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SailingBum -> RE: Sex and Emotion (2/20/2012 12:30:14 PM)

sex is sex... love is love so no the sex is not better. If I love the bitch im banging.

BadOne



LizDeluxe -> RE: Sex and Emotion (2/20/2012 3:12:31 PM)


Do sex and emotion have any connection for you?

Yes, but I do not require the latter to enjoy the former.

Is physical pleasure greater when emotions are involved?

Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Sometimes physical pleasure is enhanced simply because emotions are not involved.

Do emotions (of the appropriate nature) lead to a desire for physical pleasure with the person?

I have never felt that connection between the two.

Are they completely separate entities?

No, despite my conscious focus to divest them from one another.




KnightofMists -> RE: Sex and Emotion (2/20/2012 4:17:44 PM)


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ORIGINAL: jennileigh8182

So, this came up in a long (and frustrating) conversation with someone tonight:

Do sex and emotion have any connection for you? Is physical pleasure greater when emotions are involved? Do emotions (of the appropriate nature) lead to a desire for physical pleasure with the person? Are they completely separate entities?


ETA:

I don't necessarily mean love. Just any emotions about the person.


Why does this have to be an either question?... Can't each situation be considered on it's own? In some situations it's all about the pleasure and the hot slutty sex is what is getting me off. Emotion is hardly a consideration in those times. But sometimes the emotions have a significant influence.



SoftBonds -> RE: Sex and Emotion (2/20/2012 4:32:44 PM)

It's funny, a year ago I would have said that for guys, sex can be good even without emotion.
I was happily married then, now I'm not.
At some point, the emotional response to seeing my ex was so negative that I was no longer interested in sex with her. I'm talking ED lack of interest!
I'm not saying that if a sufficiently hot woman (and I have low standards...) were to offer no strings sex that I'd say no, but the realization that emotions can interfere with sex was a surprise to me. And in hindsight, the most memorable and pleasant sex with the ex was during times where we were more loving.



xssve -> RE: Sex and Emotion (2/20/2012 4:35:42 PM)

I feel the same way about my ex, I still love her, after a fashion, and care about her, but I wouldn't touch her with Ron's dick.



ProlificNeeds -> RE: Sex and Emotion (2/20/2012 4:59:17 PM)

Before reading the other replies my answer to the OP would be, emotion isn't required for sex, but emotion does make a scene or sex, more intense for me, and by emotion it need not be 'love'.
Do I form emotion from sex? Certainly, I can't be involved in an intense intimate experience without forming emotions about it and the person or people involved. Again that doesn't always mean love.

Would I want to waste my time on sexual experiences that were less than the best I could make them for me? No, probably not. If it lacks emotion it won't hold my interest, so total detachment of emotion from sex would be unattractive to me.



jennileigh8182 -> RE: Sex and Emotion (2/20/2012 9:27:16 PM)

I'm sort of impressed at what a good discussion this turned into. Thank you to everyone for sharing truly insightful and thoughtful comments.



kalikshama -> RE: Sex and Emotion (2/21/2012 5:45:32 AM)

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Non-monogamy.

As for no protection it depends very much on the circumstances (who, what type of personal information we've shared including testing, nature of our interaction, etc.). I'm not saying that I am not safe. To be clear, I use protection in most cases.


I'm pretty much the same.

And to bring it back to the OP, I need to have feelings for someone in order to begin the process of considering to not use protection.



DommesLesEnigma -> RE: Sex and Emotion (2/21/2012 8:18:03 AM)


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ORIGINAL: GloriousMorning

For me - it can go either way, sometimes emotions grow and build after becoming intimate with someone, and sometimes feelings grow before the decision to become intimate happens.

For me, sex almost always includes emotions. It's nearly impossible for me to be intimate with someone and not become emotionally involved, even if things don't work out the way we had wanted. Doesn't mean it's always a positive progression, only that I have difficulty embracing the "it's just sex" mindset.



This sums it up quite nicely



hellionsLight -> RE: Sex and Emotion (2/21/2012 9:18:42 AM)

Nope, I can (and have) do (done) sex with no emotions. It was just physical, and a way to get it off my mind.

I don't do that now.



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