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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 9:38:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		If he wanted to focus on conversation he wouldn't be showing me his cock unless he wanted me to specifically speak to that... and I am not going to. If he can't show me he has some brains and class, besides even an artfully posed cock... he isn't smart enough for me. Cock I can get anywhere... intelligence is another matter. If he has a great profile and a cock picture, one might think he has something to offer somehow... but I've found a cock shot is just a little hint of where he wants to go with this. I either put out for his mighty cock or he doesn't want to talk intelligently anymore. I will save myself some time and just pass.

I really like people that expose their brain before they expose a body part. Artful nudity... well, that is situational and they would have to really say something I found of worth in their profile.


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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 9:42:16 AM   
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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 9:44:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: simplyphilly

Sometimes you just have to see for yourself, so that's exactly what I did. I saw five asses, one extremely hairy chest, and two dicks...but both were from afar so the size can possibly be brought up for question. I would have loved to of read the words in their profile, however there were none. Situations like that I can completely understand. But what about a tactful nudey, almost artistically speaking?


I would consider a tactful nude picture lovely to look at, I love art museums after all, but completely inappropriate in the area of meeting people. It's not generally a good move to meet people at a party in the nude no matter how amazing you look. It says certain things about you, about what you value, and what you are looking for. If I were single I'd probably be looking for a relationship and a tasteful nude wouldn't set me on fire for that person as it would emphasize that he is putting out information on what he looks like over who he is.

I have up an avatar in skimpy clothing. I like it. I think it's an attractive representation of me, my partner likes that picture, win win. If I were looking for a relationship that avatar would bite the dust as it would put out information about me that I would consider false, misleading, and inappropriate to my goal of meeting a man for a possible relationship.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 9:50:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: simplyphilly

You're making it seem as if you are trying to find a compatable person on chatroulette. Are you honestly telling me that because of the main picture, solely the main picture, you will click next on a profile before even reading whatever the person has to say?



Yes. Not only will I not want to talk to that person, I will report that photo for violating TOS.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 9:54:19 AM   
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ORIGINAL: thisisthe1

It seems like the people that you meet are so far away and the people that are in your own state dont want to meet. Looking for a sub woman here in MICHIGAN!!


so you hijacked this thread for a personal ad? way to go. May I direct you to the INTRO forum?

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 9:58:29 AM   
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ORIGINAL: simplyphilly

It is not acceptable, nor appreciated when a guy has any sort of nudity in his pictures. Yet, at the same time, females will post pictures of themself and their submissives (both past and present) with objects inside them, performing degrading acts, and acting like an animal...while in the nude.



No double standard here, I don't like to see any of them on here.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 10:00:02 AM   
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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 10:01:47 AM   
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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 10:04:08 AM   
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ORIGINAL: simplyphilly

You're making it seem as if you are trying to find a compatable person on chatroulette. Are you honestly telling me that because of the main picture, solely the main picture, you will click next on a profile before even reading whatever the person has to say?

If he pokes me in the eye with his cock I can't or won't read anything he has to say.
The first thing I saw on my who's viewing
page this morning was a cock. Didn't
intrigue me.
Didn't your mother ever tell you, you only
have one chance to make a good first impression?
I'm not a prude and I appreciate the make
body but a cock shots on profiles are like being flashed in the park. Not a turn on
for the one it's getting sprung on.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 10:58:15 AM   
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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 11:01:14 AM   
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But what about a tactful nudey, almost artistically speaking?


Cock shots are very different from this:


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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 11:12:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Nanako
we don't want to see cocks. but you want to see boobs >.>

how is it possible to have anything but a double standard?

Exactly, even many women even enjoy looking at boobs; but few, men or women, enjoy looking at cocks. Even most of the gay/bi guys I know personally would rather look at pecs or ass than cock, although I cannot speak beyond my own experiences.

But I fail to see how that is a double standard. To me, that would be like saying I've got a double standard because I'm straight and like women, not men. If having a preferences is a double standard, then just about everything is a double standard as just about everything has those who prefer it and those who do not.

There are many other factors to it as well. Nature designed genitals to be more functional than attractive. Even for those who find them attractive, I've found the attraction is still in their function, not how pleasing they are to the eye. Most girls who say they love sucking cock have told me they don't much care for how it looks or tastes, but they love the way it affects the man, pleases the man. Something I've even seen with dommes--I see far more dommes who want subbie men for CBT not to give them BJs.

Nature designed breasts to be both functional and attractive. It is claimed that newborns have not yet learned how to focus their eyes, so the contrast between the areolas and the rest of the the breast helps them locate the nipple for feeding. I suspect that nature instills a certain amount of instinctual fascination with female breasts for simple survival, and even as we get older, it's still there. There's also the issue that if a man can have a picture with a bare chest, would it not also be a double standard that a woman cannot?

Consider this, too. I've seen many posts telling a guy with a cock pic to cover it up and such, and the guy just ignores it. The TOS notwithstanding, we generally do not impose upon the other person so much as try to give them some advice based on knowing that men and women are different in what they look for and find attractive. If the guy wants to continue to have his cock pic right up front and serious damage his chances of finding a mate, so be it.

One could also argue that being forced to view a cock pic just because of some idea that a guy should be allowed to express himself and stick it in someone's view, but not allowing the person to object and express their opinion, is also a double standard.

And on and on.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 11:37:23 AM   
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ORIGINAL: simplyphilly

You're making it seem as if you are trying to find a compatable person on chatroulette. Are you honestly telling me that because of the main picture, solely the main picture, you will click next on a profile before even reading whatever the person has to say?



Absolutely. I'm monogamous and am not interested in a man who is willing to let anyone and everyone see a private part of his anatomy. It would be obvious to me that we do not share similar values in that area and would thus be incompatible as partners.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 11:45:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: VideoAdminAlpha

The guidelines specifically state NO EXPLICIT PHOTOS for your primary photo, ERGO no penii on the first page.


Whew. I've had a cock pic up on my profile for the last couple of weeks. It's not on the first page though.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 12:05:49 PM   
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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 12:07:07 PM   
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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 12:12:22 PM   
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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 12:50:38 PM   
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ORIGINAL: simplyphilly

You're making it seem as if you are trying to find a compatable person on chatroulette. Are you honestly telling me that because of the main picture, solely the main picture, you will click next on a profile before even reading whatever the person has to say?



This wasn't directed at me, but....yes.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 1:08:44 PM   
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ORIGINAL: VideoAdminAlpha

Great forget to add the last descriptive part of what is actually posted. GHeez.


Three minutes, VAA, for you to show up on my 'Who's viewing me'. Three minutes.

That is *not* ladylike and I'm *deeply* disappointed with you this day.

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RE: Is there some sort of oxymoron here... - 2/26/2012 1:11:30 PM   
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LoreBook, I LOVE your avatar! Very clever!


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