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ORIGINAL: CougarRick
True, but how discrete are these groups? Is this a situation where I could find my picture all over the internet with everybody in the school knowing I joined?
Secondly, what if you are completely new to this? Do dommes have any patience for newbies who may not fully understand the roles well and will screw up a bit, or do they generally prefer experienced subs who have done this before?
Rick, first let me differentiate between a munch and a play party.
A munch is a bunch of people in street clothes talking, and some ordering food and drinks. No kink, no sexy clothes.
A play party is the exact same people, but this time they're tying each other up and whacking each other with stuff. (Usually 30%-50% play and the others simply watch or chat.)
Now, to answer your questions:
1. The clubs are very discreet. If any single person outed another, that would put the entire munch/party at risk because the attendees would quit coming. Every party I have attended has a rule against photography unless the photographer and the subjects all have worked things out with the host/hostess beforehand. EVERYONE at the parties has some reason why they do not want to be outed.
2. At a munch, your newness means nothing. Your conversational ability matters more than anything else. At a play party, your newness won't matter much - it would be more of a concern for a Dom/me who must know how to tie/spank/flog/whip/suspend safely. Your main responsibility when bottoming will be to communicate, especially if something goes wrong.
You will likely not screw up. There are very few things you can do wrong, and most parties have an orientation first to go over the rules:
1. No photography.
2. If you run across someone from the party at a vanilla setting, be very discreet. Say hello if you wish, but do not mention kink or play.
3. When people are scening, watch quietly but do not interfere.
4. Don't touch another's property without permission, especially including owned subs. Don't touch other people unless invited to (handshaking is usually an exception).
5. Be respectful to others.
6. This isn't really a rule, but the more you can talk to people about vanilla stuff, the more they'll relax around you.
That's pretty much it.
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