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marieToo -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 12:45:44 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Calandra
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ORIGINAL: pinkee
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Suddenly after Calandra exposed someone for doing something that she feels is wrong, people begun *supporting* public exposure. Therefore, it would seem hypocritical, in my view, to say its ok in some cases but not in others. The problem comes in when we think about what is right/wrong, moral/immoral...these things are all subject to individual interpretation. You will never find 100% agreeing that polyamory is moral/immoral, that cheating on a spouse is good/bad etc. In other words, to this girl....married men who email her should be exposed. To Calandra people who expose married men in vanilla communites should be exposed. What I am seeing here is a double standard---two sets of rules---ie....For the girl is was wrong because of a, b, and c. For Calandra it was right because of x, y and z.
marieToo
Please review my earlier post. i don't know whether the information you posted about Calandra is true, and i don't know how you came into possession of it if it is true. The obvious delight you took in posing Calandra as a hypocrite does not, IMO, justify what you have done.
pinkee
pinkee, marie is posing some well considered positions about the situation... and I am not offended by her points. I think that even on the rare occasions that we go against our own ethics because we feel it is the right thing to do, we should at least be willing to ask the hard questions. marie is asking questions that I might ask if the shoe were on the other foot...
To marie: I have one for you... we all agree that privacy is important, what about this example... you see someone that you know to be a sex offender hanging around a playground full of children... now this person is not doing anything to endanger the children, but you know the threat is there because of actions he has taken in the past... do you go to the parents sitting close by, or even the police and report what you know? I'd hope to hear you say yes, because sometimes one person's need/want of privacy infringes upon another person's right to be informed of potential danger.
That's where I stand on this... I agree with you for the most part, but I am very comitted to helping our community police itself in order to avoid legal, medical, and other forms of damage BEFORE it becomes a statistic.
Hypothetically I "know" this guy is a sex offender? Or I "think" he "might" be? Has he been convicted? These things would all play into my thoughts and how I would handle it. Hypothetically speaking if I believed him to be dangerous in any way shape or form to children, I would tell the parents that I knew, what my opinion of him was and to be careful. Then they can do what they wish with the info...either take me seriously or brush it off as my opinion.
I definately wouldnt post or otherwise announce *publically* that he is an offender of any kind. That would be the place of the law to do so. In fact, in some states they do have a law about informing citizens if a past sex offender moves into the neighborhood.
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