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njlauren -> RE: ProDoms are fake? (1/28/2012 12:37:56 PM)
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ORIGINAL: vield
No information from the person posting is not the best way to seek learning.
I know some professional sex workers who are friends. Each of them has their own motivation for choosing this work, and like most of us, they need to earn a living.
Some professionals are totally playing roles which their customers pay them to do.
Some are real life subs but work as pro-dommes because experience has taught them clients in one on one situations with a pro-sub often can not be trusted to play safe.
Some are not domme or sub at all but are playing the domme role they are paid to play while working.
Some are not into guys at all in real life, but will put up with them at work because of the pay.
Some LOVE every second of their domination, and are very happy to have these jobs.
Some got into this from other forms of sex work. Lots of them tried exotic dancing first, and enjoyed the control domination gives them.
There are probably 2 or 3 times as many reasons as there are professional dominatrixes.
In any case, if one seeks to have a new partner of ANY flavor fulfill one's needs or desires, it is a very good idea to thoroughly and honestly TALK to them about these things. Negotiation is always important, unless you are patronizing a place with just a menu of what you can get for what prices. If the person does not give that which you need, best find someone else.
There are a fair number of escorts and of prostitutes who will throw a little "slap and tickle" into the date if nicely asked.
There are NOT many pro-dommes who will throw a little sexuality into the date when asked, but unless you negotiate you will not know.
Vield, nicely put, pretty much sums up my view. Some pros are into it lifestyle (i.e they play/have subs/slaves "In real life"), others do it because they like doing it as a job but don't do it in their 'real lives', etc. And like in any profession, there are those who do it well, who give the clients what they are looking for, others who come off as 'prostitutes with a whip' when you realize they are just going through the motions . As someone who did a number of pro sessions for several years before it came into my 'real life', there are a lot of fantastic pro dommes out there, lifestyle and not, and I owe a great deal to one pro domme who helped me unlock a lot of myself and move beyond 'doing sessions for fun'. Sure, there are losers out there, people I did sessions with who by analogy showed as much enthusiam as the 'buble gum chewing whore' sitting there bored while some guy was boinking her......but it is like anything else. Pro dommes serve a need and most of the ones I dealt with were decent, hardworking professionals.
As far as no sex, well, that is for a lot of good reasons. For one, most of the pro dommes I knew/know have sex only with people they are interested in sexually, they aren't pro dommes to have sex with the clients (some found a spark with clients and later had relationships with them,but that is different). The other thing is it would be pretty stupid to have sex with a client in most places, that could get them shut down, bd/sm is a legal activity in most places, having sex for money is not.
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