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LaTigresse -> RE: Dominants to be leaders, teachers? (4/28/2012 1:03:04 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4
In General, my time is rather limited and of value to me. There are always projects and something I need to do or can do. I've been getting really good at not being other people's fearless leader when it means it's going to take up more of my time.
I think that the above is what goes through my mind when topics similar come up in my presence. There are a lot of causes I am passionate about. I have a lot of interests.
However...I also have a 3.5 acre property that is 50ish miles away from my full time job. I spend 55 hours a week minimum with just work related stuff. I have taken on the responsiblity of caring for 2 horses, 3 dogs, a cat that believes he is a dog, and a fish. All of them, take some measure of my time. On this 3.5 acres I have an orchard I actively maintain and use, gardens both veggie and flower, a half mile lane that needs shoveling several times a year and all the regular stuff we all do to maintain a clean home and healthy life. I spend at least an hour a day, 3-5 days a week at the gym. I have a huge extended family that I value a great deal. And on and on.
I think that we ALL have to be selfish to a degree when it comes to what we are going to give our free time to. For ME, it's the people and activities that mean the most to me, that enrich my life the most.
I do not feel any sort of duty, even if I was qualified, to teach anything to some random stranger. Regardless of mutual interests. If a person I knew and had some sort of give a damn about, approached me to help them and it was something I felt I could actually responsibly teach, they would still have to work around my, already busy, life schedule.
I am not going to make a previous responsibility or care, suffer or let slip, just to impart some knowledge, someone felt I had worth sharing. I do not feel ANY obligation to any person or group, just because we share some interests or lifestyle dynamics. Certainly not at the expense of a responsibility I willingly accepted or obtained.
I am selfish like that.
I actually agree with a lot of what Awareness wrote. Our world is an ever changing and evolving one. Those that cling to old outdated ways, that are no longer useful, will get left behind. If the evolving society finds any worth in the old ways, they will be kept, and perhaps adapted, to fit the newer.
If people WANT to learn and see value in something, they WILL go look for a way to learn it. If an 'elder' doesn't have anything that people feel is valuable to learn, they will get left behind. I have never subscribed to the whole, length of time served, way of valuation. It leaves too much room for stuff that SHOULD be gotten rid of, to be held onto. Habits, material objects, people, everything. I don't care how long someone has been doing something, if they are a putz, they are a putz and don't deserve any special glory or treatment, just because they've survived.
That's not to be said that I don't see any value in organized groups and customs. I simply don't think that they have value just because they exist and/or have existed for any special length of time. Or that because they have value to some people, they should have value to all people. OR, that those that do not value them are necessarily any better, or worse off, for it.
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