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ORIGINAL: spankmepink11

I'm the type of person who loves to give sincere compliments/positive input to people...For example...if i walk into a store...and it's noticeably above standard in cleanlinesss...i comment to a clerk to that effect...or...if  someones outfit is  very flattering... servicefood/cleanliness  in restaurants...etc.
I was in a convieniance store/gas station yesterday and there was a woman standing near me  wearing some cropped pants that made her rear end look absolutely flawless...i was dying to tell her so but didn't want to freak her out.....are such compliments inappropriate?  Is there a standard...ie...it's ok for women to compliment other  women in such way but not aceptable  for a man to do so, or, appropriate  to compliment ones friends in such ways...but not strangers? 

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ORIGINAL: Tikkiee

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ORIGINAL: spankmepink11

I'm the type of person who loves to give sincere compliments/positive input to people...For example...if i walk into a store...and it's noticeably above standard in cleanlinesss...i comment to a clerk to that effect...or...if  someones outfit is  very flattering... servicefood/cleanliness  in restaurants...etc.
I was in a convieniance store/gas station yesterday and there was a woman standing near me  wearing some cropped pants that made her rear end look absolutely flawless...i was dying to tell her so but didn't want to freak her out.....are such compliments inappropriate?  Is there a standard...ie...it's ok for women to compliment other  women in such way but not aceptable  for a man to do so, or, appropriate  to compliment ones friends in such ways...but not strangers? 

I will admit to being in the group of those who probably would have taken offense, but that is due simply to my own personal issues in regards to how I look.
However, I have been complimented by others in such a subtle way that it's unnoticed at first.
You could have smiled at the young lady and commented on her outfit. Done with tact and friendliness, she would have understood and probably been pleased.
Of course, she might have been offended but I have found that most, when approached in such a way, react with pleasure instead of offense.

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But... what... <sputter, mumble>...

It always amazes me how some of the most drop dead gorgeous women (yes, I mean you Tikkiee) have body issues.  I know it's normal, but if you could look at yourself through our eyes you'd know you have no reason to have them. 

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And I thank you for the lovely compliment However , my issues stem more from others believing that simply because I am a women, who looks like I do; that I must have 'slept my way or used said attributes' to get where I am today. It becomes very bothersome. [:****]

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ORIGINAL: Tikkiee

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But... what... <sputter, mumble>...

It always amazes me how some of the most drop dead gorgeous women (yes, I mean you Tikkiee) have body issues.  I know it's normal, but if you could look at yourself through our eyes you'd know you have no reason to have them. 

And I thank you for the lovely compliment [:)] However , my issues stem more from others believing that simply because I am a women, who looks like I do; that I must have 'slept my way or used said attributes' to get where I am today. It becomes very bothersome. [:@]

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Tikkiee I have also been taken back by people who have complimented me for my looks in a context or venue that suggests I got breaks and shortcuts becasue of them when I did not. It can be very hurtful. Most of the times as I have been learning the compliments were not implying that and were truly meant to be positive but in certain circumstances (almost always work), I always have to pause and think if they are really ripping me.

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ORIGINAL: spankmepink11

Side note:....How embarrassing to have misspelled a word in the thread title!!!!!!   [sm=ofcourse.gif]