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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/3/2012 6:28:09 AM   
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Come out to any of the following events.. and get to know people...(and people wonder why im always bloody tired)


Invasion of Genos Philly March 3rd (what you order)
SEPA- Bensalem March 3rd (costs what you order)
Gate Munch philly March 3rd (pay your tab)
Philly Friends Philly March 7th (pay your own tab)
NDDs - Claymont DE March 8th (Munch cost ten dollars and covered dish)
Avairy NE Philly March 10th (Play party costs ten dollars)
Black Phoenix Philly March 10th (play party cost 10 dollars)
Edumunchcation Philly March 11th
Phoenixville munch Phoenixville March 13 (cost of tab)
Bucks County munch Levitown March 14th (pay your own tab)
Kulture Shock Philly March 16(play party cost 5 before 10pm and 10 after)
RopeBite Philly Philly March 21 (pay your own tab)
Kinky Mardi Gras Jersey March 24th (40 dollars play party, tickets on sale at gate munch and online almost sold out)
PWSM March kop malvern area 27 (pay your own tab)
Rope Bite Philly demo and BP Play party Philly March 31s (10 dollars)




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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/3/2012 8:23:31 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

Come out to any of the following events.. and get to know people...(and people wonder why im always bloody tired)


Invasion of Genos Philly March 3rd (what you order)
SEPA- Bensalem March 3rd (costs what you order)
Gate Munch philly March 3rd (pay your tab)
Philly Friends Philly March 7th (pay your own tab)
NDDs - Claymont DE March 8th (Munch cost ten dollars and covered dish)
Avairy NE Philly March 10th (Play party costs ten dollars)
Black Phoenix Philly March 10th (play party cost 10 dollars)
Edumunchcation Philly March 11th
Phoenixville munch Phoenixville March 13 (cost of tab)
Bucks County munch Levitown March 14th (pay your own tab)
Kulture Shock Philly March 16(play party cost 5 before 10pm and 10 after)
RopeBite Philly Philly March 21 (pay your own tab)
Kinky Mardi Gras Jersey March 24th (40 dollars play party, tickets on sale at gate munch and online almost sold out)
PWSM March kop malvern area 27 (pay your own tab)
Rope Bite Philly demo and BP Play party Philly March 31s (10 dollars)





You deserve accolades for putting that together....


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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/3/2012 8:38:25 AM   
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You're not what she wants, so just move on. Send a reply back wishing her the best and let it go.

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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/3/2012 8:46:11 AM   
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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: orimotis69


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: JeffBC
The moment she came out with the "real master" thing I'd know that if nothing else, she was too parochial and too judgemental to be life partner with me. I'm good with "you're not what I'm looking for". But declaring someone else "unreal" is just plain insulting.


Yeah, I was thinking the same thing. These words usually come from people that haven't had a long term D/s relationship (or even any real time D/s relationship) and have unrealistic expectations of what a "master" should be.


Perhaps, but she did say she had a Master for 3 years.

That doesn't mean anything. Did ya read the thread where a woman showed up at his house, gave him money, blew him, cleaned his house and then left....for two years? She called him a Master.

To some people, having a play session every Saturday night gets them to say they had a Master, when in reality, they just had a kinky sex date. In other words.....still hasn't had a D/s relationship....


if your gonna tell the story tell it right. We talked daily for 2 to 3 hours like clockwork. Now the story is right. Thank you.

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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/3/2012 8:50:55 AM   
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ORIGINAL: orimotis69

So I'm currently talking to a sub I meet from CM and things started off fairly good. I asked her questions like what she does, what kind of experiences she had, and what kind of fantasies she has. I of course also told her about myself. Most of the time I was asking her questions and she never really asked me anything even though I told that she should. But now she telling me that she doesn't have time for this and that I'm not a real Master. Is there something I'm missing here? I didn't try to rush anything so I took it slow and wanted to get to know her more. I've communicated with her through IM but we haven't talked to each other through web cam yet.
Should I respond to this or should I just move on?


She decided you weren't a good fit, good thing you found out now rather than later when you had more invested in this thing. For me, if you'd started off with anything to do with experiences and fantasies - meaning sexual or kinky - i'd have dropped you like a hot potato. Too fast, too presumptive of a stranger. People all have their feelings on that, but most women I've noticed aren't here for a quick wank and will get to the more intimate details of their intimate selves when they know you and have decided to go into more intimate territory.

General rule of thumb that I think works well is treat this venue like any other for meeting people, if you wouldn't ask them a certain type of thing on the street, then don't do it here. JMO of course but that is the one thing that'll have you out the door faster than a speeding bullet for me anyway. It doesn't matter if I was looking for a one night stand. I can get sex whenever, so how am I going to make a choice? Well, for me, it's if I like the guy. If I don't even like him it doesn't matter if his dick has an auto pilot setting and vibrates or we have matching fantasies and activity interests - I'm not getting near the guy even if it's for a one time thing unless I kind of like him. I figure out the like part by getting to know him, not his fantasies.

