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ORIGINAL: Kana

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ORIGINAL: MrRodgers

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ORIGINAL: SorceressJ

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ORIGINAL: TheKingofHell
.. if a Dominate male or female or transgendered dominate, etc. etc..

*sigh*
For the thousand and forty-first time (at least): "dominate" is a verb, it's something a person does, whereas "dominant" is a noun, it's something a person is.

Actually...dominant is an adjective.

Oh nonono,
You miss one of the finer, and least understood, definitions of the word:-)

A Dominate is one of those worthy rare few who have transcended, who have superseded Dom-dom and actualized the word until they have become the ideal and their very life and essence has become dominant by virtue of their simply being.

They live their life in an eternal haze of Dominate, woman falling madly in supplication to their knees at His passing, leaving quivering legs, moist tacos and languid eyes in his wake.

It's all very Zenesque.

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I'm not a Domme but hey if someone approached me and said they wanted to pay for all my bills without any kind of reciprocation from me, I would probably seriously think about it if it was something that they really, truly wanted and they thought long and hard about it and they could afford to do so.

I'm ok with findommes as long as everyone understands, has really seriously thought about it and everyone agrees.

Hell, someone to take care of me without me having to do a damn thing?? Who would turn that down??

<thinks about checking out the sugardaddy websites>

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ORIGINAL: TheKingofHell

Okay I have not been on this site long but I know that financial tributes and domination seem to be of common practice. I kinda think it can be more of an act of submission than dominance. Now I have been on a lot of femdom(I'm not saying it's only Female Doms doing this nor am I singling them out) sites and something struck me as odd I have seen Pro's that want slaves to literally pay for everything in their lives. From small payments in the mail to paying for their bills and rent. I then realized 'Aren't they allowing themselves to become dependent on their subs/slaves?'

Which got me thinking if a Dominate male or female or transgendered dominate allowed their entire finances to be at the mercy of a complete stranger wouldn't they be putting themselves at that person's mercy? I mean look at this way your doing fine then you piss off a sub/slave that pays your bills and rent and because you have no other sub/slave that can pay this kind of money and you don't have any other source of income or money stashed away(even if you did it only be temporary fix) you have to either take this sub/slave back and adhere to their demands(like they wont have any especially if you pissed them off), find a job (in this economy good luck with that) or move back in with mom and dad.

So in short if not done responsibly can it be a form of submission being dependent on the money of subs/slaves be an act of submission?

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i think your original post just shows how much you do not know about financial domination

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ORIGINAL: fetisheden

being a (successful)findom is DEFINITELY not submissive at all. i do not beg for anything. my time = your money always. having my slaves pay my rent, buy my groceries, buy my clothes takes a burden off my back so that i can live the life that i want


i think your original post just shows how much you do not know about financial domination...

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ORIGINAL: TheKingofHell

Okay I have not been on this site long but I know that financial tributes and domination seem to be of common practice. I kinda think it can be more of an act of submission than dominance. Now I have been on a lot of femdom(I'm not saying it's only Female Doms doing this nor am I singling them out) sites and something struck me as odd I have seen Pro's that want slaves to literally pay for everything in their lives. From small payments in the mail to paying for their bills and rent. I then realized 'Aren't they allowing themselves to become dependent on their subs/slaves?'

Which got me thinking if a Dominate male or female or transgendered dominate allowed their entire finances to be at the mercy of a complete stranger wouldn't they be putting themselves at that person's mercy? I mean look at this way your doing fine then you piss off a sub/slave that pays your bills and rent and because you have no other sub/slave that can pay this kind of money and you don't have any other source of income or money stashed away(even if you did it only be temporary fix) you have to either take this sub/slave back and adhere to their demands(like they wont have any especially if you pissed them off), find a job (in this economy good luck with that) or move back in with mom and dad.

So in short if not done responsibly can it be a form of submission being dependent on the money of subs/slaves be an act of submission?

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ORIGINAL: SexyThoughts

You've just proved his point. You may not be begging for money. But the life you want is funded by other peoples money. If they decide to switch their money to another dom, your life will change more than theirs.

They can top from bottom, with a more secure base, than you can top from the top.

Remember the other Golden rule: They who have thegold make the rules.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Montgomery_Bus_Boycott

Aristocratic 1% Dommes seem to play by different rules than hourly wage-slave Dommes

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ORIGINAL: fetisheden

being a (successful)findom is DEFINITELY not submissive at all. i do not beg for anything. my time = your money always. having my slaves pay my rent, buy my groceries, buy my clothes takes a burden off my back so that i can live the life that i want


i think your original post just shows how much you do not know about financial domination...

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ORIGINAL: TheKingofHell

Okay I have not been on this site long but I know that financial tributes and domination seem to be of common practice. I kinda think it can be more of an act of submission than dominance. Now I have been on a lot of femdom(I'm not saying it's only Female Doms doing this nor am I singling them out) sites and something struck me as odd I have seen Pro's that want slaves to literally pay for everything in their lives. From small payments in the mail to paying for their bills and rent. I then realized 'Aren't they allowing themselves to become dependent on their subs/slaves?'

