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Can an outfit change you? - 4/19/2012 11:41:26 PM

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Can an outfit make you more submissive and lower inhibition? I am curious if anyone found it easier to be submissive by an article of bdsm clothing such as a body harness, mask, or collar or if something actually lowers inhibitions.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 12:18:11 AM

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Some people do find that clothes or props can help them get in a headspace or "in the mood", yeah. I think that's pretty common.

Edit: I don't think that changes you, though. That headspace is already in you somewhere, the prop or article of clothing or ritual or whatever just helps you to find it.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 3:23:26 AM

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Try a pink 'bunny' suit.

The kind with feet, mittens, a hood with ears and fake fur. Whiskers optional.

I will bet my lunch money that will change you.

If you win, I'll buy you a pound of carrots.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 5:17:42 AM

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Some people do find that clothes or props can help them get in a headspace or "in the mood", yeah. I think that's pretty common.

Edit: I don't think that changes you, though. That headspace is already in you somewhere, the prop or article of clothing or ritual or whatever just helps you to find it.

This. Wearing or doing certain things can enhance some feelings/headspaces and make them "come out" more...but these are all things that were inside you already. So you've not actually "changed," just some aspects of you have been highlighted due to how the object of clothing or ritual makes you feel.

For instance my collar and leash definitely make me feel "more submissive" in the sense that having them on brings my position of subservience to the forefront of my mind, thus giving me a sense of enhanced headspace catered towards pleasing, obeying, and serving my Master. These are things I always feel regardless, but being leashed up really puts those feelings as an intense conscious focus, if that makes any sense.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 6:53:32 AM

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For me, no. I am who I am. I am a submissive personality. It's just who I am. I'm not into roleplay so being anything else would feel silly to me.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 7:40:10 AM

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We are all different but for me when my wife wanted to play she dressed in a way that not only told me what she wanted, but also enhanced our experience tremendously. I'm a very visual person so that stimulation worked wonders with me. However not all people are stimulated visually. One of the things she would do to me is blindfold me if she wanted to frustrate me because she understood that taking away the visual stimulation was taking away a big part of what got me going.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 8:06:02 AM

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For me, it wouldn't matter if I'm stark naked or dressed to the nines in a corset,
cuffs and collar. There will be varying degrees of confidence or self consciousness.
But put a blindfold on me, and I no longer worry if he thinks my butt is too big,
or if my legs are too long. Its as though by hiding from myself, I become more present.
Weird, the way the mind works, eh?

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 8:15:26 AM

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Try a pink 'bunny' suit.

The kind with feet, mittens, a hood with ears and fake fur. Whiskers optional.

That's just kinky! You pervert!

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If you win, I'll buy you a pound of carrots.

No, thank you....because I know where those carrots would end up.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 9:39:14 AM

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I sure thing it does change you. Prancing around in a cute sissy dress will certainly change you manly behaviour :)

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 9:55:47 AM

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quote:

Can an outfit make you more submissive and lower inhibition? I am curious if anyone found it easier to be submissive by an article of bdsm clothing such as a body harness, mask, or collar or if something actually lowers inhibitions.

I'm not sure that "lowering inhibitions" is correct, but being instructed to take off my clothes and him putting on a blindfold and collar sure gets me in the right headspace.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 10:10:24 AM

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I don't think dressing a certain way can change who we are fundamentally, but I do think it can bring out certain aspects of our personality more. Some parts of people's personalities are more latent. And I do think dress can bring that out. And not just sexually. In other ways, too. I can see that dressing a certain way can bring out people's confidence, etc. But a truly insecure person is not going to actually become a more confident person by simply dressing the role. And someone who is not fundamentally submissive is not going to feel any more inclined to that role simply because they are dressed a certain way.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 11:48:18 AM

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ORIGINAL: FrostedFlake
Try a pink 'bunny' suit.
The kind with feet, mittens, a hood with ears and fake fur. Whiskers optional.
I will bet my lunch money that will change you.
If you win, I'll buy you a pound of carrots.

I'm thinking you have a good point there. Even I would look less imposing in a pink bunny suit.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 11:50:29 AM

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Aww!! It's YOU, RS!

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 11:52:26 AM

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I'm thinking you have a good point there. Even I would look less imposing in a pink bunny suit.

I don't know ResidentSadist. There is definitely something evil in the way you twitch those ears
and make them all lopsided and such.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 11:53:17 AM

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You should see his bunny tail buttplug! wheeeee!

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 12:06:01 PM

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Seeing that pic made this line come to mind: "He looks like a pink nightmare!" ~a Christmas Story

But back to the OP's question, I think outfits changes our moods and how we view ourselves. Even in our everyday lives, haven't you ever put something on and looked at yourself in the mirror and been like "Damn!" Even during play time, I'm sure My slave's mind is in a more submissive state when fully shackled and chained. I would say it depends on the outfit as well.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 12:12:25 PM

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It doesn't in my case. My inhibitions are really low naturally, i don't need dress or articles of bdsm gear to lower them. Nor to make me feel more submissive, I am as submissive as i am going to get, if i am with someone who brings it out of me.

if anything collars would irritate me, because i don't like things on my neck, and would make me less submissive because i'd be to irritated to pay attention much to what he wants. When i am irritated all i can think about is the irritation or the object irritating me and how much i want it off. All else pales in comparrision.

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Can an outfit make you more submissive and lower inhibition? I am curious if anyone found it easier to be submissive by an article of bdsm clothing such as a body harness, mask, or collar or if something actually lowers inhibitions.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 12:24:34 PM

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Try a pink 'bunny' suit.

The kind with feet, mittens, a hood with ears and fake fur. Whiskers optional.

I will bet my lunch money that will change you.

If you win, I'll buy you a pound of carrots.

*glares at Frostedflake*

I hope you're not dissing da bunny??

*tries to look tough*

*fails*

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 12:40:27 PM

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Considering how my life is day to day, I would have to say yes. Dressing has to be reserved for certain times (like when little eyes aren't able to pry or people aren't bugging me on the damn phone) so for most of my day I have to be in vanilla mode. But like a couple of other people already mentioned, it doesn't change who I am, it just allows me to bring that part of me closer to the surface and behave accordingly.
It feels amazing to have him tighten my corset around me and clip my stockings to the straps that are attached. I can't help but get into a certain headspace when he buckles my cuffs on my wrists and ankles. It goes way beyond that because each next thing that happens gets me further into that headspace, that doesn't stop at just getting dressed.

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RE: Can an outfit change you? - 4/20/2012 2:18:47 PM

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Mmm...I miss a collar. I love the feeling of it. I like when he (sigh...hypothetical he) slips his finger inside and pulls me right from the neck. I suppose it might make me feel more submissive in a sexual sense. Or perhaps just more sexual...and willing...in general, submissive or otherwise.

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