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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/3/2012 9:23:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: fucktoyprincess


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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

Come out to any of the following events.. and get to know people...(and people wonder why im always bloody tired)


Invasion of Genos Philly March 3rd (what you order)
SEPA- Bensalem March 3rd (costs what you order)
Gate Munch philly March 3rd (pay your tab)
Philly Friends Philly March 7th (pay your own tab)
NDDs - Claymont DE March 8th (Munch cost ten dollars and covered dish)
Avairy NE Philly March 10th (Play party costs ten dollars)
Black Phoenix Philly March 10th (play party cost 10 dollars)
Edumunchcation Philly March 11th
Phoenixville munch Phoenixville March 13 (cost of tab)
Bucks County munch Levitown March 14th (pay your own tab)
Kulture Shock Philly March 16(play party cost 5 before 10pm and 10 after)
RopeBite Philly Philly March 21 (pay your own tab)
Kinky Mardi Gras Jersey March 24th (40 dollars play party, tickets on sale at gate munch and online almost sold out)
PWSM March kop malvern area 27 (pay your own tab)
Rope Bite Philly demo and BP Play party Philly March 31s (10 dollars)



You deserve accolades for putting that together....



She deserves more for selflessly personally checking them all out.


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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/3/2012 9:14:55 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

Come out to any of the following events.. and get to know people...(and people wonder why im always bloody tired)


Invasion of Genos Philly March 3rd (what you order)
SEPA- Bensalem March 3rd (costs what you order)
Gate Munch philly March 3rd (pay your tab)
Philly Friends Philly March 7th (pay your own tab)
NDDs - Claymont DE March 8th (Munch cost ten dollars and covered dish)
Avairy NE Philly March 10th (Play party costs ten dollars)
Black Phoenix Philly March 10th (play party cost 10 dollars)
Edumunchcation Philly March 11th
Phoenixville munch Phoenixville March 13 (cost of tab)
Bucks County munch Levitown March 14th (pay your own tab)
Kulture Shock Philly March 16(play party cost 5 before 10pm and 10 after)
RopeBite Philly Philly March 21 (pay your own tab)
Kinky Mardi Gras Jersey March 24th (40 dollars play party, tickets on sale at gate munch and online almost sold out)
PWSM March kop malvern area 27 (pay your own tab)
Rope Bite Philly demo and BP Play party Philly March 31s (10 dollars)




That list is awesome!
Thank you so much for posting it, Been trying to find where to dip a toe in the community.

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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/3/2012 10:48:05 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: lizi


quote:

ORIGINAL: orimotis69

So I'm currently talking to a sub I meet from CM and things started off fairly good. I asked her questions like what she does, what kind of experiences she had, and what kind of fantasies she has. I of course also told her about myself. Most of the time I was asking her questions and she never really asked me anything even though I told that she should. But now she telling me that she doesn't have time for this and that I'm not a real Master. Is there something I'm missing here? I didn't try to rush anything so I took it slow and wanted to get to know her more. I've communicated with her through IM but we haven't talked to each other through web cam yet.
Should I respond to this or should I just move on?


She decided you weren't a good fit, good thing you found out now rather than later when you had more invested in this thing. For me, if you'd started off with anything to do with experiences and fantasies - meaning sexual or kinky - i'd have dropped you like a hot potato. Too fast, too presumptive of a stranger. People all have their feelings on that, but most women I've noticed aren't here for a quick wank and will get to the more intimate details of their intimate selves when they know you and have decided to go into more intimate territory.

General rule of thumb that I think works well is treat this venue like any other for meeting people, if you wouldn't ask them a certain type of thing on the street, then don't do it here. JMO of course but that is the one thing that'll have you out the door faster than a speeding bullet for me anyway. It doesn't matter if I was looking for a one night stand. I can get sex whenever, so how am I going to make a choice? Well, for me, it's if I like the guy. If I don't even like him it doesn't matter if his dick has an auto pilot setting and vibrates or we have matching fantasies and activity interests - I'm not getting near the guy even if it's for a one time thing unless I kind of like him. I figure out the like part by getting to know him, not his fantasies.


I did start out with general questions but then I started running out of things to say. Even then it felt like the conversation was a bit one sided.

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-Every point of view is useful, even those that are wrong - if we can judge why a wrong view was accepted.
-You have not really defeated the enemy if you adopt their methods.

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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/4/2012 6:43:39 AM   
lizi


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ORIGINAL: orimotis69


I did start out with general questions but then I started running out of things to say. Even then it felt like the conversation was a bit one sided.


Well, even more proof then that she wasn't really as interested as you'd hoped if you were carrying the weight of the conversation. Still, even if someone is running out of subjects to talk about, it's not a good reason to start in with things that are not appropriate. That is just social interaction 101- keep things polite and superficial till you get signal to go further.

