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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 6:03:24 AM   
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its not about never seeing such things, its about what those things say

Im regularly naked, in public play spaces, at home usually damn near anywhere im comfortable being so...HOWEVER

I dont post that online, im seeking more then just someone to be naked with...

Seeing a dick lets me know that the person with the picture, is a dick and is only looking to fulfill his dick... not what i want in a relationship...

There isnt a double standard, i report both male and female profiles with inappropriate graphic content.. guys dont want to see it as much as girls dont want to see it..

This isnt a porn site, regardless of what the tacky and tasteless ads might lead you to be, it was intended as a personals site, to create relationships.. not quick hookups... not on demand kink..but relationships... and thats the reason for the no explicit pictures...

I quite disagree. This IS a porn site to about 90% of the population. It is a hook-up site, a play site, a relationship site and a kinky, sexual fetish site. It is all-of-the-above. It is like most 'dating' sites...whatever the membership is allowed to make of it.

The idea that any nudity now is offensive is ridiculous given all that anyone can see here and is the very nature of this site and all others like it.

Personally, I believe that one must 'earn' the right to see [it]. So, I'll show you mine...if you show me yours.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 6:18:15 AM   
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If you wish to show all you've got, there are threads for that specifically. Then those who want to see can and those who don't may skip.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 6:22:56 AM   
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not to mention what VAA said: PRIMARY photo is not to be explicit. 2-14 can be whatever ya want (excluding TOS voiolations, and I think we all know what THAT means).

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 6:36:33 AM   
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What a cock shot implies to me is that the user is indiscriminate about who he allows to see (and touch) his stuff. I might be submissive, but I'm not promiscuous. When I was searching, cock shots (even in pics 2-14) were an immediate ignore/delete/block. It showed a lack of class.

Now, this being said, my primary pic is a pic of my breasts (and you can't see my face), BUT they are encased in a camisole. It isn't a nude. If someone wants to see them nekkid, they have to be in a relationship with me.


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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 6:44:12 AM   
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No one I've played with from this site had a cock shot for any of his pictures. I find men who think with their brains, not their cocks, to be better in bed.

Any idiot can use a penis, but a single-tail takes a lot of skill. More single-tail pictures!

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 6:51:21 AM   
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An oxymoron is where two contradicting words are juxtaposed. The term you want is "double standard".

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 6:59:27 AM   
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even then its not a double standard... i see vag shots i report them....most people here that ive talked too dont want to see cocks or vag shots

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 7:01:04 AM   
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What's so hard about understanding that everyone has their own personal standards? That's not rocket science, especially in a country devoted to freedom. We've all been taught since forever that we're free to have our own views and have them mean whatever they do to us, personally.

Whatever reason anyone has for liking explicit nudity and accepting it, is no less valid than any other reason out there not to like it. It's not an oxymoron, or even a double standard, it's personal preference. We all need to conform to whatever rules are in place for things, but how we feel about it belongs to us for whatever reasons we have about it.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 8:17:32 AM   
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Women showing boob pics are like you showing your torso without a shirt. Most women do not however give close up pics of their vagina as their primary pic, or at all.

Just as I don't want to see a penis pic with my tea or while eating, I also don't want a spread leg female close up then either. And yes, I'll report both.


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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 8:42:14 AM   
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One thing you're not taking into account that seems rather blatant is the difference between the sexes, how they think, and what they want. A woman generally wants a relationship, a man may want a relationship, but may also take whatever sex comes his way. Therefore she cares about the quality of the men she wants to meet, a picture of someone's penis or ass puts out the premise that the pic's owner primary purpose is being here for the penis or ass. It's like a target or bullet point- short and sweet, this is what this person is here for and what they are concentrated on. Men however will generally look lovingly at breasts and vagina all day long. It's a gender thing. The genders have different wiring and different goals- that's not an oxymoron, it's apples and oranges.

Women are just as capable, and mind you there are a few out there that do, of having the thinking you described above. Yes it might not be as clearly noted as it is to the male gender, but nevertheless. I get the tackieness, lack of taste, rudeness, volgarity in it all. But you all must understand how incredibly asinine it is to only regulate the main picture and then wash your hand, so to speak, on all others.

Personally, I liked it in the good old days when you had to wait a day for the simplest of pictures to be approved. You want classy, try changing CM's policies back to the way they were.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 8:47:53 AM   
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Why don't you understand that your primary pic shows up whenever you post? Or whenever your profile comes up on the main page? Whereas we have to go looking to see your cock shots. Those of us who dislike those kinds of photos don't click the photos in order to avoid such pictures. You have them but they aren't shoved in my face whether I like it or not.

Beyond everything else, if you're hoping to meet a woman here, why are you insisting on doing something that guarantees no woman will talk to you? How helpful is that in achieving your goal?


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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 8:59:53 AM   
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You're making it seem as if you are trying to find a compatable person on chatroulette. Are you honestly telling me that because of the main picture, solely the main picture, you will click next on a profile before even reading whatever the person has to say?

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 9:09:34 AM   
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You're making it seem as if you are trying to find a compatable person on chatroulette. Are you honestly telling me that because of the main picture, solely the main picture, you will click next on a profile before even reading whatever the person has to say?


