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is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 2:04:20 AM

tabbz

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ive been talking to a so called Dom for about 2/3 weeks...seemed to be progressing well....meet arranged...drove 20 odd miles to meet in a safe place half way between his place and mine...got there in good time...left a message saying where i was....nothing....waited almost an hour...he has email/phone number and contact through cm...and nothing..no apology no excuses...just silent....

so....i'm afraid my reaction wasnt too subbie like...ive sent a message via the above said media telling him the least he could do was apologies.....result...silence...

my reaction...another message via same channels..telling him i thought he was a coward....

knows im wasting my time...but it made me feel better....

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RE: is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 2:18:16 AM

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No,it is not wrong to feel the need to vent nor feeling bad for actually doing it either.We have all been there at one time or another,I do not care what side of the "fence" you are on....male or female,dominant or submissive.Just remember that there are still some honest people out here searching just as you are,so do not throw them in the same recycling bin as this clown.

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RE: is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 2:26:11 AM

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thanks....think its more my anger about it thats surprised me...suspect i'm really cross at my self...cos if i'm honest i did feel he was way out of my league when i saw his pics...but he kept assuring me that 'i was fine'....think he obviously found a 'better option'...
ce la vie...

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RE: is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 2:26:33 AM

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You what? You messaged someone who stood you up 20 miles away demanding an apology and you expect him to give you one?

Umm. okay. I guess yes, if you really feel the need, you can vent.

Better luck next time.

ETA 'demanding an apology' because I know the way some minds work here.

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RE: is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 2:33:48 AM

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I'm okay with your venting...it must have been very frustrating to go through all the trouble of a meetup and then get stood up.

I can think of several reasons why someone wouldn't show up...

1) They are not used to meetups and chickened out, thinking why waste a good fantasy with a dose of reality. (A gutless wanker.)

2) Did a drive by, decided you weren't what he was looking for and instead of meeting up to get a better first impression, behaving polite and courteous, he drove off. (A wimp.)

3) His wife or significant other caught him sneaking out the door to meet up with you and he is still talking his way out of hot water. (A cheater.)

4) Some legitimate emergency happened, like...he's in a coma from a freeway accident...or...some hacker toasted his computer and all of his passwords were in a file he didn't back up and he cannot remember his username or nuffin. Maybe both, only he's not home from the hospital yet to find out that his computer is playing Taps.

5) Who knows...

When the right one finds you he WILL show up. (Ergo, this man was the wrong one.)

tabbz, sorry for not looking in your profile before asking this, but do you belong to any BDSM munch groups yet? At least people who go to those...show up. ;)

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RE: is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 2:35:46 AM

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Those damned "so called Doms" are a pain in the ass aren't they?
You give him a piece of your mind girl! Just pray he doesn't wake up in a hospital after crashing his car on the way to meet you and find a bunch of messages insulting him for missing it.

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RE: is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 2:39:51 AM

tabbz

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thanks Cynthia..think i considered all those options on the way back...and you're right....he's definitely one or more of the above...lol
Don't really get time for munches at the moment...but good advice..thanks

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RE: is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 2:40:58 AM

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Why would you feel he is out of your league? Did he have really hot pictures and a great job? He probably isn't the person he portrayed himself to be, anyway. Did you talk dirty to him on the phone and/or cam? It's probably a case of the guy isn't who he claimed to be, and it would be quite obvious if he met up with you, so he enjoyed you while he could, but has now disappeared into the ether.

Sorry you got stood up. That's got to be really frustrating. But, chin up, there are lots of great men here, and women get to choose...sooo...take your time choosing and pick a great one!

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RE: is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 2:42:54 AM

tabbz

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grinnnz...sorry Resident Sadist...unless his phone is logging onto CM on its own...he's still conscious cos hes logged in every day since...and even opened the mailie i sent...lol

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RE: is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 2:43:31 AM

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Well that sucks... I myself would not have left any messages, cause by that time I would have shrugged him off and moved on

As a few others have said, you don't know why he no showed but the top of the list are married, gutless, or he is not what who is in those pictures ie.. gained weight, used someone elses, that kind of thing, or something may have happened to prevent him from getting there...

