Toppingfrmbottom
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Oh, i agree, i was just saying they never got rid of our stuff, which is maybe why sometimes i wasn't so hot to trot to get it back lol, cause i knew it'd be there. My neighbors /kids are not fazed at all if you take their stuff, one time around Christmas their mom packed up everything, even the Christmas presents and put them in the garage, cause the kids wouldn't clean up their room or help out and yes that meant they didn't even get to play with the christmas stuff and she even threatened to throw it out and it had no effect on them. Me, my parents started packing up my stuff and i ran in screaming no, wait, hey stop i'll pick it up ok? Maybe i could start quietly picking things up and just putting them in storage neatly and if enough of his stuff starts going out there an he wants it bad enough he can go dig it out an put it away? Maybe once this room starts having no stuff in it but mine, it'll get the point across or something lol. He's into martial arts and needs a place to practice and keep his gear, I have also told him if he wants a martial arts practice studio type place, he will have to help me clean out our storage and deal with everything first, and then when it's done he can get a bob, and some matts for the floor and we can set him up a practice space, so he has a dedicated space that's his and only his, to do his kata's and what not, and he said ok, and now won't help, so i'll offer than incentive again. At one point i threatened to charge him for every can an bottle i picked up because he was to lazy to put them in the bin we have till we take them for recycling, an he scoffed an said yeah right, so i changed it to, i picked them up, i bagged them i took them to the recyclers, i did all the work i keep all the money. THAT he agreed to. quote:
ORIGINAL: lizi [ It does work well in some situations. For kids, they have to go earn the money then to get the stuff back, sometimes that means doing extra chores at home to get money over and above their usual chores. So they have to work more than usual, and don't even get to keep the money because they then have to use it to get their stuff back. The threat of having it thrown away adds a timely aspect to things where the kids have to get their act together and get it back, rather than letting it slide forever or risk losing it. With kids, if you let something like a shirt sit for six months before getting it back there is a likely chance it won't fit anymore, and what's the point of getting it back then? The lesson is lost if you don't want the stuff back. So in her case I think it works better to have a time limit. I'm not sure how it would work for you and your guy, if it would at all, maybe you could adapt it somehow. I don't know. It just has worked well for her and I thought I'd share it as it might work well for someone else. quote:
etting it back then? The lesson is lost if you don't want the stuff back. So in h
< Message edited by Toppingfrmbottom -- 3/23/2012 2:21:01 PM >
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