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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Have you really not been here that long? The threads whining about fakes and scammers are a weekly affair.

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ORIGINAL: stellauk

You know I read threads like this and I'm somewhat surprised I haven't seen threads on security questions. I wouldn't be at all surprised.

I don't have problems with people being fake, lying to me, trying to deceive me, scam me or whatever. Ask me to go on webcam and I'll tell you to go get knotted.

Seriously.

Maybe I'm a dinosaur, or old fashioned, but my techniques haven't changed that much since the 1980's when there weren't any webcams, cellphones, or the Internet.

I use my noggin, give people the benefit of the doubt, take people at face value, and if it doesn't work out I don't throw an almighty wobbly like an adult three year old - I just deal with it.

Maybe the problem isn't all the liars and the fakes, maybe the problem is people taking themselves too damn seriously and expecting everything on demand as if it's there on a Burger King menu.

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ORIGINAL: stellauk
I use my noggin, give people the benefit of the doubt, take people at face value, and if it doesn't work out I don't throw an almighty wobbly like an adult three year old - I just deal with it.

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Imo the problem is not whether someone is fake or not, it's making someone up in your
head and expecting that when/if you meet them.

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ORIGINAL: poise


And lastly, I really really like the serious look in Michaels picture.

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ORIGINAL: lizi

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ORIGINAL: poise


And lastly, I really really like the serious look in Michaels picture.

Yeah, me too. It makes me kind of quivery and like I want to sigh.
Sigh.

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ORIGINAL: seababy
Yep its hot.
Did your mail increase after posting that pic Michael?

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ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr




Again, you ladies are making me squirm.

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Imo the problem is not whether someone is fake or not, it's making someone up in your
head and expecting that when/if you meet them.

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ORIGINAL: NuevaVida

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Imo the problem is not whether someone is fake or not, it's making someone up in your
head and expecting that when/if you meet them.

With the Mister & I, there was none of that verification stuff.  We CMailed a bit, then we talked on the phone for a bit, then he sent a picture, then I sent a picture, then we met for dinner, and then we met for dinner again.  By then two months had gone by and we had formed an obvious connection with each other, and here we are almost 3 years later. 

Because of what we had both experienced in the past, we were both acutely aware that we might be receiving lies from the other, and we were both a bit guarded at first.  But over time, simply spending time together - he showed me who he was and I showed him who I was, and at some point we needed to both decide to trust the other person.

There was no exchanging of drivers license numbers or SSN, or holding up newspapers or anything of the like, although he did give me his business card at our first dinner together.  He asked for mine and I didn't have one, but I gave him my work email and number, and he emailed me there a couple of days later to say hello - probably as a confirmation.

One thing he did do before we met in person, was to give me his home address and tell me to send him a post card with anything I wanted written on it, presumably to give me confidence that he did, in fact, live alone. He also wanted me to pick a night at random and call him in the middle of the night.  I laughed, but kind of liked the concept.  I invited him to do the same, but he said he felt no need.

We didn't come at each other suspiciously, though. I think it may have changed our course if we did.

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ORIGINAL: Dysonskeep

There are a few simple things one can do to check the sincerity of a potential slave/sub. After some initial period, if someone is not willing to verify that they are vaguely who they purport to be, for example traits like their sex, age, weight, by some anonymous means such as a voice chat, or going on cam clothed while hiding their face (again they don’t have to worry about being identified this way), then more than likely they are not who they say they are. Another simple means is to have them take a photo while holding a sheet with your name on it, or some other message you tell them. If they say that they don’t have a cam or mic or a digital camera (which is in almost every cell phone), then red flags should go off.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: Dysonskeep

There are a few simple things one can do to check the sincerity of a potential slave/sub. After some initial period, if someone is not willing to verify that they are vaguely who they purport to be, for example traits like their sex, age, weight, by some anonymous means such as a voice chat, or going on cam clothed while hiding their face (again they don’t have to worry about being identified this way), then more than likely they are not who they say they are. Another simple means is to have them take a photo while holding a sheet with your name on it, or some other message you tell them. If they say that they don’t have a cam or mic or a digital camera (which is in almost every cell phone), then red flags should go off.

Honestly, if someone expects me to prove I'm me....then red flags go off. Personally, I'd tell ya to fuck off just like I told all the other people that think I should have to prove I'm genuine.