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Ever have a scare? - 1/17/2012 8:55:24 PM   
ShibsStories


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Status: offline 		I have been off and on with pictures of me on this site in the 6 years I have been here- But only once has anyone I know from the real world recognized me. Scared the shit out of me, since in their cmail to me they referenced where I worked, and I had no clue who they were, despite them talking like they knew me.
It freaked me out and I took down every damn  pic I had of me on here.

Luckily, it just turned out my half sister I barely see is a dominatrix 0.o
After a few cmails back and forth to agree no one is to ever tell dad, we pretty much just dropped the whole thing and never spoke of it again.

Since than I have started putting pics back up, just never my uncovered face.
Anyone else ever experience that particular "O SHIT" feeling? 

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RE: Ever have a scare? - 1/17/2012 9:00:15 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		a few times. These days it doesn't bother me. I just wish it wasn't creepy old guys calling out  "littlewonder!" as they pass me on the street.

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RE: Ever have a scare? - 1/17/2012 9:28:01 PM   
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Status: offline 		Nope. And I have nothing to hide, or loose in regards of being  outed, Neither would Daddy, so i   wouldn't be bothered if people recognized me . 

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RE: Ever have a scare? - 1/17/2012 10:05:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		I don't have anything left to lose, so I don't care anymore if anyone recognizes me. In fact, I would love it if someone that lived here did recognize me and was comfortable enough to approach me and say hi.

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RE: Ever have a scare? - 1/17/2012 10:07:34 PM   
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Status: offline 		On here? No. I've had that happen a LOT on OkCupid, though, so I don't put up anything too detailed over there about what I'm into. The last thing I need is somebody I dated in 10th grade reading about my fetishes.

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RE: Ever have a scare? - 1/17/2012 10:08:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: graceadieu

On here? No. I've had that happen a LOT on OkCupid, though, so I don't put up anything too detailed over there about what I'm into. The last thing I need is somebody I dated in 10th grade reading about my fetishes.


Awwww... And deny them their "THaaaaaaat explains it." moment?


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RE: Ever have a scare? - 1/17/2012 10:29:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ShibsStories

Since than I have started putting pics back up, just never my uncovered face.
Anyone else ever experience that particular "O SHIT" feeling? 


In the way you mean, nope. I was lucky because in the first two years I talked with many people in Yahoo Messenger from CM's Lobby chatroom and had put a clear closeup of my face there.

I was outed to my family. Around 8 years ago, I was meeting up with many people from CM, and after a while got curious about other people's toys and what they do. I am not into canes and it was unfortunate that one of the truckers I met up with (we talked in the cab of his vehicle) had been showing me the marks his impact toys made (different crops that I don't use, as I mainly loved floggers)...and he decided to show me something else, by grabbing my arm, whipping out his cane and whaling the tar out of my upper left arm for about half a minute while I struggled and yelled for him to STOP. I was pissed off, and had a bruise the size of a fist.

Before it could heal, mom asked me to come over to her apartment. Once there, she needed me to move some things for her, and since she is uber short, some of the things were high up in the air. The sleeve of my blouse fell toward my shoulders, exposing the huge bruise. Mom went nuts, very upset that I was letting someone abuse me.

We had a long talk.

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RE: Ever have a scare? - 1/17/2012 10:34:07 PM   
ShibsStories


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Status: offline 		I hope that worked out well for you and she was supportive!
My mom knows what I am into, as well as my brothers- my dad I just hide the bruises from... since he is already way to over protective.

Anyone who spends time with me generally has an idea- I don't try to hide since I don't feel like having a woman's abuse hotline called on me again over bruises.
(worst part about that is, you can't even get mad, cause it's just them caring)
So not too afraid of being outted. Was just the not knowing who was contacting me, who knew where I worked and referenced it.


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RE: Ever have a scare? - 1/17/2012 10:44:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ShibsStories

I hope that worked out well for you and she was supportive!
My mom knows what I am into, as well as my brothers- my dad I just hide the bruises from... since he is already way to over protective.

Anyone who spends time with me generally has an idea- I don't try to hide since I don't feel like having a woman's abuse hotline called on me again over bruises.
(worst part about that is, you can't even get mad, cause it's just them caring)
So not too afraid of being outted. Was just the not knowing who was contacting me, who knew where I worked and referenced it.



