Mercnbeth
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newflowers,
See, first of all, beth is not my sub, she is my slave. A huge difference is my mind and hers. But for the purpose of answering you, I'll respond in terms of defining my perfect slave. Or what I was looking for when I posted an ad at another site almost three years ago.
At first I was going to be contrite and a wise ass and answer the question regarding MY ideal or perfect slave with a picture of beth. But that would be a cheap cop out - not that beth's a cheap cop out, but that answer would be a 'cheat'.
Before coming up to bed last night beth told me this question was there, and having a chance to "sleep on it" this is what I came up with.
First, beth is demanding. Ha - bet you didn't think that would be on the list. she demands that I am consistent. Demands that I follow through. Demands that I enforce the rules I set for her and that we signed together when we began this journey.
beth is selfless. she gave all she was to me. Gives every day all she is. she speaks in the third person (I know that's a sore point with some) not as any game or role play, but as a way to exhibit verbally what she has given spiritually and mentally.
beth is trusting. Trust is the foundation. We both share the believe that there are no second chances with trust. It was important that we agreed that this aspect would be reciprocal. I trust beth without qualification. If you knew me, you would know that was no easy accomplishment. I'll leave it to beth to reply to how she feels in this aspect about me.
beth is smart. We live as Master & slave 24/7. Even as sexual as we are, there is still a lot of time when we aren't having sex. At that point you have to relate to each other and enjoy talking with each other. beth is a "stay at home slave". I want beth to be at home, all the time. I want her to have one job - pleasing her Master. But I know, if she wanted to, beth could be CEO of a fortune 500 company. she has the intelligence to accomplish anything she puts her mind to. she stimulates my mind as much as my body.
beth has a wonderful personality. Ummm, let me think how to put this....we have as much fun not having sex as we do having sex. Does that make sense?
beth allows herself to have fun. That's not something that's easy. My business requires that she attend formal black tie functions - beth has fun at those. We have my employee visit or even travel with them - beth has fun. We watch Yankee games on TV - beth has fun. I think this is more important then others believe. Have you ever looked over at your partner while you were enjoying something only to see him/her yawn or have an "aren't we leaving soon" look on their face? Kind of spoils the moment right? Well, I've never seen that look in beth's eyes.
beth accepts that I'm not jealous. Take a look at our picture, even in a vanilla environment beth gets a LOT of attention. Even with her clothes on! I guess it goes back to the Trust issue, when it happens I only smile. I enjoy having her on display.
beth can keep up with me. I am an "A" personality type. Anything you enjoy is worth doing to excess. When we first met, beth used to ask for "time-outs", but either I'm slowing down or she's adapted.
beth shares my enthusiasm for life. I enjoy new experiences. beth isn't afraid to try anything.
beth is open and accepting. Whether it's of a new facet of the lifestyle or meeting new people.
beth "is". she can never be compromised. All the physical, mental, and spiritual being of her is consistent. her morals, her beliefs, her political positions, hold up to any test. I never concern myself that beth will be anything different then the person I left at home in the morning when I return in the evening. No matter what Oprah says on her show, no matter what she reads on a website, no matter what her best friend tells her on the phone.
beth is confident. she has as much confidence as I do! (Which is saying a lot!) Funny thing, she doesn't believe she has any. But I know better. It takes a confident person to know themselves enough to accept she is a slave, and then the strength of that confidence to carry it out. beth went through that difficult self evaluation process and came out the other end confident that she made the right decision. Even if it didn't turn out right with me, I know she would have continued. That defines confidence. For now, I'll let her believe she relies on my confidence for us both, but in a lot of respects mine comes from hers.
beth is a lot of other things. Priority-wise they weren't quite as important to me as those I've mentioned above; but she is, sexy, provocative, flirty, extremely kinky, loves being nude, loves to be touched and petted, and wild.
Since feminism has raised it's ugly head in this thread. (Ever hear the term 'menimism'?) Feminist equality? I didn't say so up there, but beth should be an example of the perfect feminist. she has the ability to be anything and she chose slavery to me. Feminist should fight for her right to do so, yet most would hold her up to ridicule. Funny thing, in a debate they would stand no chance with her. Equality is best defined by being given the opportunity to make a decision.
Feminists want to make decisions but then have someone else suffer consequences for them. the prime example is children. It is unequal and unfair that men can't give birth. No law or constitutional amendment will change that. Feminists want to have careers and children but then have someone else care for them. The consequence, the children suffer, the business they work for suffers, and ultimately the feminists themselves suffer.
My purpose in this post was two fold. I really was tired of the Dom bashing, and I really did want to point out how society in general has decided to show men as buffoons. Funny thing, why would any person want to be with anybody so perceived? What's that show about you?
I am glad that your inquiry made it have a third purpose. I was glad to be able to document a little of why beth is so valuable, important, and special to me.
Thank you!
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