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SirMike39 -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (3/21/2012 8:36:09 AM)

A good Dom understands that for real submission there needs to be a connection not just of a sexual nature but also of the mind body and soul.This I can asure you does not come over nite. Any dom who undertsands this lifestyle will tell you it can take months or longer for a dom and a sub to truley understand what it is both are looking for and feel comfortable enough to offer them seleves to each other . What I always tell young sub's starting in this life style is if it feels wrong and you arent enjoying it the it is wrong for you . Hope this helps Sir Mike



hellionsLight -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (3/21/2012 8:42:22 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: SirMike39

A good Dom understands that for real submission there needs to be a connection not just of a sexual nature but also of the mind body and soul.



Not really, for some people, but okay.



DarkSteven -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (3/21/2012 9:15:26 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: SirMike39

A good Dom understands that for real submission there needs to be a connection not just of a sexual nature but also of the mind body and soul.This I can asure you does not come over nite. Any dom who undertsands this lifestyle will tell you it can take months or longer for a dom and a sub to truley understand what it is both are looking for and feel comfortable enough to offer them seleves to each other . What I always tell young sub's starting in this life style is if it feels wrong and you arent enjoying it the it is wrong for you . Hope this helps Sir Mike


Glad to hear your take on how good Doms work. In my experience, there's some chemistry right up front, deepening over time, till a commitment is reached. I don't have a specific time frame and have sometimes explored after a week or less.



oregongirl -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (3/21/2012 9:19:31 AM)

Poise,

I seriously thought I had entered into a conversation with you before. Anyway, I just UN-hid my profile and was able to send you a test message. Let me know if you got it. I'm going to hide my profile again, so see if you can reply there, and also let me know here, ok? Thanks for the other suggestions. Actually, this thread is Ask a Master.

6 inches of snow here today, so I can't get out of my drive way.



poise -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (3/21/2012 9:36:20 AM)

"I've got mail." [:D]

I will trade you the snowy driveway with severe thunderstorms and tornado warnings. Deal?



oregongirl -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (3/21/2012 9:41:12 AM)

Poise, good deal on the mail you got from me. I will write more to you later.

No, I won't trade you with the thunderstorm and tornado warnings. Be safe!



OsideGirl -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (3/21/2012 10:30:51 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: SirMike39

A good Dom understands that for real submission

Which is all subjective.



TNDommeK -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (3/21/2012 10:45:38 AM)

I think using the cam to verify or just talk face to face is fine. I wouldn't have any red flags, so long as the other person was doing the same. Especially on the other side, its crazy over there. This seems to be the only civilized area of collarme. So yea, over there, cam verification it totally ok with Me.



oregongirl -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (3/21/2012 2:11:42 PM)

OK, got the official word..." You're reusing a name that someone had and abandoned in the past. That person joined in 2005. There is no way to reset it."

I don't mind, it's only on this collarchat message board, not on the other side CM. Oh well, snow day, so I will some more work search, OH geez, I just sounded like I was posting on Facebook. Sorry!



RedMagic1 -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (3/21/2012 5:47:43 PM)

I was waiting to see whether you were capable of learning things, because your post content is that of an inexperienced person, and, fortunately, it appears that you are. So, regarding this:
quote:

ORIGINAL: CaptJosh
No ad hominem attacks until your comment about me, RedMagic1,

You can find a definition of ad hominem attack here.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ad_hominem

An example of an ad hominem attack would be, "RedMagic1's post can't possibly be true, because everyone who stands next to a waterfall is a liar, and look at his avatar." In the post you considered an ad hominem attack, I didn't discuss you at all. I talked about how your words were weak, and I suggested how you could present yourself in a stronger way.

You might want to think about why you considered material advice about your words to be an ad hominem attack on your character. I'm serious about this. There's something important there, and you might want to face it squarely.



CaptJosh -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (3/21/2012 6:50:04 PM)

You took my words suggesting going back on topic and claimed I was ordering people around because I'm a Dom, blatantly ignoring that it was a suggestion, and no form of command was used. I was tacitly acknowledging that I had been part of derailing the topic and suggesting we, we being the people I was mainly going back and forth with at the time and myself, return to the subject of the OP. This was not me trying to Dom anything. I was being polite.

Now, I have in the past taken the phrase ad hominem to indicate an an attempt to discredit the person instead of the argument. If "ad hominem" was misused to identify what you did, which I considered to be a case of you choosing to deride me instead of addressing arguments I made, um...oops? [sm=dunno.gif] I have a large vocabulary. I don't always pick the right words. In point of fact, in a thread about objectification elsewhere on the boards, I referenced a Lethal Weapon movie, but typed Diehard for the movie name. I'm human. I make mistakes.



SireKane -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (3/31/2012 6:13:34 AM)

If you are interested in me you need to be prepared to cam. I want to verify the person I am communicating with.



searching4mysir -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (3/31/2012 7:19:44 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: SireKane

If you are interested in me you need to be prepared to cam. I want to verify the person I am communicating with.



1) Will you get on cam (showing your face) to verify who they are communicating with?

2) Can that person cam verify without getting naked or doing anything sexual?





oregongirl -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (3/31/2012 9:22:13 AM)

Very good questions indeed. I have still not decided, but as of lately, I just don't came period unless they are my friends and family.



LonDom61 -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (10/10/2012 2:08:20 PM)

I'm sure you've got plenty of good input by now on camming , control presumed by dom (unacceptable), control given by sub (only reasonable way), etc.

Wanted to chime in on what vanilla dating site might work for you.

The Intimate channel on lavalife includes activities that include a few basic kinks. And the "Interested in..." includes "being submissive/a slave" and "being dominant/ a Master" or something like that.

I had some success there about 5-10 years ago. Before graduating to sites like CM.

I prefer CM & FL. But if you're looking for vanilla site w searchable kink options...








OsideGirl -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (10/10/2012 2:18:21 PM)

The mods frown on reviving threads more than 3 months old.



LonDom61 -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (10/10/2012 3:24:31 PM)

Hi Josh

I enjoy taglines. Love yours. Had a discussion with someone here ages ago about it. He or she, who may or may not have posted on this thread, has a different version. Yours is correct and is funny. His or hers puts half the punchline in the intro and is only funny once you untangle it. Kudos, sir.



JanahX -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (10/10/2012 4:04:51 PM)

How do these people find these things?
Do they really think the OP is still monitoring a thread they started in March?



oregongirl -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (10/10/2012 4:43:02 PM)

Actually I am the OP, and that is old news and I still get an email notification when someone responds to this thread. but really, I'm done with it. but thanks everyone!



VideoAdminTheta -> RE: Online Dom wanting me to cam first before get to know me (10/10/2012 5:00:42 PM)

Please start a new thread on a topic that is older than three months if you wish to continue to discuss it. You can always link back to a thread.

This thread will now be locked.

Thank you



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