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Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:04:02 PM

Aderious

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Message to doms: Find a relatively attractive young female sub who isn't 50 lbs overweight? Then don't bother messaging her because you'll never get a response.

Source: Been here for 9 months, probably sent over 1,000 messages, response rate is WELL under 1%. Tried every strategy in the book. Absolutely nothing works. Female subs almost never view my profile (I get one hit every other month, if that). It's just a constant stream of PM's and views from old gay guys. This is what BDSM is all about. Leather perversions for sexual rejects. My pics speak for themselves. I am not a sexual reject. If this site truly had a population of attractive young sub girls then my inbox would be filled with messages from them. But it's not because they don't exist. This is a fantasy site not a dating site for those under 45 and <300 lbs. If you're over 45 and weigh more than 300 then it becomes an actual dating site, but not before.

Just a friendly FYI to straight male doms: don't waste your time. If it looks too good to be true, it is.Those 18-25 year old sub girls are either gay guys wanting to jerk off to your pics or else they're hit-and-run profiles made once and then forgotten by girls who have no intention of meeting anyone off the site.

< Message edited by Aderious -- 2/21/2012 5:07:34 PM >

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:06:32 PM

mnottertail

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LOLOLOLOL.

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:08:21 PM

Aderious

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roffle doffle eggo waffle

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:09:36 PM

sophia37

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Truthfully if you emailed me and I saw your photo and looked at your profile I'd yes write back, but politely decline.

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:10:07 PM

mnottertail

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Trizzle, trazzle, truzzle trome, time for zis one to go home.

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:10:23 PM

SpiritedRadiance

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You offer nothing to us young female subs but whimpering whining and bullshit...

I dont even have to view your profile to know you wouldnt offer me what i want.. you show only your body which means little, at least you had the courtesy to black out your penis...

Im 23 years old weigh under 300 pounds, and would want nothing to do with you

I dont reply to the majority of the messages i get because they are incompatible and i dont feel like being called names.. nor do i have time to reply no thanks to the dozens of messages i get daily....

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:12:36 PM

SpiritedRadiance

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And oh my god... the dom has no head.. how does it work with no head...

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:14:35 PM

Aderious

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

You offer nothing to us young female subs but whimpering whining and bullshit...

I dont even have to view your profile to know you wouldnt offer me what i want.. you show only your body which means little, at least you had the courtesy to black out your penis...

Im 23 years old weigh under 300 pounds, and would want nothing to do with you

I dont reply to the majority of the messages i get because they are incompatible and i dont feel like being called names.. nor do i have time to reply no thanks to the dozens of messages i get daily....

That's your loss, and I find your point of view totally irrational. By the looks of it you don't even have a single real photo of yourself in your own profile, and yet you find fault with me for showing "only" my body? What is that...

Also, I've never been rude in my messages, so that's definitely not the reason for the lack of response.

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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance
And oh my god... the dom has no head.. how does it work with no head...

Says the sub who has neither a head NOR a body. Look who's talking. Where's your face and full body photo, princess?

P.S. I have sent face photos to NUMEROUS people on this site. It's standard procedure for me to attach one when sending out my messages.

So, once again, I've just shot down another proposed "explanation" of yours.

< Message edited by Aderious -- 2/21/2012 5:16:44 PM >

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:14:53 PM

OsideGirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Aderious

Message to doms: Find a relatively attractive young female sub who isn't 50 lbs overweight? Then don't bother messaging her because you'll never get a response.

No response is a response. It says they're not interested.

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My pics speak for themselves.

Yup, they do....and not in a good way.

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If you're over 45 and weigh more than 300 then it becomes an actual dating site, but not before.

This statement has more to do with you, than it does with anyone else.

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Just a friendly FYI to straight male doms: don't waste your time. If it looks too good to be true, it is.

Usually. But, yet it seems like you still tried.

Men outnumber women in the scene by 10:1 which means that the women get to pick and choose. Honestly, your attitude is very off putting and if you contacted me, I'd decline as well.

