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RE: Moving on - 1/27/2012 11:06:19 AM

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RE: Moving on - 1/27/2012 11:09:37 AM

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=02lXLiFsRtE

Best breakup song EVAH

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RE: Moving on - 1/27/2012 11:18:52 AM

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=02lXLiFsRtE

Best breakup song EVAH

I am partial to:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E8Lf4fbEUEk

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RE: Moving on - 1/27/2012 2:09:18 PM

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Sorry that you miss having him in your life.

But I agree with all of the other posters who say you need to move on. Do what you need to do to create your own closure for yourself - the closure will not come from him. And consider it completely over. I would not entertain thoughts of getting back together again in the future. This will make it even harder for you to move on. I would also not contact him anymore. Remove his contact information from your phone. If he reaches out to you, that is one thing. But in my life, generally a woman reaching out to a man in a situation like this is never a good idea.

And do what you can to get out and meet new people. You might not replace your Dominant any time soon, but sitting at home and feeling sad is not a helpful thing to be doing either.

The pain from a break-up is really bereavement. So understand that it is going to take time to get to the other side. There is no way to speed up the healing/recovery process. One day, you will wake up and not be thinking about him. None of us can tell you how long that might take for you.

Thank you for you sympathy and honesty, I do keep wanting to ask people how much longer..

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RE: Moving on - 1/27/2012 3:49:13 PM

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In terms of break up songs, I am fond of:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-bi5Oci3m3M.

OP, I dated a lot before I met my love. I also have a lot of single friends, all of whom have been through breakups, both significant and insignificant. An emotion injury like that is just the same as a physical injury. You need time to heal. How long, who knows? At the same time, don't close yourself off to your friends and family. For that matter, when you are ready, don't close yourself off from starting a new relationship with someone else. It doesn't sound like your closure on your previous relationship was complete. That is too bad, but there is not much you can do about that now. But I think you need to reach closure in your own mind. Some of your posts make me think that you consider it a possibility, at least in your mind, that you might get back together. Stop thinking like that, or you will never be able to move on.

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RE: Moving on - 1/27/2012 4:42:01 PM

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And his house. You could burn that down.

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RE: Moving on - 1/27/2012 4:51:31 PM

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And his house. You could burn that down.

I like you.

Thank you. I like to be liked

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RE: Moving on - 1/27/2012 4:54:14 PM

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LOL!

I love quirky humor...especially the kind that sounds horrifying.

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RE: Moving on - 1/27/2012 4:58:41 PM

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Quirky and horrifying is one of many humors I offer. I also do lame puns and memes. Anything to slap a smile on someone's face

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RE: Moving on - 1/27/2012 6:07:26 PM

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Okay, since we're doing songs - a good one for bereavement/loss of any sort -

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OjqCQ-E0S30&feature=related

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RE: Moving on - 1/27/2012 7:17:20 PM

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I'm going through the same thing...I know it's over but I can't stop thinking about him. I deleted his contact info from my phhone...drunk texting/calling is really ugly in the light of day...this has been the worst breakup ever , some days I don't think I will ever get through it. Best of luck to u...hang in there

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RE: Moving on - 1/27/2012 7:34:49 PM

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Wow ftp that was beautiful. I have cried to mainstream breakup songs, but that is so positive I love it.

Coming on this site was my symbolic putting to rest a hope of a reunion. I was just scared that I wouldn't be able to deal with the after math correctly, but I believe my own capabilities exceed those of my previous master, and am ready to wait for someone to appreciate me. Thanks for all the great reply that have surpassed my origional intent of advice. ~uch

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RE: Moving on - 1/27/2012 7:36:17 PM

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Sorry, *replies

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RE: Moving on - 1/28/2012 7:55:02 AM

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RE: Moving on - 1/28/2012 7:57:33 AM

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I'm going through the same thing...I know it's over but I can't stop thinking about him. I deleted his contact info from my phhone...drunk texting/calling is really ugly in the light of day...this has been the worst breakup ever , some days I don't think I will ever get through it. Best of luck to u...hang in there

Welcome to the forums! Good for you for deleting him from your phone! What else have you done? Consider the other advice here in this thread (that does not involve burning anything larger than a picture :)

I've always found exercising til I am ready to drop very helpful. Maybe someone will come along and give the biochemical reasons for this.

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RE: Moving on - 1/28/2012 1:13:49 PM

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I've always found exercising til I am ready to drop very helpful. Maybe someone will come along and give the biochemical reasons for this.

Endorphins!! A wonderful thing. The free drug....

http://serendip.brynmawr.edu/bb/neuro/neuro05/web2/mmcgovern.html

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RE: Moving on - 2/3/2012 2:33:13 PM

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Here is a song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ipUdoUcNmKI&feature=related

And a book (the entire text)
How to Survive the Loss of a Love

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RE: Moving on - 2/3/2012 7:28:08 PM

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to the OP:
I'm a big believer in ritual and making manifest in the real world what lives in our emotional worlds. I would do something that honors what I learned and what I got from the relationship as well as something that would clarify why the ending happened. I might make a bracelet / necklace with beads that represented the positive and negative aspects of the relationship and then bury it. I might draw a picture or paint something and then burn / cut up the piece, perhaps make a clay piece of pottery and then shattering it. I might even do something as simple as writing a list and then reading it aloud to a friend and then rip it to pieces and let the wind take it away.

Good luck in your next chapter,
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RE: Moving on - 2/3/2012 9:52:45 PM

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Well-----> theres nothing like moving on - finding a rebound replacement - fucking them, and thinking about the guy that just dumped you - you can always close your eyes and pretend that the guy who dumped you is fucking you. Youre emotional needs will be surely met that way.

No, really - you probably need to take it down a notch and let the dust settle. Unless you are into relationship hopping, you probably wont be able to give yourself emotionally to someone new, until youre over this. If youre still thinking about telling your old fuck about your new fuck, I would vote that youre not over this guy.

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