Yes, if the main picture is of a cock I have no interest in the rest of the profile for the reasons I stated above.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 9:12:34 AM   
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ORIGINAL: simplyphilly

You're making it seem as if you are trying to find a compatable person on chatroulette. Are you honestly telling me that because of the main picture, solely the main picture, you will click next on a profile before even reading whatever the person has to say?


I will and if I don't like the nick, I will do the same. My interest is not a cock or anything other than a person that might fit my life. Do I want my partner or partner to be to be so blatantly open to sharing what could be mine one day? No. Do I want someone focused mostly on sex? No. Am I a prude? Maybe... but I am okay with that.

I do like classy nudity, but that doesn't mean I wish to view it every day. Come to think of it... if a man watches too much porn, belongs to all sorts of sexually oriented sites, etc. I won't want him either. Is that because I don't like sex or am a prude? No. I like these things in moderation. Anything not in balance or moderation is too extreme for me and suggests a focus or addiction I just don't want in a partner.

If I see his cock before I know his name... I won't want to know him. I am what I am... but so apparently is the guy showing his cock. I feel the same with the pussy shots. I am not interested. When I am, I will ask to see it. I don't care what year it is... what society is like or anything else. I don't want to see it constantly. Damn... have ya seen some of the ugly people are showing off? Look at my pretty cock that looks like something I found attached to a pier pole a long time ago. That shit can be freaky! If you have a freaky one... I better like you a whole lot so that I see the person and not the freaky thing in your pants.


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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 9:15:34 AM   
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I suppose I can't fault you for that. I do however look at the words and text written down before making a judgement on the picture in front of.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 9:26:01 AM   
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Username too, good point. I subtract points from anyone whose nick includes "69."

I'm friends with someone who has a variant of "enjoys fellatio" as his nick and he truly is all about the drive by blow jobs despite saying in his profile that he could be monogamous with the right woman.


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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 9:27:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: simplyphilly

One thing you're not taking into account that seems rather blatant is the difference between the sexes, how they think, and what they want. A woman generally wants a relationship, a man may want a relationship, but may also take whatever sex comes his way. Therefore she cares about the quality of the men she wants to meet, a picture of someone's penis or ass puts out the premise that the pic's owner primary purpose is being here for the penis or ass. It's like a target or bullet point- short and sweet, this is what this person is here for and what they are concentrated on. Men however will generally look lovingly at breasts and vagina all day long. It's a gender thing. The genders have different wiring and different goals- that's not an oxymoron, it's apples and oranges.

Women are just as capable, and mind you there are a few out there that do, of having the thinking you described above. Yes it might not be as clearly noted as it is to the male gender, but nevertheless. I get the tackieness, lack of taste, rudeness, volgarity in it all. But you all must understand how incredibly asinine it is to only regulate the main picture and then wash your hand, so to speak, on all others.

Personally, I liked it in the good old days when you had to wait a day for the simplest of pictures to be approved. You want classy, try changing CM's policies back to the way they were.


Why yes, women are capable of having the thinking I described, which is why I was careful to use qualifiers when I wrote the post. Then you agreed to what I wrote, confusing, not sure what your point was in all that then. Also, as I pointed out, many of those purporting to be women here are not in fact women. That contingent is not some small, insignificant, part of the site.

Back in the day when things had to be approved picture by picture this was a smaller site. They've got volunteers mod-ing it, and it's free....if they were to approve each shot they'd have to add many more people to work on that task as the site has grown exponentially bigger. I like it free, not sure if you feel that way.

You seem to feel very black and white about many things, that is your prerogative, it might be easier for you if you accepted the fact that many other humans out there have their own view of things.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 9:29:51 AM   
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Sometimes you just have to see for yourself, so that's exactly what I did. I saw five asses, one extremely hairy chest, and two dicks...but both were from afar so the size can possibly be brought up for question. I would have loved to of read the words in their profile, however there were none. Situations like that I can completely understand. But what about a tactful nudey, almost artistically speaking?

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 9:31:40 AM   
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Might there be perhaps an easy access compiled list of all these offending attributes?

You know, just in case I might want to contact all those with said offending attributes.

Only to let them know how verklempt I am at the offending attributes of course.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 9:36:04 AM   
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ORIGINAL: simplyphilly

You're making it seem as if you are trying to find a compatable person on chatroulette. Are you honestly telling me that because of the main picture, solely the main picture, you will click next on a profile before even reading whatever the person has to say?


Absolutely I will judge what someone puts out about themselves, why else is it there? What else do I have to go on? What would be the use of ignoring what people have to say about themselves? Don't you do the same with book covers or food packaging? If that's what you have to go on - the outside descriptors - then that is what you use. Am I supposed to honestly open every book to see if it's in the category that I want and will be interesting for me to read? I dont have that much time. If I want cereal with rice in it and not wheat, then I'm going to read what's on the package and judge whether it's suited to my purpose or not.

It's nice that you have the time and desire to spend more time on things regarding the profiles here. You might also take into account that women here have 10 times as much mail to wade through then men do or more. If you don't have some kind of filtering mechanism in place you could easily spend hours a day. While I admire your more thorough approach, if I want rice cereal or a mystery, I'm pretty much going to look for that on the outside and then delve in deeper when I find something within that category.

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