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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/6/2012 7:24:51 AM

Kana

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As far as the anal.

The thing about anal is, I have even known vanilla women who derived pleasure from it swear to me it is awesome.
But from what I have experienced with it, and it was in a very gentle manner with someone who wanted to try to ease me into it slowly and gently, I still cringed and hated the whole sensation of it. I equate the sensation of feeling that to the terrifying feeling of spiders crawling all over me. I think I have the same problem with anal, as some women who constantly feel pain with penetration, psychological, I am just uncomfortable with anal entry.

Yeah, but see, I'm a sadist-what you just wrote would turn me on, make me want to do it more rather than less.
Sometimes it's about the taking. He wants, she gives, her tender delicacies notwithstanding.
And damnit, slavery should be uncomfortable. I ain't gots whole lots of sympathy for you there.

And, not to be a complete dick, there are ways to slowly ease a gal into anal as opposed to just ramming those eleven inches on in. You know, start with a finger, the pinkie. Then slowly widen, masturbating her, giving her orgasms until the mind starts to blur anal penetration and pleasure. Add fingers over a period of time. Then move on to small probes, didoes, larger plugs etc...slowly widening and massaging the muscle as you go...

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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/6/2012 7:36:52 AM

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Some dominants won't be interested in someone with those limits, but many will. It totally depends on the person.

Here's the thing, something that I wish someone had pounded into my head when I first started getting into this stuff and was a little clueless: Doms are regular people too. They're all different, and have different wants and needs and kinks and motivations, just like everyone else. They're not all hardcore sadists that want everyone to fuck their sub, like in porn. Some of them like extreme pain and/or hardcore control, and some of them want a girlfriend they can handcuff and spank and call a slut in the bedroom, and all sorts inbetween. And almost all the Doms I've met care about their partners and want them to be happy and satisfied. So go to munches, meet some real people, use your common sense, and don't worry so much. There's someone for everyone out there.

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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/6/2012 7:39:26 AM

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and as always, the limits you have today are not the limits you have tomorrow.

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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/6/2012 7:44:55 AM

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ORIGINAL: Kana

And damnit, slavery should be uncomfortable. I ain't gots whole lots of sympathy for you there.

I've always said that submission isn't submission if it's all easy and stuff you like. Submission is when you get to the stuff that's hard and you don't like.

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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/6/2012 8:21:48 AM

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Also, leaving somebody tied up at home alone for 8 hours is dangerous and stupid and anybody that would seriously want to do that to you isn't somebody you should be with anyway.

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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/6/2012 8:27:14 AM

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depends on how and where you're bound

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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/6/2012 8:27:41 AM

graceadieu

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and as always, the limits you have today are not the limits you have tomorrow.

That's true. Over time your limits may change, as you become more comfortable with some things and find other things that turn out to be more of a problem than you were expecting. And it depends on the other person too. You may be willing to do some things with one person that you wouldn't do with another.

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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/6/2012 8:45:05 AM

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I find those limits to be quite reasonable. My own preference is a sub who enjoys anal but then anal has only recently become accepted in the mainstream. My own list of limits as a Master include many of those things. However, I do not necessarily find Master and Sadist to be synonymous.

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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/6/2012 11:09:22 AM

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I think you're overthinking the pictures. You need to remember that it would be him that would have the pictures.

If he got burgled. The burglars wouldn't know who was in the pics.

If he died. It would be his family and friends clearing his house. Not yours

I worry about family coming across similar things. I keep any "private" photo's on my laptop which is password protected. Since no one has the password, they wouldn't be likely to come across them.

Regarding anal and fisting. If you had a Dom you trusted to not harm you, you would work through those together, if and when you felt secure enough. You'll be amazed at the things you would not only do, but crave, for the right Dom. It all takes time, trust and lots of communication.

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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/6/2012 11:20:34 AM

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Slavery only should be unpleasant if you are enslaved by a sadist. If the owner isn't a sadist, and you have a huge amount of commonality and compatibility, then it usually won't be very unpleasant.

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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/6/2012 11:59:19 AM

Marc2b

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The only way I could answer this is by first answering them myself:

No anal or anal play or anything with anal
Not actually a problem with me. The occasional joke aside, I've never been really interested in anal. It is not that I dislike anal sex it's just that my thinking is "why play in the sewer system when the amusment park is right next door?"

No public display
Not a problem. When I go out I want to be seen by people as Mister Joe Average. I'm not into group play. I like to keep my private life and my public life seperate (and I'm not even a Congressman!). My gal pal is even more adamant about this and has a strict "my private life stays out of the public sphere" policy. Nothing that could jepordize that is allowed.

No nude pictures
A little disappointing but I can live with it. I do live with it under the same "out of the public sphere" policy noted above. It doesn't bother me because I do get to see the real thing nude, after all.

No third parties involved in plays
Not a problem for the same reasons above. We like it one on one.

No breaking skin or drawing blood
Also not a problem. Both of us enjoy being on the opposite sides of a good welt but neither is into blood letting.