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:15:54 PM

jennileigh8182

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Can I offer some advice? You may not take it, considering that I'm older than you (29) and I'm a little overweight (but way less than 300lbs).

Your picture, while you think it's showing off your masculinity and physique, actually resembles a gay ad. I couldn't pinpoint exactly what it is about the pic, but it just reminds me of a gay ad. Straight men that have success here don't generally, I believe, use nude body shots, even if you are covering your junk.

Add to that....your profile is very brief. It doesn't say anything about YOU. I like to know who a guy is if I'm going to respond, know something about him, have a clue whether we might be compatible. It's also pretty contradictory. In the paragraph, you say "no men," but under what you're looking for, you listed male-dom couples, submissive men, and submissive trans. That would by why you're getting the gay views....you're listed as looking for them.

Your interest list could use a little tweaking, too. Obviously, you love weightlifting and bodybuilding, but add in ass play, humiliation, nutrition, and the points listed above, and it feels more and more homosexual to me.

I hope you don't find that offensive, but if I viewed your profile, I'd probably think "ehhhh, maybe uncertain of sexuality, didn't put much effort into the written portion."

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:15:56 PM

DarkSteven

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I'm 55. I've met two subs from here that I DID have relationships with, one of whom was under 25 but about 50-60 lbs overweight (not an issue with me - she still looked good). I've met several play partners here as well.

I've also met several friends and some single women that I wasn't really compatible with but introduced to the lifestyle.

But I do better when I go to events and meet people in person. Including some that would be interested except I'm not leaving my sub and they're not poly.

quote:

ORIGINAL: Aderious
My pics speak for themselves.

Agreed. Put some damn clothes on and see if that helps your prospects.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:21:54 PM

jennileigh8182

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I'll also add...

I've sent out PLENTY of messages to male dominants and gotten pretty few responses. Now, maybe that's because I'm a little overweight, or I don't put nude photos on my profile, or that my profile is too long.

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:22:19 PM

OsideGirl

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I met a smokin' hot 24 year old from this site last year. We had a blast.

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:32:38 PM

IrishMist

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

LOLOLOLOL.

I double this and raise with a *snorting snicker*

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:39:56 PM

KnightofMists

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quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist

quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

LOLOLOLOL.

I double this and raise with a *snorting snicker*

You two show no compassion.....

I will add an

AaaaaAaAaw. The poor whiny boy has no one to go out and play with.

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:41:04 PM

mnottertail

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But his name resides on the curtain behind him, it is calling to him, cover me up, this is ridiculous, cover me up......use me like the curtain with your name on it that I am........

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:41:29 PM

Kaliko

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If you've been here for nine months and sent over 1,000 messages, that's...what...ten messages a day? Did you truly find ten submissives a day that interested you enough to want a relationship with them? That's kind of amazing.

Did you write to each of these women in a personal way? That must have taken an awful lot of time.

My guess is (and this is just a guess - perhaps not true at all) that many of the women you wrote to can pick up on the fact that you are mass emailing women just to get a response from someone, rather than waiting to email the women you are truly interested in. Insincerity is fairly easy to pick up on.

Personally, your pictures would be a turnoff for me as well, but that may not be true of all women. Your forum posting, though? The one you started this thread with? Likely that will be a turnoff to just about everyone who reads it.

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:42:22 PM

JstAnotherSub

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KnightofMists

quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist

quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

LOLOLOLOL.

I double this and raise with a *snorting snicker*

You two show no compassion.....

I will add an

AaaaaAaAaw. The poor whiny boy has no one to go out and play with.

Yall are mean!

All I can say is bless the op's heart.

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:42:56 PM

mnottertail

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And you're from the south, ain't ya?

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RE: Female subs don't respond to messages on this site - 2/21/2012 5:44:21 PM

OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko
Your forum posting, though? The one you started this thread with? Likely that will be a turnoff to just about everyone who reads it.

Don't forget this little gem:

http://www.collarchat.com/m_3813138/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#3813138

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