Why not try a munch? Maybe something in person would be easier for you socially, and the odds are probably better of meeting someone. I know they've been suggested to you before...have you looked into finding a real life gathering somewhere close to you?

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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/4/2012 7:19:00 AM   
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Lizi, i posted over 10 events that are close and local to him to try out to do just that,

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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/4/2012 2:40:33 PM   
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You certainly did SR, forgive me for not referencing it as part of my post. I popped in to see the most recent addition and responded without reading back. I knew it had been suggested that he get out to a real world event and thought it was another place, but here it was.

OP, you got a huge helping hand from a fellow poster on getting yourself out in a hopefully more successful venue...give it a shot!

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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/4/2012 2:45:24 PM   
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Killer profile/notes SR :)

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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/4/2012 3:24:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: orimotis69

I did start out with general questions but then I started running out of things to say. Even then it felt like the conversation was a bit one sided.


Hey OP, I really have to say that the above statement of running out of things to say so you started in with inappropriate (kink/sexual) conversation is the pits. I've never actually seen that used as an excuse before, that you needed something to talk about, anything, so you decided to go into private territory.

You say the conversation was one sided, maybe she was having a hard time chatting with someone who didnt' have much to say. Maybe you should brush up a bit on social skills? I mean we've all had shy moments, but if you can't sustain a superficial conversation for more than an email or two before delving in to no man's land- that could be why she scampered.

I'm really shaking my head at the thought that you had nothing to say so you dove into personal territory stuff. I think you can do better than that. If you can't, you really need to figure that part out - how to talk to women. It's not always easy and for some it's harder than others, but come on...you've got to have some tools to work with or how will you ever get off the ground with someone here or in real life?

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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/4/2012 8:48:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Killerangel


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ORIGINAL: orimotis69

I did start out with general questions but then I started running out of things to say. Even then it felt like the conversation was a bit one sided.


Hey OP, I really have to say that the above statement of running out of things to say so you started in with inappropriate (kink/sexual) conversation is the pits. I've never actually seen that used as an excuse before, that you needed something to talk about, anything, so you decided to go into private territory.

You say the conversation was one sided, maybe she was having a hard time chatting with someone who didnt' have much to say. Maybe you should brush up a bit on social skills? I mean we've all had shy moments, but if you can't sustain a superficial conversation for more than an email or two before delving in to no man's land- that could be why she scampered.

I'm really shaking my head at the thought that you had nothing to say so you dove into personal territory stuff. I think you can do better than that. If you can't, you really need to figure that part out - how to talk to women. It's not always easy and for some it's harder than others, but come on...you've got to have some tools to work with or how will you ever get off the ground with someone here or in real life?

It's a bit hard when the conversation is one-sided. It's not like I don't have any social skills. I socialize at my job all the time.

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-Every point of view is useful, even those that are wrong - if we can judge why a wrong view was accepted.
-You have not really defeated the enemy if you adopt their methods.

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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/5/2012 4:19:34 AM   
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I bet I could think of 100, yes 100, different discussion topics that have nothing to do with kink. And no, I am not going to list them for you.

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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/5/2012 5:30:11 AM   
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I bet I could think of 100, yes 100, different discussion topics that have nothing to do with kink. And no, I am not going to list them for you.

and you felt the need to say this why?
yes I'm sure if you concentrate hard enough and use the power of the internet you could list 100 different things.

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-You have not really defeated the enemy if you adopt their methods.

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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/5/2012 5:38:47 AM   
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Dude drop the internet and do it real bloody life....

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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/5/2012 5:43:34 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

Dude drop the internet and do it real bloody life....

yes, yes, I heard you the first time. I'm going to a meeting this Wednesday.

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-Every point of view is useful, even those that are wrong - if we can judge why a wrong view was accepted.
-You have not really defeated the enemy if you adopt their methods.

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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/5/2012 8:09:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: orimotis69


quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I bet I could think of 100, yes 100, different discussion topics that have nothing to do with kink. And no, I am not going to list them for you.

and you felt the need to say this why?
yes I'm sure if you concentrate hard enough and use the power of the internet you could list 100 different things.


Because I am not going to serve your lazy ass and do the work for you!

Is THAT clear enough???

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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: Did I do something wrong? - 3/5/2012 3:13:31 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse


quote:

ORIGINAL: orimotis69


quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I bet I could think of 100, yes 100, different discussion topics that have nothing to do with kink. And no, I am not going to list them for you.

and you felt the need to say this why?
yes I'm sure if you concentrate hard enough and use the power of the internet you could list 100 different things.


Because I am not going to serve your lazy ass and do the work for you!

Is THAT clear enough???

and since when did I ask you to "do the work for me"? I asked for an outsiders perspective on the situation I'm in and I got. What you did was get on your high horse and make a bunch of useless comments.



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-Every point of view is useful, even those that are wrong - if we can judge why a wrong view was accepted.
-You have not really defeated the enemy if you adopt their methods.

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