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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

Well , I do know it's my fault . I had that gut feeling, just was surprised I was so stupid and got into that position . I really have learned a lot . These posts really helped me. Thank you for your time . And you are right I wanted my desire to be submissive met , but that got me in a bad position . I will never do that until I know the dominant will be caring, and treat me right . And , I'll never do anything drunk first again . It's my fault because I let this all happen , I just believed others have good intentions , I have to watch out for myself more . Can't tell you how much this all helped , I was really upset yesterday .

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

Thanks for all your help guys.

You know, there ARE more tangible ways you can show your thankfulness. 

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ORIGINAL: Kirata

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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

Can you please tell me your thoughts? As dominants? I feel bad, but I did what he said. And he was really mad I was 20 minutes late, but I was flustered and nervous. I feel they didn't even give me a chance, or was I the one, who really messed it up? Would you guys judge me off of this stuff too?

You didn't do anything wrong. You're NOT stupid. And this so-called "Dom" is an emotionally abusive prick.

Stay the fuck away from him.

K.

I agree with Kirata.

If you are important to someone, he will give you more than "a chance". Btw, I once waited two hours for someone, not some piffling 20 minutes, and I did not hold it against him. Spit happens, this is real life not some Hollywood movie.

His wife should have been prepared and on board long before the three of you met for coffee. This was an accident just waiting to happen.

And about the fingering...pfft. I bet she started her period. Considering all the battering a vagina can take from a penis, I find it hard to believe anything you did caused bleeding. Unless you had long fingernails. Possibly, but if she were going through menopause and her vaginal walls were thin and dry, if you caused her discomfort (that's hospital slang for mindblowing agony) she would have been shoving you away or screaming to stopdammitstop.

For all we know, you might have even just saved her life. Bear with me for a minute...she might have some cancer up there that is fragile and a wee bit of fingering made it go crazy. She should be checked out, but don't beat yourself up over this. You didn't tie her up and force her into this. Her hubby was supposed to be the Dominant and in control over this entire situation, supervising your play. It was her job to say something was wrong, and his job to stop it if you refused. Seems you did the right thing to me...you saw a problem (blood), called their attention to it, and stopped all play. Nobody could do better than this.

(Unless you had two inch long invisible fingernails cut to sharp claws, then yes, this is all your fault.)

Look...I'm on a blood thinner, Warfarin, because several months back I had a bunch of blood clots in my lungs. Not only that, but I have a gift from my last chemo (around five years ago), perio-menopause. Blood thinner plus thin and dry vaginal walls...you get the picture. My boy sometimes fingers me to rub my G-spot and his fingers are callused and rough, and when we have sex (sorry for the TMI here, y'all), he has a multitude of piercings, two "ladders", one on top and one underneath. I like him with piercings, they look good on him and he loves wearing them...but...ouch, yanno? He has never made me bleed. This is why I am so sure you did nothing to cause her harm, so stop worrying.

I hope you find someone who likes you for who you are and doesn't pick pick pick at you. Now if he had made you write it out correctly a hundred times while you were lying on the floor at his feet, with those feet propped up on your ass...THAT might have been some interesting behavior mod. (As well as FUN.)

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ORIGINAL: angelikaJ

http://www.reducestressnow.net/sidewalk/

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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

I need some advice, or some thoughts because I am kind of freaked out right now.

...{snippage}...

Did I do something wrong? Is there a reason I should be feeling so uncomfortable? I feel like if you decide to play with someone, something might happen, you consent to that. Also with drinking you don't know what could happen. He always told me he was smarter than me and more educated, but his thought process isn't very sharp? Why try to get two people to play together the first night we really hang out ? Should of said no to me asking for alcohol, and stuff like that happens, that doesn't mean i'm a bad person.

Can you please tell me your thoughts? As dominants? I feel bad, but I did what he said. And he was really mad I was 20 minutes late, but I was flustered and nervous. I feel they didn't even give me a chance, or was I the one, who really messed it up? Would you guys judge me off of this stuff too?

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ORIGINAL: MsLadySue

DarkSteven, always the voice of reason. I love reading your posts.

(I taught him everything he knows).

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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss

Anyway, he decides to let me come. We just play pool, it goes well. Then he goes and talks to his wife, he comes out and talks to me, and he says " i want you and her to play together, do you want to?" I'm like... I don't know I feel nervous , i said i'd have to get alcohol to give me that extra push. Well, we ended up drinking, and everything was going great. He told me to play with her... so I did.

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ORIGINAL: lilmisssubmiss
Can you please tell me your thoughts? As dominants?