Fornica -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 9:54:32 AM)
fr I've never seen someone get into such a dither whilst proclaiming that they aren't in a dither..lol

DesFIP -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 9:54:33 AM)
Hell if it's wrong to have a favorite profiles list, then it's equally wrong for you to drive down certain streets over the holidays to admire the lights on a house. After all, how incredibly rude and presumptuous of you to look at their decorations since you didn't ring their bell, introduce yourself and ask permission to admire their reindeer collection. OP, get over yourself.

mnottertail -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 9:58:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Clickofheels I am going to clarify ONE LAST TIME!!! I believe people are being presumptuous when they add me to their favorites list BECAUSE THEY HAVE NOT ASKED ME IF I WOULD MIND IF THEY DID! I think it makes NO LOGICAL SENSE to add some one to your "favorites list" when you have never spoken with them before and you are ear-marking them to watch. Littlewonder said it perfectly... "why someone wants to bookmark me is beyond me." I NEVER SAID profiles are presumptuous and rude. I said SOME PEOPLE ARE, in my opinion. I am NOT being deep nor psychotic. I am merely stating MY FEELING on the actions and why it bugs me. To those who didn't think I worded the beginning of my thread "correctly," all you had to do was explain the how/why reason behind a "favorites list" and tell me not to let it bother me. Comments like "seriously????" and "chill" were hardly what I expected...especially given their origin. And Stella? My day will improve when I stop returning to this post of mine, and realize I needed to dissect and analyze everything before posting. Two things, I might put you on a favorites list, cuz I like the way your tits hang, and look at the pictures with morning coffee. Secondly, you walk down the street, and even if you are an ugly girl, walking by a man, he is going to turn around and look at your ass with a rather velleitistic thought of would I stuff my dick off in there? You're a woman, I am a man...I am going to stare you dead in the tits and have thoughts while you are blabbering on whatever the fuck you women blabber on about. You want people to ask your permission for that and other various and sundry things? I think not. There are some things you just don't want to know. There be monsters there.

LaTigresse -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 10:03:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail You want people to ask your permission for that and other various and sundry things? I think not. There are some things you just don't want to know. There be monsters there. Ron.........and THIS is why I stalk your posts. Best laugh, because of the truth of it, I've had in days! Thank you!

barelynangel -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 10:06:31 AM)
There is a solution -- HIDE your profile, then you won't have to be all indignant when people put you on a favorites list lol. But i guess that wouldn't be convenient because you don't mind 100s of people looking at your profile on a website, you just don't want people to bookmark it so its easier to look at -- never mind you have no clue WHY people are adding you to their admirers list. Its a website, tons of men are oggling your profile, many you may not even know about as people can view your profile without clicking on it and triggering the view concept. Do you feel the eyes watching you? I know there is a song out there. angel

LadyHibiscus -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 10:07:58 AM)
I want to know all of Ron's bad thoughts.

Clickofheels -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 10:12:04 AM)
(LMAO) Well mnottertail, I'm afraid the only pic I offer is a sample of my artwork. And no, I don't expect men to ask permission to stare at me. I know they aren't staring due to any ugliness! (laughs) Thanks for your comments! (Smiles)

MissImmortalPain -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 10:35:03 AM)
I don't do the favorite list thing. As for friends...the only people listed here as friends are people I know irl. When I get requests from people that I have never spoken to before I point out that it would be nice if they actually sent me a msg before asking. Now someone tell me why I just got a msg of thanks from someone that l was one of his admirers? I don't admire anyone enough to poke that button hahahaha.

ModTwentyOne -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 10:43:21 AM)
On the other side is a HELP button. Clicking the HELP button finds this: What are admirers? Admirers are simply other users who have added you to their favorites list (by clicking on the 'Add User to Favorites' button). Similarly, whenever you add another user to your favorites list, you will show up on their admirers list. One exception is that you will not see users on your admirers list whom you have blocked. What's the difference between favorites and friends? Favorites are like bookmarks. They are profiles which you find interesting and would like to keep track of for future reference. Friends are people who have agreed to publicly associate with you by appearing on your full profile page. Aside from both beginning with the letter "F", friends and favorites are completely unrelated features.

MissImmortalPain -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 10:48:21 AM)
But I didn't favorite him. I have never even viewed his profile. I am just going to assume he is lieing and trying to make the site look at if it doesnt work....as that was his excuse for me showing up when he too knows that I never viewed/added him.

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 10:55:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Clickofheels My name seems to be showing up on various "Favorites" / "Friends" lists from time-to-time... usually without my being asked first. And 99.9% of the time, they are people I've never even spoken to. I find this incredibly presumptuous and RUDE!! "Friends" are self-explanatory, but what is the purpose behind "Favorites?" (Smiles) Thanks for taking the time to broaden my horizons about this feature. Ms Click quote: ORIGINAL: Clickofheels I am going to clarify ONE LAST TIME!!! I believe people are being presumptuous when they add me to their favorites list BECAUSE THEY HAVE NOT ASKED ME IF I WOULD MIND IF THEY DID! I think it makes NO LOGICAL SENSE to add some one to your "favorites list" when you have never spoken with them before and you are ear-marking them to watch. Littlewonder said it perfectly... "why someone wants to bookmark me is beyond me." Someone shows up on your Admirers page when they add you to their Favorites, something you have NO control over. On the other hand, for someone to show up on your Friends list, you have to approve them first. If you don't want them as a friend, reject their offer. This you DO have control over. To think that someone has to ask you first before adding you to their favorites lists is, well, ridiculous. Just be glad that someone likes you that much. You need to stop being so serious. A person would think you have, ahem, control issues or something. Just because we are Dommes does NOT mean we can control EVERYONE. Your own profile says "each of us is responsible for our own happiness and well being," so why not start now? NBMG

tj444 -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 11:38:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Clickofheels I am going to clarify ONE LAST TIME!!! I believe people are being presumptuous when they add me to their favorites list BECAUSE THEY HAVE NOT ASKED ME IF I WOULD MIND IF THEY DID! I think it makes NO LOGICAL SENSE to add some one to your "favorites list" when you have never spoken with them before and you are ear-marking them to watch. Littlewonder said it perfectly... "why someone wants to bookmark me is beyond me." I NEVER SAID profiles are presumptuous and rude. I said SOME PEOPLE ARE, in my opinion. I am NOT being deep nor psychotic. I am merely stating MY FEELING on the actions and why it bugs me. To those who didn't think I worded the beginning of my thread "correctly," all you had to do was explain the how/why reason behind a "favorites list" and tell me not to let it bother me. Comments like "seriously????" and "chill" were hardly what I expected...especially given their origin. And Stella? My day will improve when I stop returning to this post of mine, and realize I needed to dissect and analyze everything before posting. Ummmm... you know, if you really dont like someone having put you on their fav list then just view their profile and block them.. they are instantly removed from your admirers page. You would need to do that with each person, of course, so it takes a little effort (not much imo).. But if it really bothers you that you are on some or all of their lists you can do something about it.. I have done that in the past the odd time myself..

tj444 -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 11:41:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: NiceButMeanGirl Someone shows up on your Admirers page when they add you to their Favorites, something you have NO control over. NBMG thats not true, actually... you can view the admirers profile and then block them.. they are instantly deleted from your admirers page.. so it is also something you have control over, just as accepting or rejecting a friend request..

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