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xssve -> RE: Sex and Emotion (2/20/2012 7:33:29 AM)
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ORIGINAL: jennileigh8182
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ORIGINAL: JanahX
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i was told that it is 'unnatural' for all humans for sex and emotions to have anything to do with each other.
All huh? Thats a pretty big general statement. BTW - Does your friend get out much?
Oh, I was properly vexed and frustrated by his generalizations. But, he's an anthropologist and studied in human sexuality, and claims it's all fact. I disagree, but thought maybe I was being overly sensitive, or I was being too emotional.
Personally...I don't really care what the human animal was originally born as. I believe cultures evolve for a reason, because base instincts are not satisfactory, because we as humans learn to want and expect more from each other. Maybe it's not how the first humans were born, but I think as human lives have lengthened, we've come to appreciate and desire more connection than simply an able body to procreate with to keep the species going.
In any case, that's bullshit, it isn't the only consideration, but humans are a pair bonding species overall, and emotional connections help us to form lasting pair bonds.
It is, however, a strictly human adaptive trait, not widely shared with other primates in general, so it isn't universal, some people appear wired for monogamy, others for diversity, most probably go through different phases at different periods of their lives.
And, a 50% failure rate for first marriages argues that even emotional connections are not always sufficient to ensure a successful pair bond, monogamy often takes a bit of practice and dedication, it's softwired, rather than hardwired in most people.
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