No making me eat feces or urine

EEEEWWWWWWWW!!!!!!!
(no problems here)

No making me eat like an animal, from a dog dish or something
This one I do enjoy and would have a problem with if it were an issue for us. It is not something I do constantly but hey, it is a nice way of reminding a bad girl of her place now and then. I could live without it though.

No tying me up for hours and leaving me be
It depends on what you mean by "leaving me be." I would certainly never leave here unattended (ie out of ear shot) while bound. But long term bondage is something I certainly enjoy although I.m more into chains than rope.

No fisting
No problem. I like her holes the size they currently are... I've no desire to expand them.

Looking things over I see that I would have to make very little adjustment to accomadate these limits. I'm nobody special and since people are more alike than different I predict that there is indeed someone out there who can fulfill your needs. Finding them is a different matter. Stay persitant and don't get discouraged if you don't find them right away.

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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/6/2012 12:39:33 PM

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of course there is, although Dom's in BDSM are normally pretty "perverted", we also have a responsibility to respect the wishes of our subs. I have a real good friend who doesn't have sex at all with his sub, all they do is meet and he spanks her a bit, I'd personally want a bit more than a little spanking, but it's what they are both content with and have agreed on.

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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/6/2012 1:57:39 PM

Focus50

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ORIGINAL: jaslyn82

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Weeeeeeeeell, yeah....., but are you some sort of celebrity? Otherwise, nude pics aren't exactly a rare commodity to obtain.

Whether I am alive or dead..., my family will be devastated if they ever see any form of nude pictures. And what if work colleagues or vanilla friends ever see it. I would just die. Not strong enough to deal with such a reality if it ever happens.

Well you say that, but you still don't know your own family as well as you think - most esp the children of their parents. Parents have the investment and life experience to pick up on their kid's cues and clues but it rarely works the other way - till after the funeral.... *Everyone* has their own intimate secrets.

Ok, of course you (and most of us) don't want private pics or general personal details going public. But if the worst did happen, the last thing you should do is validate your "shame" by "just dying", presumably of embarrassment. Then the public relations ripple becomes a tsunami....

None of us know how truly strong we are until we have to deal with serious situations. Life thrives in the most forbidding of circumstances - they make documentaries of it. And all life includes risks; I can't believe you just wanna be wrapped in cotton wool (and not in some sorta good bondage way) and let life with all its inherent risks just pass you by. Hell, you found CM - AND you're participating on an open discussion board...!

For what it's worth, I generally wouldn't have problems with your limit list, and with none of the physical limits listed. And I think the general shy persona you've shown here is attractive and desirable to an old fashioned Dom who likes women who present as soft and girly. Such women are absolutely the best for making do what they're told. Socially engineered awkward reluctance is *hot*...! ;)

Focus.

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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/7/2012 12:40:06 AM

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

and as always, the limits you have today are not the limits you have tomorrow.

always

I have never encountered someone whose limits didn't change over time (and vary according to partners).

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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/9/2012 4:42:14 PM

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Whether I am alive or dead..., my family will be devastated if they ever see any form of nude pictures. And what if work colleagues or vanilla friends ever see it. I would just die. Not strong enough to deal with such a reality if it ever happens.

The Dom from your other thread sounds somewhat exhibitionistic. Given how you feel and your limits, I don't see why you are even considering him. Plenty of fish in the sea.

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1st my slut will have a full bush on her

2nd my slut must swallow her master

3rd ass fucking, my slut will be fucked in the ass whenever master wants to

4, masters property will be shown off where ever and whenever master wants too

5th slut will never do anything behind her masters back

6th other couples will be brought into play with master and his slut

7th masters slut will compete against other subs for masters attention .

8th slut will sing a bum tit tit song every night entering the house and ask master if he would like to sick his thumb up sluts bum.

9th photos will be taken of my slut where ever i want in anyway i want

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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/10/2012 1:39:58 AM

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Am sure there is a conservative Dominant who is agoraphobic, religiously conservative, cameraless, anti social sexually, monogamous, missionary position only type of guy that lives in a padded room without any sharp objects that could draw blood. But who would want him???

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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/10/2012 5:56:17 AM

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This is a very small list(like others say, a sadist can find lots of stuff to do to you), and it is already a red for me. Not compatible.

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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/10/2012 5:26:41 PM

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i think our limits are extremely reasonable and you should never ever ever ever allow nude or semi-nude pictures to be taken, that's not safe in any way at any time. just as a hint" these people are usually emotionally abusive first and on the first date -- they dont respect your opinions, they'll call you names like "hon," etc before even knowing you, they'lll fight you to the death to insist on opeing the door for you... these are all bad signs. you can never trust someone like that, so dont even worry about the sex stuff yet.

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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/10/2012 5:29:04 PM

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i think our limits are extremely reasonable and you should never ever ever ever allow nude or semi-nude pictures to be taken, that's not safe in any way at any time. just as a hint"

Says the person with titties on their profile pic.............

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RE: Can any dom possibly be content with these limits? - 1/10/2012 5:33:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: Hillwilliam

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ORIGINAL: nipples4u

i think our limits are extremely reasonable and you should never ever ever ever allow nude or semi-nude pictures to be taken, that's not safe in any way at any time. just as a hint"

Says the person with titties on their profile pic.............

And a username like that too!

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