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Women can feel happy when they see their husband or partner is upset, new research has suggested. [...]

Dr Shiri Cohen, the study’s lead author, said: “It could be that for women, seeing that their male partner is upset reflects some degree of the man's investment and emotional engagement in the relationship, even during difficult times.

“This is consistent with what is known about the dissatisfaction women often experience when their male partner becomes emotionally withdrawn and disengaged in response to conflict.” [...]

The study concluded: “Overall, the findings from this study suggest that men may be more satisfied in their relationships when they can accurately read their partners’ positive emotions, while women’s relationship satisfaction may uniquely benefit when they can accurately read their partners’ negative emotions

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko

The comments on that article are great.

"Why do women close their eyes during sex? Because they hate to see a man enjoying himself."

Obviously, it has a lot more to do with the way that women relate to people in general, not just men, and that we feel a connection when someone shows emotion in a manner similar to how we would. Same as men will feel a connection more with someone who displays emotion in a manner similar to himself. This study happens to be among male/female couples, but I think feeling more satisfied in a relationship after a display of emotion can cross gender lines dependent on the people and the relationship. No big shakes.

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I close my eyes when i suck cuz i want to be one with the cock

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko
Obviously, it has a lot more to do with the way that women relate to people in general, not just men, and that we feel a connection when someone shows emotion in a manner similar to how we would. Same as men will feel a connection more with someone who displays emotion in a manner similar to himself. This study happens to be among male/female couples, but I think feeling more satisfied in a relationship after a display of emotion can cross gender lines dependent on the people and the relationship. No big shakes.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
So why does the op believe that a woman needing her partner to be empathetic means the woman is actually a sadist? Because there's zero relationship in that.

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Women can feel happy when they see their husband or partner is upset, new research has suggested.

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ORIGINAL: Anaxagoras

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko
Obviously, it has a lot more to do with the way that women relate to people in general, not just men, and that we feel a connection when someone shows emotion in a manner similar to how we would. Same as men will feel a connection more with someone who displays emotion in a manner similar to himself. This study happens to be among male/female couples, but I think feeling more satisfied in a relationship after a display of emotion can cross gender lines dependent on the people and the relationship. No big shakes.

The primary contention of the article based on the study is that with regard to the feelings in their partners that in turn yield a greater sense of satisfaction in themselves, women find satisfaction in perceiving the opposite feelings to men, and that women can feel more satisfied in relationships when they see their partner unhappy, whereas men do not.

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama
Might want to read the APA article before forming conclusions from the Telegraph article:

http://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2012/03/women-happier.aspx

Women Happier in Relationships When Men Feel Their Pain

Believing your partner is trying to be empathetic more important to relationship than actual empathy, according to new study

WASHINGTON—Men like to know when their wife or girlfriend is happy while women really want the man in their life to know when they are upset, according to a new study published by the American Psychological Association....

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ORIGINAL: tj444
and do you believe that primary contention???..

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cuz, for me,.. there is no greater satisfaction than hearing.. "omg, dont stop baby".. and "omg that feels so good, you give the best bjs i have ever had in my whole life!" and "omg, Im gonna cum, Im gonna cum! ohhhhh.. ohhh.. OHHHHHH OMG!" and then him sitting there all cute n bleary-eyed and unable to walk cuz his legs turned to jello..

Now, i suppose the sadist part comes in if we split up and he never gets that again.. or no where near as good... (snicker)

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ORIGINAL: gigglecream
oh the daily telegraph published some bullshit that infantilizes women. yes let us all discuss this issue with the gravity and dignity it deserves.

farrrrttttttttttt

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ORIGINAL: Anaxagoras

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ORIGINAL: tj444
and do you believe that primary contention???..

Don't really know to be honest, there may be some truth in it but maybe more studies like it need to be done first...

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ORIGINAL: gigglecream
oh the daily telegraph published some bullshit that infantilizes women. yes let us all discuss this issue with the gravity and dignity it deserves.

farrrrttttttttttt

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ORIGINAL: Anaxagoras

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ORIGINAL: gigglecream
oh the daily telegraph published some bullshit that infantilizes women. yes let us all discuss this issue with the gravity and dignity it deserves.

farrrrttttttttttt

The Daily Telegraph merely wrote an article about the study in Harvard. Indeed it could have misrepresented the research but the piece quoted the primary author, and at least it seems it represented her views quite accurately if the other piece kalikshama cited is anything to go by.

Anyone can take what they want from the study. It's by no means a definitive portrait of what women do in relationships, it just pointed to an interesting behaviour trait which doesn't seem to have been discussed much before. I probably shouldn't have used the word "sadism" in the OP as its way too prejorative but its too late to edit it out now!