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RE: Dear Masters,... - 1/25/2012 2:33:36 PM

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go make a bukkake video ... show it to the Master at hand, and if he still wants to tag you ... he's a keeper.

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RE: Dear Masters,... - 1/25/2012 4:45:51 PM

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I think the number should not matter provided the std risk aspect of things are addressed (which can be addressed without finding out exactly how many people the other person has been with).

It does bother me that society still has a double standard about this issue. As a result, I don't go around freely sharing my number (and don't assume that means the number is high - for many men, a woman with any number over about 1 or 2 is too many). I do find that most men closer to my age do not ask this type of question anyway. Most likely because if they are single, they really don't want me asking them the question in return.

I saw someone mention that they care more about how many serious relationships someone has had. Yes, I agree with this, and my perspective on this is someone who by a certain age has still not had some serious relationships - well - there is an issue there. (By serious, meaning emotional closeness.) If all someone can do is have sex with people but not ever open up or get close, well then there is an issue.

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RE: Dear Masters,... - 1/26/2012 3:23:02 PM

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How on earth is it anyone's business, unless in regards to STD's?

Because a lot of the accomplishment dwindles when it is learned a woman is notorious for her blowjob ability.

In other words, "ew, a whore."

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RE: Dear Masters,... - 1/26/2012 9:42:40 PM

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Good question, and the answer is rather subjective.

I think that depending on the individual, the question could be coming from a place as simple as curiosity to one as severe as insecurity.

Asking how many partners a person has had is something that is meant establishes experience and history, either alone or comparatively. (One notion is that the more people you've been with, the less reliable you might be in terms of long-term commitment. This is of course, like trying to make a relative issue into something standard and across the board. Which is foolish.)

Don't be ashamed if the reaction you get from your partner is a negative one. What you did before meeting him/her is not something that can be changed. It seems like very obvious conclusions to arrive at, but sometimes hearing it from someone else is reassuring.

But, I digress.

To answer your question directly...

If you've fucked over a thousand people, that's probably too much.

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RE: Dear Masters,... - 1/26/2012 10:19:38 PM

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I'm just curious about if it matters how many sexual partners
Your submissive or slave has had before you?
How much is too many? TaylorMarie
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I believe it is all about experience ... if the Dom is experienced and is looking for an experienced sub/slave, obviously they would want someone who has had a number of partners, but if the Dom/Master is looking to train a slave for submission, and yes, some Doms like to train a new slave to perform the way they like with out other training already incorporated into a sub's life, then in that case the lower number of previous Doms the better.
Personally, I do not care about the number, just the commitment. respect and dedication level my sub/slave has towards me

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RE: Dear Masters,... - 1/28/2012 11:02:23 AM

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No, it doesn't matter except as a kind of leading question to find out how much experience my partner has in knowing what they want from the relationship.

As I get older it matters even less.

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RE: Dear Masters,... - 1/31/2012 3:09:45 AM

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What is past is past ! I doesn't matter as to how many went before, the important thing is that your sub now has accepted your control completly and will not stray, but that is up to me now as well.

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RE: Dear Masters,... - 1/31/2012 4:57:08 AM

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TaylorMarie
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I'm just curious about if it matters how many sexual partners
Your submissive or slave has had before you?
How much is too many? TaylorMarie
Vanilla

I believe it is all about experience ... if the Dom is experienced and is looking for an experienced sub/slave, obviously they would want someone who has had a number of partners, but if the Dom/Master is looking to train a slave for submission, and yes, some Doms like to train a new slave to perform the way they like with out other training already incorporated into a sub's life, then in that case the lower number of previous Doms the better.
Personally, I do not care about the number, just the commitment. respect and dedication level my sub/slave has towards me

Really???? You mean GASP you couldnt be "experienced" with just one person over say a couple of years????

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RE: Dear Masters,... - 1/31/2012 1:42:59 PM

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The question bothers me way more than any number might.

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RE: Dear Masters,... - 1/31/2012 3:15:28 PM

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If I'm in a relationship with a man, why would any question bother me?

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RE: Dear Masters,... - 1/31/2012 3:37:38 PM

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As long as you both enjoy each other and are clean and honest. It shouldn't matter, its all in the eye of the beholder! Don't judge less you be judged. Except and love without byass and be good to each other. give and recieve to both needs and if you care for the person you are loving enjoy and Learn from one another!..

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RE: Dear Masters,... - 1/31/2012 4:53:41 PM

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Really?? I always get asked..

pssst,,,, it's common knowledge that greedy is well greedy!!! so why ask when thge answer is well obvious ;)

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RE: Dear Masters,... - 2/1/2012 8:25:08 AM

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For me that is a highschool concern. I do not even ask. I need to know as a Dom/Master that you as a sub are clean, d/d free, and not going to try to kill me in my sleep and you are truely a sub. I don't want a fake. The number of partners my sub has had means nothing to me. mostly because it only helps her understand things she likes and does not.

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RE: Dear Masters,... - 2/1/2012 8:27:12 AM

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Really?? I always get asked..

pssst,,,, it's common knowledge that greedy is well greedy!!! so why ask when thge answer is well obvious ;)

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RE: Dear Masters,... - 2/1/2012 12:20:57 PM

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My point being I see no reason to ask.
My only interest is in her submission to me what came
before is of no interest to me.

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RE: Dear Masters,... - 2/2/2012 10:39:29 AM

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Well bugger this for a game of marbles.

All the replies suggest that it's ok to have more than one sexual exploit.

I thought the rulebook said one only; I've been saving myself so that when I have one it's special.

Now you tell me.

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RE: Dear Masters,... - 2/2/2012 10:47:25 AM

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I honestly have never had ANYONE ask me how many partners I have had.

Are we talking contemperaneously or consecutively in one session or just ever?

These details matter. (I'm assuming your post was a cri de coeur because you'd so like me to ask)

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RE: Dear Masters,... - 2/2/2012 8:36:39 PM

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No it doesn't. But she will be tested...

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RE: Dear Masters,... - 2/2/2012 8:50:52 PM

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Someone once asked me how many partners I have had. I got up from the table and went into the kitchen and began to fix myself a cup of tea. He commented, "You're not going to answer me?" I replied, "Shhhhhh, I'm still counting!"

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RE: Dear Masters,... - 3/26/2012 7:31:59 AM

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Does it matter to you or to your Master?how many you have been with?

and by the way what is the magic number? so i would use it too