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ORIGINAL: Aikoxkitty

Well guys you dont have to worry about me being safe I guess he found someone else or was just all talk didnt hear from him at all today

but ill take your advice maybe i was just rushing things calling him master and what not

but we all learn from out mistakes

Thanks for the advice

~mew

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ORIGINAL: xssve

All good advice, the chances of a contact having motives any more unsavory than fucking your sweet teeny bopper brains out are small, but it only takes once to make giving some thought and energy to developing safe habits worth the effort.

This one sounds more like cold feet to me - he's probably either 44 and married or 14 and he came in his pants as soon as you agreed to meet him.

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Exactly. Just call the license plate number in, most guys understand that and actually will suggest it, I did several times and why not? So, enjoy...step out, be brave and take that simple precaution and make sure he sees you doing it and all will be well.

... otherwise stay behind a keyboard safe and sound and years from now you will be alone still and online 24 hours giving advice to newbees like "check him out with the locals, find a mentor and follow their advice, talk to him on the phone for a few weeks, attend a munch or two with them. Yeah, that will weed out the boston stranglers, ah no, if he is dangerous he will pass all your tests cause he's too smart not to, so call him in to a friend before you leave with him, and relax and enjoy life to the fullest. Besides, if you were not brave you would not be choosing this lifestyle, correct? And, lets be honest, reality check again, meeting and leaving with men in vanilla life is no more safe than leaving with a Dom, in both situations you do the same thing, make sure someone knows who he is and that you are with him.

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ORIGINAL: Arturas

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ORIGINAL: xssve

All good advice, the chances of a contact having motives any more unsavory than fucking your sweet teeny bopper brains out are small, but it only takes once to make giving some thought and energy to developing safe habits worth the effort.

This one sounds more like cold feet to me - he's probably either 44 and married or 14 and he came in his pants as soon as you agreed to meet him.

Exactly. Just call the license plate number in, most guys understand that and actually will suggest it, I did several times and why not? So, enjoy...step out, be brave and take that simple precaution and make sure he sees you doing it and all will be well.

... otherwise stay behind a keyboard safe and sound and years from now you will be alone still and online 24 hours giving advice to newbees like "check him out with the locals, find a mentor and follow their advice, talk to him on the phone for a few weeks, attend a munch or two with them. Yeah, that will weed out the boston stranglers, ah no, if he is dangerous he will pass all your tests cause he's too smart not to, so call him in to a friend before you leave with him, and relax and enjoy life to the fullest. Besides, if you were not brave you would not be choosing this lifestyle, correct? And, lets be honest, reality check again, meeting and leaving with men in vanilla life is no more safe than leaving with a Dom, in both situations you do the same thing, make sure someone knows who he is and that you are with him.

That last statement of yours was interesting; Do you really believe that?

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

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Exactly. Just call the license plate number in, most guys understand that and actually will suggest it, I did several times and why not? So, enjoy...step out, be brave and take that simple precaution and make sure he sees you doing it and all will be well.

... otherwise stay behind a keyboard safe and sound and years from now you will be alone still and online 24 hours giving advice to newbees like "check him out with the locals, find a mentor and follow their advice, talk to him on the phone for a few weeks, attend a munch or two with them. Yeah, that will weed out the boston stranglers, ah no, if he is dangerous he will pass all your tests cause he's too smart not to, so call him in to a friend before you leave with him, and relax and enjoy life to the fullest. Besides, if you were not brave you would not be choosing this lifestyle, correct? And, lets be honest, reality check again, meeting and leaving with men in vanilla life is no more safe than leaving with a Dom, in both situations you do the same thing, make sure someone knows who he is and that you are with him.

Man drives into town. No one there knows him. Few care. No ties to anyone. Picks up girl, she calls the tag number to her friend. Hangs up.

Then what? They go on to the hotel room and fuck like rabbits,,, or back to her place... or neither. Tag switch and a few hours later, by the time the damage is done, he is back in his home town, the stolen tag tossed, and no one is the wiser.

The difference with a man in a bar? People will know him. He has ties to that community. People saw them enter and leave. Someone else will remember.

