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gooddogbenji -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 9:04:14 AM)

I agree with "policing" anything you can verify, but my point is that a profile on CM does not constitute proof of person.  So this profile doing this does not mean it is actually the person in the picture.

If you have decent proof of person, by all means, feel free to enforce rules within your group, but without it, you have no grounds to act on these e-mails.

Yours,


benji




TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 9:06:06 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty
You can't say it is unethical to out someone without defining some standard code of ethics (and even beyond that the circumstances of such an outing). 

I certainly can and just did. 



And you can say that 1+1=3...it wouldn't make it so.


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I had thought you of all people would respect and understand that.


I think you have developed a bit of a defensive posture on this board...but that makes some sense seeing how often you are attacked.  There is no harm in people talking about the basics and establishing definitions from which to work.  Even the most accomplished ballet dancer begins every class with plies.

I wasn't attacking...just discussing.

Taggard




iliv2servher -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 9:06:21 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Calandra

I wanted to ask for everyone's opinion... Do you think it is ethical to post email addresses, pictures, instant messenger ID's, and/or private correspondence to a popular vanilla website where "anyone" could run across it?
 
I realize that even here "anyone" could run across it, but they'd have to have a reason for coming here first (curiosity, kinky needs of their own, checking up on a spouse if there's already suspicion)... On a vanilla website a person could easily find these posts, maybe recognize a picture, and then boom, that person is outed.
 
Please explain why you answer the way that you do...


Who is doing this?  I think it is totally improper for a third party to post any information, especially photos, of any CM member.  It may even be a voilation of the Terms of Service.

-iliv2servHer 




FirmhandKY -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 9:07:54 AM)

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

using the fast reply feature here....

Obviously we are all in agreement that to post someones private information, photo's, words, etc is unethical and morally wrong. However, I have learned the hard way that it is not illegal. At least not in the sense we are discussing. I have a profile on another site, it has existed for quite a number of years and had several photos, none of which were in the least distasteful or even gave away my identity as I was unsure wether I wanted the world to know about my sexual tendencies and I did have children living at home when it was created.
Several months ago a friend of mine emailed me in a teasing fashion asking when I got ten years younger. After a couple more emails back and forth I found out that someone had copied my profile, word for word, photo's AND even used the same profile name with one character difference on another site. Suffice to say I was livid. I instantly contacted the webmaster of the site with a long detailed letter, referencing my profile I had actually created on the first site etc. I was totally ignored. Finally I contacted again threatening legal action. WELL, I found out that unless I copywrited it and plastered a bunch of legal disclaimers on it, of course I didn't, anything of that nature that I put on this beloved internet is considered public domain. Soooo, legally I had no case whatsoever. While someone else "outing you", using your personal information for their own gain, or any other number of unethical tricks may be just, wrong, it is not illegal unless you have taken steps to legally "own" that information.



LaTigresse,

You have been given incorrect information.  Your work is NOT ever public domain unless you explicitly give up all your rights to them.

Copyright law has changed a lot over the last several years.  You really should do some googling on the subject, and contact a lawyer competent in the subject.

IF you are getting your information from the website that refused to take action, I believe you may have a tortable offense in Federal Court.

Some extracts of some information from a few different websites concerning copyright:

10 Big Myths about copyright explained:

1) "If it doesn't have a copyright notice, it's not copyrighted."
    This was true in the past, but today almost all major nations follow the Berne copyright convention. For example, in the USA, almost everything created privately and originally after April 1, 1989 is copyrighted and protected whether it has a notice or not.

3) "If it's posted to Usenet it's in the public domain."
    False. Nothing modern and creative is in the public domain anymore unless the owner explicitly puts it in the public domain(*). Explicitly, as in you have a note from the author/owner saying, "I grant this to the public domain." Those exact words or words very much like them


5) "If you don't defend your copyright you lose it." -- "Somebody has that name copyrighted!"
    False. Copyright is effectively never lost these days, unless explicitly given away.


