SailingBum
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ORIGINAL: dreamerdreaming
I stand by my earlier reply, and I do share sexyred's feelings that not matching up well on this issue with a prospective s-type, would be a deal-breaker for me.
I'm just the kind of control-freak (and educated, certified, experienced medical professional) who will always want to be intimately involved in every aspect of my slave's health and medical care- and I want him equally closely involved in mine, as well.
....Because sick and injured people are often not their own best advocates- by virtue of the illnesses and injuries themselves. Its hard enough to advocate well for your own proper care, by others when you are ill and injured.
You may be in no shape to be able to get much done, for yourself - because of the compromised physical state you are in- and the fear, confusion, fatigue, pain, shock, etc. that you are going through. So its often a smart, meaningful choice to have someone there for you, by your bedside, who can see things from a point of view that's different from yours, or the doctors. In short, such a person may be able to help you get things done, that you need done- either better, faster, or at all- than you would if it were just you all alone in your hospital bed.
Such an advocate can help make sure that vital information about you or your care, gets passed along properly at shift-change, for example. Another example: if you are really out of it or in a lot of pain, or sleeping, and a tech comes to do a procedure (one that won't help your pain) the advocate can see if maybe its time for your pain meds, or for the dossage to be increased- and the procedure can wait until the meds provide some relief. Or if you're just sleeping, its possible your advocate can delay the tech's procedure for a little while so you can rest.
Having someone with you who is mentally alert can be a big help in the kinds of situations where pain, fear, confusion, blood loss, shock, fatigue, etc. has compomised your ability to think straight. Your advocate will be able to help you and your medical professionals make sense to one another, by serving as a go-between: teasing out needed information for you, and helping make sure your agenda for your care is properly addressed with each interaction.
In summation, it may not be a deal-breaker for others if their significant other won't accompany them to medical appointments- maybe that's just not their thing. And if a patient has a close friend or relative who can perform the duties, who has the time and wants to: they may be a much better choice.
For example: Janie's boyfriend Jon-Jon is a big, dull beefalo who isn't smart, doesn't have very good interpersonal skills, and hates hospitals. He loves Janie, and treats her well, but he hates to see her so ill, or so injured- because its hard for him to see her suffer that way. So he doesn't come to see her much while she's in the hospital because him being so upset, only makes her more upset at a time she needs to stay calm, relax and rest. But Janie's (mother, best friend, sister -whatever- you fill in the blank________) is a medical professional, or knows a lot about medicine and has great communication, and people skills and would love to be there for her during her time of need. She'd consider it a privilege to be allowed to proactively help Janie through this time, spending long hours at her side, helping her get her needs met and be as comfortable, and get as much rest as she can.....
Obviously THAT is who should be helping Janie in her time of need- not Jon-Jon. So in this sort of situation, I'd say go ahead and keep Jon-Jon in your life as long as you want, Janie- but make sure your willing medical advocate (whether its your mother, sister, friend- whatever) is one who is comfortable and happy in that role- and that you do have one, for those times you're in need.
So, OP: got anyone else living nearby, who loves you and might happily fulfill the role of medical advocate for you?
I agree with you. However this was not the case she was having a procedure done that she had many times before. She didn't need a advocate she wanted her hand held. Furthermore he showed up. The OP is a drama queen
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