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xssve -> RE: Liz Trotta On Women Raped In Military: 'What Did They Expect?' (2/19/2012 11:57:39 AM)
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Rape may not be a good thing (fully agreed here, we presume ourselves to be civilized, after all) , and occurs less in nature, the cross definition of such not always being entirely applicable. But let's address the issue of queens (and princesses and 'commoner' women) being attracted to the warrior king that killed more men than others and won the crown, moreso than the farmer, before we get all into this modern notion of how boys are raised differently than girls and are even more induced to violence. If we propose that males are more induced to violence, that could be no less than acknowledging that females are more attracted to it. Attraction to the product of violence and spoils of war play a part here, lest it might have escaped notice. Cleopatra knew the game. True enough, and it's often the elephant in the room when it comes to masculine violence and who in fact, encourages it: women - and of course this is a generalization - like "strong" men, and if that isn't always 100% applicable, at the very least anytime the subject of "real" men, dominants, etc., comes up, you can invariably count on at least one woman stating her preference for "strength" in no uncertain terms, to the point of basically calling into question the very masculinity of any man who doesn't live up to her particular standard - the "nice guy" lovers and likers are never so quick on the draw, nor quite so emphatic about their preferences, it usually more like, "I like nice guys too".
Anyway, so yeah, what you might say is that a lot of males are confused about just how "strong" they should be, or what it means, and here there is a small area of consensus (they should take out the garbage) and a lot of conflicting social theory and praxis.
But I should also add, that in constructing this generalization, my experience at managing bars has taught me that the first rule of managing a bar is avoid fights at all costs, get 'em out the damn door and into the parking lot as fast as possible because chicks don't like fights - it's better not to have bouncers than bouncers who start fights, because if a bar gets a reputation as a fight bar, it's gonna end up a sausage fest.
Chicks like dancing, and if the chicks show up the guys will show up, period. Dancing is a much more entertaining form of competition for all involved, because you don't even have to compete if you don't want to, you can just dance.
When it comes to making generalizations about what customers want, I seldom venture there, in fact when I hear anybody say, "people like this", or "people like that", I take it with a huge grain of salt - you want to know what "people like": ask them - but this I have found to be so far both universal and consistent.
What this has to do with rape in the military anymore, I'm not really sure, but all the really good scenes I got into in the military, group or otherwise, invariably involved dancing at some point. [:D]
And, by contrast, dancing was conspicuously not a feature of any of the ones that went South.
A correlation? Possibly - dancing allows one to display a degree of physical prowess that otherwise has to find some other outlet.
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