10) "They e-mailed me a copy, so I can post it."
    To have a copy is not to have the copyright. All the E-mail you write is copyrighted. However, E-mail is not, unless previously agreed, secret. So you can certainly report on what E-mail you are sent, and reveal what it says. You can even quote parts of it to demonstrate. Frankly, somebody who sues over an ordinary message would almost surely get no damages, because the message has no commercial value, but if you want to stay strictly in the law, you should ask first. On the other hand, don't go nuts if somebody posts E-mail you sent them. If it was an ordinary non-secret personal letter of minimal commercial value with no copyright notice (like 99.9% of all E-mail), you probably won't get any damages if you sue them. Note as well that, the law aside, keeping private correspondence private is a courtesy one should usually honour.

While copyright law makes it technically illegal to reproduce almost any new creative work (other than under fair use) without permission, if the work is unregistered and has no real commercial value, it gets very little protection. The author in this case can sue for an injunction against the publication, actual damages from a violation, and possibly court costs. Actual damages means actual money potentially lost by the author due to publication, plus any money gained by the defendant. But if a work has no commercial value, such as a typical E-mail message or conversational USENET posting, the actual damages will be zero.

Other net references:

Wikipedia article on copyright

Pierce Law Copyright on the Internet

Bit Law Copyright Law in the United States

Internet Society Copyright and Trademark links

Now, from personal experience, what I think you can still very easily do (and what any CM person who has personal material posted by the woman who is maintaining the "shame" blog) is pretty easy and simple.

1.  Ask the website to remove the offending work.  Normally, if they know their law, they will request a signed statement that it is your copyrighted work that they are removing.  If you provide that, they will (must) remove the copyrighted work.

2.  IF they refuse, keep copies of all correspondences (and probably their Terms of Use) and contact a lawyer.  All you can really expect is to apply for, and receive an injunction against the website, and the original poster (even if you can't identify their actual identities).  But it most likely won't even take an injunction, just a letter from a lawyer.

3.  When the website owners receive the injunction they WILL take the material down.  If not, then you are probably well on the way to seeking and getting a civil judgement against them, especially if you can "prove" that they have hurt you in some way.

4.  All of this really won't cost that much.  You start getting into "real" money if you decide to actually sue.  But even then filing a a lawsuit doesn't cost that much, and will send a very strong message to the offender, and the website.  Even if you don't really plan on litigating them, when they receive the paperwork it WILL get their attention.

FYI.  I've done all of these things, in differing contexts.  They work.

FHky




Calandra -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 9:16:11 AM)

Thank you so much for posting this information.
 
I recently read all of that when the huge issue over Quagmyr and the BDSM symbol happened, but couldn't remember where to put my hands on it.
 
I also know that someone in my real time was told by CM that if they could send/fax a copy of her drivers license, (or other picture ID) along with a request for pictures to be removed, they would comply...
 
~shrugs~




cubbyMystC -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 9:17:11 AM)

well i just finished reading that blog myself and personally i am offended by what she did. every post i saw that was written to her, except maybe 1 or 2, was perfectly normal, not mean or hateful or anything and she decided to tear them apart, call them criminals and the such. i understand that she may have had very serious things happen to her in the past and that they may have damaged her tramaticall, but in the other hand if she hates people like that emailing her so much, why in the hell is she still doing on this site?
 
just somebody crying out for attention i guess.....pretty sad if you ask me.............




Calandra -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 9:21:05 AM)

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ORIGINAL: cubbyMystC
well i just finished reading that blog myself and personally i am offended by what she did. every post i saw that was written to her, except maybe 1 or 2, was perfectly normal, not mean or hateful or anything and she decided to tear them apart, call them criminals and the such. i understand that she may have had very serious things happen to her in the past and that they may have damaged her tramaticall, but in the other hand if she hates people like that emailing her so much, why in the hell is she still doing on this site?
 
just somebody crying out for attention i guess.....pretty sad if you ask me.............