Um, nope, she's not. At first, she had a huge problem with "physical abuse" and it took a while to help her understand that there is a difference between what I do and the familiar beat your wife kind of thing that is spread about our family tree. Making lots of pretty ribbon floggers helped, she saw how beautiful they were and when shown along with some of my pretty leather ones, it was hard for her to see those as threatening and tools of abuse.

What she has a problem with now is the D/s aspect. Good girls do NOT boss men around. Oh, and according to her I will lose my boyfriend and chase him away if I don't let him "be the man" in the family.

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RE: Ever have a scare? - 1/17/2012 11:34:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CynthiaWVirginia


What she has a problem with now is the D/s aspect. Good girls do NOT boss men around. Oh, and according to her I will lose my boyfriend and chase him away if I don't let him "be the man" in the family.


lol
Sounds like my old fashioned grandma- "You'll never catch a man wearing those pants!"


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RE: Ever have a scare? - 1/18/2012 12:15:17 AM   
Kaliko


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ORIGINAL: ShibsStories

Anyone who spends time with me generally has an idea



Yep, me too. I'm actually not concerned with who sees me on this site. My concern is for work, which is why I can't show any face pictures. If someone recognizes me from my cleavage, well, more power to them, I guess. Or to me. :)

Just a side note...

Even though many people know this about me, not many actually get it. Recently, two of my friends who I had spent some time explaining my D/s preferences to asked me if a man's certain behavior toward me was "part of the game." I was actually pretty insulted, but I know they didn't mean it that way so I just let it go.

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RE: Ever have a scare? - 1/18/2012 12:17:56 AM   
Epytropos


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Status: offline 		Never had that experience. It would be more or less a miracle if someone found my real self from this one, though. I have no pics up, never have, here or anywhere else. Even if they did I'm pretty open about it in my personal life. All my close-ish friends know, my parents know, my extended family has some inkling. I'm not sure how it would affect book sales if my pseudonym became a prominent pervert, but it isn't as if I'm publishing children's books so I can't imagine it would be a big deal.

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RE: Ever have a scare? - 1/18/2012 12:22:00 AM   
ShibsStories


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Status: offline 		Congrats on being published :)

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RE: Ever have a scare? - 1/18/2012 1:04:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		I've run across a couple of family members here. I haven't a problem with anyone who sees me. I no longer work in the outside world, my Mom has passed away, and my grown children know about my lifestyle. No one else really matters to me. Besides, what were they doing here to have run across me anyways?

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RE: Ever have a scare? - 1/18/2012 4:08:58 AM   
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Status: offline 		Nope.  I HAVE recognized/been recognized in vanilla settings by people I had met at parties, but that's it.

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RE: Ever have a scare? - 1/18/2012 5:49:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		Once online I had similar to you, and the tosser manipulated the fact he knew me and I didn't know him, luckily it was just some little pathetic boy I knew from years before. My family and that know so that is not a problem and when I have seen people from events out in the real world there has normally just been a nod. I have to be more private now hense no photos etc

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RE: Ever have a scare? - 1/18/2012 6:01:59 AM   
Fornica


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RE: Ever have a scare? - 1/18/2012 7:18:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Fornica

I'm not ashamed of my lifestyle choices. If someone wants to clutch their pearls about it, have at it.



I could not have said it better.


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RE: Ever have a scare? - 1/18/2012 7:23:50 AM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		Not online. I once walked into a Threshold event and saw a guy that looked just like my Dad. It completely freaked me out.

Master was at a play party at Nob Hill (a venue in LA) and ran into his boss.....who was there with his Domme.

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RE: Ever have a scare? - 1/18/2012 7:40:55 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

quote:

ORIGINAL: Fornica

I'm not ashamed of my lifestyle choices. If someone wants to clutch their pearls about it, have at it.



I could not have said it better.



It was never being outed that I was afraid of.
The scare was that a Dominant male on a site filled with sadists, messaged me showing clear info he knew who I was and where I worked in an initial email, without much more to it than that.
I've had an ex make comments about kidnapping me randomly when I left work at night, and while knowns don't scare me, unknowns can make me want to get a tazer.

It turned out to just be my half sis's bf, but none the less, scared the shit outta me at the time.


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