Which got me thinking if a Dominate male or female or transgendered dominate allowed their entire finances to be at the mercy of a complete stranger wouldn't they be putting themselves at that person's mercy? I mean look at this way your doing fine then you piss off a sub/slave that pays your bills and rent and because you have no other sub/slave that can pay this kind of money and you don't have any other source of income or money stashed away(even if you did it only be temporary fix) you have to either take this sub/slave back and adhere to their demands(like they wont have any especially if you pissed them off), find a job (in this economy good luck with that) or move back in with mom and dad.

So in short if not done responsibly can it be a form of submission being dependent on the money of subs/slaves be an act of submission?

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ORIGINAL: fetisheden
i have never had a real job. never had to

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ORIGINAL: SexyThoughts

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ORIGINAL: fetisheden
i have never had a real job. never had to

Oh well then, I wish you luck.

May you still be doing, what you're doing now, when you're 46

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Me having a moment of rage would be something to see being as I've never been that way in my entire life lol but if someone one day replaced my brain and I had one, I'd apologize but then again if I had someone else's brain, maybe I wouldn't...I dunno.

As for your "domme", she doesn't sound like a domme but a spoiled child and/or someone who needs some serious therapy and you probably do too for staying with her.

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Me having a moment of rage would be something to see being as I've never been that way in my entire life lol but if someone one day replaced my brain and I had one, I'd apologize but then again if I had someone else's brain, maybe I wouldn't...I dunno.

As for your "domme", she doesn't sound like a domme but a spoiled child and/or someone who needs some serious therapy and you probably do too for staying with her.

She's pretty much just spoiled. As for why I stay with her it's not that I don't realize she's a brat(mind you she does have her nice moments) it's just that you learn to put up with it after sharing a bedroom with her for some 18 years(and prior to that a womb) and learn to deny any relation to her. But ultimately my reasons for sticking with her are summed up in five words 'You can't choose your family.'

Holy crap I must sound like a dick talking about her like that. I would rather us stay on topic rather than discuss my personal life.

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ORIGINAL: thishereboi

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ORIGINAL: TheKingofHell

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Me having a moment of rage would be something to see being as I've never been that way in my entire life lol but if someone one day replaced my brain and I had one, I'd apologize but then again if I had someone else's brain, maybe I wouldn't...I dunno.

As for your "domme", she doesn't sound like a domme but a spoiled child and/or someone who needs some serious therapy and you probably do too for staying with her.

She's pretty much just spoiled. As for why I stay with her it's not that I don't realize she's a brat(mind you she does have her nice moments) it's just that you learn to put up with it after sharing a bedroom with her for some 18 years(and prior to that a womb) and learn to deny any relation to her. But ultimately my reasons for sticking with her are summed up in five words 'You can't choose your family.'

Holy crap I must sound like a dick talking about her like that. I would rather us stay on topic rather than discuss my personal life.

I am confused. According to your profile, you are a dom looking for subs and maybe a "queen" to rule beside you? But from reading the posts on here, I get the feeling either your friend is not happy with his dom and you are asking on his behalf (see post 16) or you are a sub and not happy with your current fin domme. And now this one that makes me think she is not only your dom but your sister? Maybe if you just stick to one story per thread.

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ORIGINAL: TheKingofHell
I know a friend going through this the irony all he wants is an apology from her granted he wants her on her knees when she does it (not gonna lie she really is getting her dues on this one I kept warning her not to bite the hand that fed her but once again her arrogance got the best of her) he also wants her to start using the word please(I nearly died laughing when she told me that). Anyway after learning of her plight I started doing some research on financial domination and discovered a few Pro's not just her seem to like having subs pay for their bills, rent, grocies you name it.

That being said I think it will be good for her to go through this she never apolgizes even when she needs to. That's how she's always been always blaming everybody but herself.

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Me having a moment of rage would be something to see being as I've never been that way in my entire life lol but if someone one day replaced my brain and I had one, I'd apologize but then again if I had someone else's brain, maybe I wouldn't...I dunno.

As for your "domme", she doesn't sound like a domme but a spoiled child and/or someone who needs some serious therapy and you probably do too for staying with her.

She's pretty much just spoiled. As for why I stay with her it's not that I don't realize she's a brat(mind you she does have her nice moments) it's just that you learn to put up with it after sharing a bedroom with her for some 18 years(and prior to that a womb) and learn to deny any relation to her. But ultimately my reasons for sticking with her are summed up in five words 'You can't choose your family.'

Holy crap I must sound like a dick talking about her like that. I would rather us stay on topic rather than discuss my personal life.

I am confused. According to your profile, you are a dom looking for subs and maybe a "queen" to rule beside you? But from reading the posts on here, I get the feeling either your friend is not happy with his dom and you are asking on his behalf (see post 16) or you are a sub and not happy with your current fin domme. And now this one that makes me think she is not only your dom but your sister? Maybe if you just stick to one story per thread.

Oh no the friend is my sister she pissed off her client and is in deep now and when I said the only reason I stay with her I meant the only reason I don't just drop her like a bad habbit.

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i have never had a real job. never had to. i depend on no man