~seeing my darling, wonderful, beloved, sexy, hot, sensual, intelligent, brilliant, sexy, sensitive, sexy, boy... squealing in sheer delight~
 
Hiya baby... consider the assignment to read that blog punishment for something you haven't done yet.... ~kisses~




cubbyMystC -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 9:24:01 AM)

~chuckling to myself~

thank You very much Mystress......so should i consider this a tab of sorts then?<L>




Calandra -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 9:26:02 AM)

It's a get outta jail free card baby... use it wisely...




FirmhandKY -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 9:31:30 AM)

kitten,

check your CM email for an email from me.

FHky




MrDiscipline44 -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 9:34:58 AM)

Well, I just read through this convoluted mess of a thread. I have no idea who any is talking about. It would make an interesting soap-opera though. hehehe

All in all, I find people use the word ethics to validate their bullshit and/or to invalidate the bullshit of others. Which really amounts to nothing more then a bunch of bullshit.

My golden rule: Do onto others as they've done onto you.

This person is outting people? Then haul her ass to the carpet. If she's innocent then she'll want to see this person caught as much as everyone else.




buffiyum -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 9:39:52 AM)

It is Never ok to 'out' anyone else, anywhere.... one needs to be cognizant of how that may be perceived by vanillas and of how 'outing' could impact the life of the person being so outed as well as their entier family.
It is very disrespectful. It can be very traumatic for the one being so outted.
Outing yourself is one thing ..... but to do that to another person says a whole heck-of-a-lot about the one doing the outing.... and it aint good atall!! Now, that said, buffy was 'outted' by someone and survived!!
Instead of letting that destroy this one (which yes, it could have), or slinking away in mortified shame.... one 'ran with it' and is now on a few vanilla sites, busily offering helpful links on bdsm to any who come asking about the Lifestyle which is what one lives. M/s, bdsm, it is all a very big big part of buffy's Life and one couldnot ever imagine living outside of that Lifestyle, hence the decision to Not let what another did, destroy buffy but instead, smile, stand tall and keep searching for the One, continuing to grow while one' waits and helping others in the process. Does life get much betta than this?

respectfully
buffy




TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 9:41:03 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44
This person is outting people?


I am not sure you can technically call what she is doing "outing."  She is simply posting their letters of intoduction and collarme account links (sometimes including photos) on a vanilla blog space.

I think the act of "outing" someone has to be a bit more blatant than that...this is more like putting naked pictures of people up on MySpace.

Taggard




bignipples2share -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 9:43:23 AM)

LOL that made me laugh.
And thanks for the map, but I'm still lost along with benji 
< where DID I put those read between the lines glasses>

~Big
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kittinSol -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 9:51:38 AM)

Thank you for the information, all of you lovely people: it is good to know where the heart of darkness is lurking.

Peace always.




gooddogbenji -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 9:58:02 AM)

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ORIGINAL: bignipples2share

LOL that made me laugh.
And thanks for the map, but I'm still lost along with benji 
< where DID I put those read between the lines glasses>



Admit it, there's worse people to be lost with.

Yours,


benji




bignipples2share -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 10:23:37 AM)

awww you're a cutie and ya make good drinks...always a pleasure.

~Big

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feastie -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 10:29:53 AM)

It is never, by any stretch of the imagination, appropriate to take someone else's personal information, no matter where it is posted, and post it elsewhere. 

What if the woman in question, which I've learned this is based on a real person after slogging through this cryptic thread, posted information about vanilla people who've "harmed" her on a BDSM site? 

The intent, either way, is clear.  She intends to cause harm and trouble.  And since when is that ever acceptable for anyone to do to another person?

Unfortunately, just what can be done about it?  When push comes to shove, how many people whose information she posted would be willing to take this to court, if it could possibly get that far?




MrDiscipline44 -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 10:35:47 AM)

Thats not what I understand it to be, feastie. I understand it to be that she's blogging about people from this site (BDSM) on her vanilla site. Apparently she's not only posting about profiles and emails from here but she's also makes accusations about the people as well.




feastie -> RE: Outing Collarme members on vanilla websites...? (6/3/2006 10:44:42 AM)

I understand what she's doing, Discipline.  I just threw out the "What If" scenario to generate a little more thinking along the lines of what it is she's done. 




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