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RE: Self-control - 6/4/2006 8:50:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: Tikkiee

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But as many have mentioned here we are all still Human and Humans make mistakes . Its not the mistake that counts but how you handle the aftermath of the mistake.

I am sorry, but I HAVE TO ASK THIS. Why is allowing basic human nature, in the form of emotion, a mistake?
Everyone loses a bit of control at times. It is NOT a MISTAKE. It is NORMAL.

LOL , and i HAVE to answer ::smile:: I did not mean to imply the emotion was a mistake , But at times our reaction to the emotion or our actions on the spur of the moment BECAUSE of the emotion is a mistake . Especially is our action or reaction is harmful to another.

But again its just my opinion , and even though people people call me " Lord" I neither part waters nor write things in stone

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RE: Self-control - 6/5/2006 1:59:59 AM

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I make mistakes all the time.

I manage anger pretty well, but sometimes depression is harder to deal with.

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RE: Self-control - 6/5/2006 4:09:26 AM

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Level,

In fact, when they took that picture I was explaining how large the urethral opening is...

As for "self control" I think that those claiming to always be in control of their emotions either have none, are full of it, or don't have triggers/buttons that get pushed in relationships.

I DO believe it is an important GOAL to not lose control and step past passion/anger into saying and or doing hurtful and spiteful things.

Ahhhhhh, okay CD hehheh. And I agree with the rest of your post...... humans have emotions, and sometimes they get the better of us, but doing the needed work to ensure that doesn't go too far should be important.

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BTW... Crappy, Level, and Loki... You guys slay me! ROFLOL! And yes, I did like the original StarTrek. LOL...

zuma

Glad I made you laugh, pretty lady. *goes back to work on that nutty vulcan splitfinger fastball*

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RE: Self-control - 6/6/2006 4:24:25 AM

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ORIGINAL: pinkee

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ORIGINAL: puella

amayos,

You always say the most wonderfully provocative things!

I do think it is important to remember that both partners in this relationship are flawed and will err. If there is more than just the desire to have your immediate needs met, I think that there is plenty of room for error, and from that growth and a deeper bonding.

Without that, there is usually only failure and loss.

Hey puella, i like amayos' posts as well; but i miss His old avatar...so sexy, lmao.

Anyway; i think i may not have been clear. I mean behavior: temper tantrums, etc......not merely experiencing negative emotions.

Thankies,

pinkee

Personally I think temper tantrums of any sort by either Dominant/Domme or submissive, Master/Mistress or slave is not good. Yes we are human and we should know and accept that. But before the situation blows up into a tantrum we whould have the mental facilities to a) quit the situation b) give warning and then step back... yes we are humans but we are all adults as well. *shrugs* Maybe I am a bit simple about this but I try to only vent in 'safe' surrounding with 'trusted' friends.

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RE: Self-control - 6/6/2006 4:26:30 AM

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ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

It was only after I attained the 9th level of dominate that I gained complete mastery of all emotions. I was then granted the "Ears of Spock" as I had gained complete control over myself and all desires, lusts, and fears. I am now a true dominate...

But before I got to that shit, oh boy I did all kinds a shit. I attacked people on the boards who pissed me off, I roared at idiots who did things I didn't like, I growled at children, even stole their candy. I took women's hearts and crushed them like eggshells. In general I acted like one of the many people here we call "others"...

However, since so many are perfect here, that is what must explain the vast preponderance of posts not about how to fix things that are broken, or "is this wrong" but are instead almost exclusively about how to make the nearly perfect absolutely perfect.

Oh the joy to be in total self control...

Crappy Sir May I have my candy back? *giggles*

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RE: Self-control - 6/6/2006 6:18:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: pinkee

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ORIGINAL: puella

amayos,

You always say the most wonderfully provocative things!

I do think it is important to remember that both partners in this relationship are flawed and will err. If there is more than just the desire to have your immediate needs met, I think that there is plenty of room for error, and from that growth and a deeper bonding.

Without that, there is usually only failure and loss.

Hey puella, i like amayos' posts as well; but i miss His old avatar...so sexy, lmao. Anyway; i think i may not have been clear. I mean behavior: temper tantrums, etc......not merely experiencing negative emotions.

Pinkee,

I don't think it's possible to talk about one without the other, actually. It's sort of like attempting to discuss the entire function of the leg without addressing the crucial joint of the knee. It is my observation and belief that it is often the ineffectual management of our negative emotions through which temper tantrums arise. A red-blind rage (referred to in psych terms as "Intermittent Explosive Disorder") and the process within that tills fertile ground for this should surely be guarded against and neutralized within oneself. It usually does not reflect well upon a Master (or anyone, for that matter) to be so inferior in dealing with stress. Instead, extracting a point through just and even passionate punishment is appropriate and productive.

P.s. Thanks for your comment about the previous avatar.

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RE: Self-control - 6/6/2006 8:01:57 AM

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Nobody gets their candy back...but most are happy kneeling at my feet watching me enjoy and savor it.

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RE: Self-control - 6/6/2006 4:18:08 PM

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Nobody gets their candy back...but most are happy kneeling at my feet watching me enjoy and savor it.

*eyes the ones at your feet watching you eat my candy* Yes Sir *sighs and goes looking for something else to suck on... (giggles at my brashness)... skipping along*

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