But, hey, if you keep finding women who are as crazy as you imply... well... nuff said. [;)]

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ORIGINAL: xssve

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

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Exactly. Just call the license plate number in, most guys understand that and actually will suggest it, I did several times and why not? So, enjoy...step out, be brave and take that simple precaution and make sure he sees you doing it and all will be well.

... otherwise stay behind a keyboard safe and sound and years from now you will be alone still and online 24 hours giving advice to newbees like "check him out with the locals, find a mentor and follow their advice, talk to him on the phone for a few weeks, attend a munch or two with them. Yeah, that will weed out the boston stranglers, ah no, if he is dangerous he will pass all your tests cause he's too smart not to, so call him in to a friend before you leave with him, and relax and enjoy life to the fullest. Besides, if you were not brave you would not be choosing this lifestyle, correct? And, lets be honest, reality check again, meeting and leaving with men in vanilla life is no more safe than leaving with a Dom, in both situations you do the same thing, make sure someone knows who he is and that you are with him.

Man drives into town. No one there knows him. Few care. No ties to anyone. Picks up girl, she calls the tag number to her friend. Hangs up.

Then what? They go on to the hotel room and fuck like rabbits,,, or back to her place... or neither. Tag switch and a few hours later, by the time the damage is done, he is back in his home town, the stolen tag tossed, and no one is the wiser.

The difference with a man in a bar? People will know him. He has ties to that community. People saw them enter and leave. Someone else will remember.

But, hey, if you keep finding women who are as crazy as you imply... well... nuff said. [;)]

Paranoid much taz? Yeah, overall it's better to know the people you're dealing with, you don't have to be quite so paranoid, although don't they say you're more likely to get raped by somebody you know? If you're not afraid of being raped, what the hell? It's an imperfect world.

Chicks a raver, not a virgin, right? Hard to say much from a profile, but I don't think she's a complete newb taz, I think she's just looking to expand her horizons.

Anyway, don't get in a rush, take it at your own speed, lay some on that pimply geek you work with, might be surprised.

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ORIGINAL: risktaker9

I have to ask, is there more than one person posting as Arturas?

I remember his posts as being mostly pompous blather,

Seems....weird.

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ORIGINAL: Arturas
My post reflects the real world.

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My advice is based on real world experience with submissives and even in vanilla meetings and knowing people in the local community and how things really work.

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... otherwise stay behind a keyboard safe and sound and years from now you will be alone still and online 24 hours giving advice to newbees

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ORIGINAL: Aikoxkitty

Well guys you dont have to worry about me being safe I guess he found someone else or was just all talk didnt hear from him at all today

but ill take your advice maybe i was just rushing things calling him master and what not

but we all learn from our mistakes

Thanks for the advice

~mew

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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... otherwise stay behind a keyboard safe and sound and years from now you will be alone still and online 24 hours giving advice to newbees

I wonder why I bothered getting out of bed this AM to make coffee for my imaginary friend [8|]

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ORIGINAL: tazzygirl

LOL.. yup... I am "paranoid" and it has kept me alive, thank you very much. The one time I didnt listen to my "paranoia" I ended up a thousand miles away from anyone I knew and was beaten daily.

Her sexual status doesnt have anything to do with any of this. I have no clue why that would, or should, make a difference.

Now, take into account the Slavemaster killings... Im sure you will have to look that up.. along with a few stories in the BDSM in the news section.. and Im sure you can see more opportunities to dismiss women.

But go ahead and continue to make fun.

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Baroana

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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My advice is based on real world experience with submissives and even in vanilla meetings and knowing people in the local community and how things really work.

To extrapolate that because a woman would be safe with YOU that she would be safe with all men is nonsense. YOU may not be a predator, but they do exist.

A potential Dom once got angry with me because I would not give him my home address prior to our meeting. He gave me his last name and told me to Google him. Well, being a little more sophisticated than that, I looked him up in our Clerk of Courts database and found two domestic violence charges, two different women, 12 years apart. I'd already been noticing his temper (and this before we even met) so no way in hell was I going to let him know where I lived after that. Needless to say, we didn't meet.