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RE: is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 2:44:24 AM

ResidentSadist

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I guess you won't have to pray then.
Sounds like he is a fuckwad.

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RE: is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 2:46:04 AM

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thanks blushes..will keep my choosing options open....:)

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RE: is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 2:50:59 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Those damned "so called Doms" are a pain in the ass aren't they?
You give him a piece of your mind girl! Just pray he doesn't wake up in a hospital after crashing his car on the way to meet you and find a bunch of messages insulting him for missing it.

Come on RS fess up, you know the chances of that are pretty slim.
How many people here get no shows? Heaps. If it was the case there was an accident I doubt he would be sobbing into a hanky about her message anyway. (probably wouldn't ring her back for another date tho'!)
So I think sending the girl on a guilt trip in regards to this is rather humorous.

Cheers

Sea

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RE: is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 2:58:39 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

I guess you won't have to pray then.
Sounds like he is a fuckwad.

QFT

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RE: is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 3:05:11 AM

ResidentSadist

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quote:

ORIGINAL: seababy

quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Those damned "so called Doms" are a pain in the ass aren't they?
You give him a piece of your mind girl! Just pray he doesn't wake up in a hospital after crashing his car on the way to meet you and find a bunch of messages insulting him for missing it.

Come on RS fess up, you know the chances of that are pretty slim.
How many people here get no shows? Heaps. If it was the case there was an accident I doubt he would be sobbing into a hanky about her message anyway. (probably wouldn't ring her back for another date tho'!)
So I think sending the girl on a guilt trip in regards to this is rather humorous.

Cheers

Sea

I agree the chances are very slim indeed. My girl everhope had a guy crash his bike on the way to a first meet with her once. That is the only story I have ever heard like that about a first meet... and I have been listening to BDSM community stories since 1971.

As far as the guilt trip... well, it's in my nature to be patient and get all the facts first. That always makes for good advice. She apparent had all the facts and the guy is a turd. I won't be able to send her on guilt trip no matter how many wonderful mental images I paint of some poor guy all banged up in the hospital futilely trying to text her with his mangled fingers and a body cast.

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RE: is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 3:10:08 AM

tabbz

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actually its a tempting thought finding him in a body cast....mmmmm could really get my own back then....lol....wonders if there isnt a part of me that wishes i was Domme....lol

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RE: is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 3:11:22 AM

ResidentSadist

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For a small fee, I know people in Detroit that do that sort of thing.

Just sayin'

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RE: is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 3:15:05 AM

tabbz

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he hee heeee

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RE: is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 3:16:10 AM

tabbz

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thanks folks...a little vent has made me feel better...

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RE: is it wrong to need to have a little vent.... - 1/22/2012 3:20:29 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

quote:

ORIGINAL: seababy

quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Those damned "so called Doms" are a pain in the ass aren't they?
You give him a piece of your mind girl! Just pray he doesn't wake up in a hospital after crashing his car on the way to meet you and find a bunch of messages insulting him for missing it.

Come on RS fess up, you know the chances of that are pretty slim.
How many people here get no shows? Heaps. If it was the case there was an accident I doubt he would be sobbing into a hanky about her message anyway. (probably wouldn't ring her back for another date tho'!)
So I think sending the girl on a guilt trip in regards to this is rather humorous.

Cheers

Sea

I agree the chances are very slim indeed. My girl everhope had a guy crash his bike on the way to a first meet with her once. That is the only story I have ever heard like that about a first meet... and I have been listening to BDSM community stories since 1971.

As far as the guilt trip... well, it's in my nature to be patient and get all the facts first. That always makes for good advice. She apparent had all the facts and the guy is a turd. I won't be able to send her on guilt trip no matter how many wonderful mental images I paint of some poor guy all banged up in the hospital futilely trying to text her with his mangled fingers and a body cast.

HAHAHA! Omg you just painted the strongest mental image.

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