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FrostedFlake -> RE: Courting a male submissive (1/5/2012 5:42:11 AM)
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Neat question, Lockit. Thanks for it.
Cutting away the frilly stuff to expose the throbbing core... let me try that again.
Getting to the root... let me try that again.
Basicly... I think I made it this time... men and women are not as different as it may seem. If a lady receives a note simply stating she was being thought of by her recently acquired boyfriend then she knows that he wanted to be sure she knew he was thinking of her. Reverse the gender and the effect is much the same. For some reason a lady tends to appreciate flowers with such a note (a tough thing to do when using email), but otherwise, things work much the same. Except that men do not receive such notes. Unless some brilliant woman decides to send one, contrary to social convention. I feel certain that your typical Sub would respond to such a missive with gratitude.
Regarding getting to square one, that is also not so difficult for the lady willing to take the lead. Elevator eyes might offend a lady, but it is not going to offend a man. On the contrary, it will take him out of his comfort zone. This is usually easily detected. It takes a lot of practice to maintain ones poise. Such practice is difficult to come by. If you think he looks good and he finds out about it, he will be pleased. Which is exactly why this so very seldom happens. It seems the social programming states as if fact that turning a mans head swells it. The online equivalent differs only slightly.
I don't know that buying things for a man is something he necessarily would appreciate immediatly or automatically, because it is so unusual. But it too conveys the notion of care that is the vital center of a budding romance. Once the novelty wears off, he is likely to take a more appreciative view. It is also a great way to get him to dress the way you want. Upon review, you said that, Lockit. So I will say I agree with that. I will compare buying things to inviting to your place for dinner. There is really no comparison, dinner is a winner.
A man, even if, perhaps especially if, he is a sub, wants to be cared about. Dim indeed is the fellow who doesn't know the difference. There is a lot of frilly stuff surrounding that, but it only looks complicated. In truth, it is simple.
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