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Duskypearls -> RE: "Favorites" and "Friends" Lists (12/29/2011 4:27:23 PM)
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Clicka, with the intent of heading off at the pass, people who wish me to befriend them willy nilly, somewhere in the bottom of my profile, I made a clear statement that I do not accept friend requests without having first having had multiple communications with someone, and have developed some kind of bond with them. For while it may be meant to be flattering, I find it somewhat presumptious, and an overstepping of social boundaries. Then, if I think I want someone as a friend, I'll usually PM them asking their permission first. Since I put that in my profile, I have not had any unsolicited friend requests. Perhaps that might be of use to you.
As for the admirers thing, being out of my control, I don't get upset. I consider there are many reasons someone might do this. Maybe they want to contact me at a later time, or think I'm ugly and silly looking, and want to show their friends, or they want to borrow something I've written so they "mark" me for further reference. Sometimes I'll fav someone if I like something they've written in their profile, or on the message board, something of which I would like to be able to refer back to at a later time.
I'm somewhat stimuli sensitive, and sometimes the facial pic of a person I don't know appearing out of nowhere feels almost invasive, like they're looking in my window without permission. Sort of like the Peeping Tom effect. I tend to make it a point not to look at any admirers unless I'm in a searching mode.
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