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kalikshama -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 10:50:40 AM)
I like your second pic much better - very attractive! I agree that your profile is too fantasy based. I'd put everything but perhaps the last three paragraphs into a journal entry. Sell yourself, not your fantasy. Your city and zip code puts you in Boston but your state is listed as Wisconsin. If you are in fact in Boston, there are tons of kinky people, events, and groups here. It's easiest to find the last two on Fet - https://fetlife.com/search?q=boston I hear your frustration but look at it from the fem sub perspective - it's much easier to spot a Fin Dom than a married cheating man.

TNDommeK -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 11:11:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ChewMeUp I'm surprised and disappointed that any real Dommes would think I have any complaint about them, pro-Dommes or otherwise. I don't! From the sounds of it you get a lot of complaints from immatuer subs about your trade. That's not my complaint. Still, just because you offer a legitimate service for a legitimate value does not mean there aren't three 'financial Dommes' for every 1 real pro, who are just looking for suckers to send them money in exchange for nothing; and 2 of every 3 'financial dommes' are men using fake pictures anyway. And THAT is the problem. Those frauds and men-pretending-to-be-women-to-get-free-jack-off-material are in the way. They are not on the forum. Because of this I am able to respond to you on the forum. They are not on the forum because they are not really Dommes, and since there's no way to get money on the forum, they don't use it. IF there was a way, I would not be able to respond to your posts because they would be buried in solicitations from fakes and frauds. As would every real person's posts. So read the first two paragraphs of this post again - this is not about pro-Dommes; and if you review my other posts you will see that I make mention of my sympathy for the flake men I do know women have to deal with. I found an issue with this statement. I am a Fin/pro Domme, I don't ask for money in return for nothing. As a matter of fact I don't ask for it at all, they want to send it willingly. Sub men write Me asking Me for My wish list, and where to send tribute. But maybe I'm different, I would hope not. Now I understand the "princess" profiles if that is what you are talking about. No one likes a whiny lil girl, but on the other hand, if that is what she chooses to do then that is her life...thus the reason My fellow posters have given you the great advice of using the hide button. It works wonders.

ChewMeUp -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 12:17:47 PM)
TNDommeK, I don't have one single problem with Pro Dommes, or financial Dommes per se. In my first post I said "I can't even tell how many of them are actually just regular females who want money and presents (less than ideal but at least its authentic)." I say less than ideal specifically in regard to the princess types who are still in greater number than a Fin Dom like yourself, they are just on CM because they heard that it was a good way to get free money. For every Fin Domme there are 3 Princess Dommes, and for every 1 Princes Domme there are 2 men in Ghana who stole their pictures committing fraud. I would say, I understand Pro/Fins may not at first glance like better search features, but the truth is it just makes it easier for seriuos subs to find you. I use the "tribute" keyword as an easy example but a good search user will have more versatile un-search vocab options. Anyway they (scammers) are already in your way; anything that gets them out of the way (categories/un-searches) helps everyone. Websites also need to get more aggressive and less cautious about blocking whole IP addresses, especially when they're in Nigeria and connected to 35 fraud accounts.

niceguy88 -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 12:25:53 PM)
quote: "I can't even tell how many of them are actually just regular females who want money and presents (less than ideal but at least its authentic)." Hey ChewMeUp, I have no intention of getting caught up in the heated discussion of this thread, but I just wanted to let you know that some guys actually want this. I occasionally like to be financially dominated and receive nothing it return, it is a rush for me to think of my hard earned money being sent to a dominant woman who I view as far superior to me. Even the "Princess types" who are here to get "free money" hold a certain appeal :) Just thought you'd like to know. Each to their own and all. Have a good day.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 12:29:48 PM)
Cool!! PEOPLE SHOULD SEND ME STUFFS!! [:)]

ChewMeUp -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 12:30:10 PM)
Thanks Kali that's very nice to say. My profile is more of a statement than anything, the iteration of an ideal; fun, and creative. Other than the people who yell at me on the forum I have only heard good things; I wrote it for the mind of the dominant woman and while most messages read "too bad you're so far away," they usually follow with, "I really love your profile." I hear your frustrations about the married men cheating. Men suck IMO. See we're in the same boat because most of the frauds/fakes I'm trying to hide are also men pretending to be women. Frauds mostly, but that doesn't make it any easier. Subs searching for a woman over the height of 5'8" are particularly in need for extra search options because over the height of 5'9" are where the male jack-off artist impostors start showing up in spades. A lot of them are male doms who are able to be aroused by pretending to be whoever it is in the pictures they've stolen.

ChewMeUp -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 12:32:01 PM)
quote: I occasionally like to be financially dominated and receive nothing it return, it is a rush for me to think of my hard earned money being sent to a dominant woman who I view as far superior to me. Even the "Princess types" who are here to get "free money" hold a certain appeal :) All fine and good but I'm sure we agree you don't want fraud artists in Ghana spending your hard earned money.

niceguy88 -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 12:45:43 PM)
quote: All fine and good but I'm sure we agree you don't want fraud artists in Ghana spending your hard earned money. Ahh you have got me there... unless of course they are dominant female Ghanese fraud artists! Haha I'm only joking your point is fairly made.

TNDommeK -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 1:10:09 PM)
That is My whole point when we have men complaining about fin Dommes (not talking about you Chew). There are men who enjoy sending Me things. They enjoy their money being used how the Domme of their choice sees fit. As was stated, to each their own. I do however see Chew's point. Let's say Niceguy wanted to send a Fin Domme something. If there is a guy from India or where ever, posing as a girl, he might decide to send something to "her". Thus stepping on My toes, so to speak. So I can agree with him on that situation. However, I doubt CM is going to do the whole block IP addys and such.

ThundersCry -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 1:25:21 PM)
Welcome to the internet and boards... Did you expect reality all the time here? Do you belong to any groups where you live, etc? Are you....real? Good luck in whatever your seeking....here.

Arturas -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 1:43:32 PM)
I'm real. I own the physical attributes and tools and experience to be real pro Dom. Now this thread has lead me to go pro. Ladies, bring me tribute, lots of it, and we'll do it right. I check for messages daily. Good girl.

MissKittyDeVine -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 2:55:43 PM)
I don´t follow. If 59 year old, 6´ Bud is posing as 19 year old PrincessPouty, wouldn´t he lie about his height if attempting to create a vaguely believable female profile? So how would ´extra search options´ help? Common sense is the best aid. quote: ORIGINAL: ChewMeUp Subs searching for a woman over the height of 5'8" are particularly in need for extra search options because over the height of 5'9" are where the male jack-off artist impostors start showing up in spades.

Whenready -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 3:02:20 PM)
To the OP. You say: I the male sub want women to have everything and anything they want Some of them would like your money. Now, which part of "everything and anything" leaves money out?

Salinedion -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 3:15:09 PM)
Looking for a kinky partner (partic for a sub guy) is hard, it's full of crazies and users, and you're completely on your own, with not even a look in from whoever runs this site. But do you think people on E-harmony aren't raging about their prospects too?

kalikshama -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 3:27:15 PM)
quote: But do you think people on E-harmony aren't raging about their prospects too? Blech, I've had MUCH more fun here on CM than eHarmony! [image]http://www.motifake.com/image/demotivational-poster/small/1107/blasphemous-advice-blasphemous-advice-eharmony-nun-question-demotivational-posters-1309731049.jpg[/image]

TNDommeK -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 3:59:15 PM)
Never done E-harmony. I have done POF and a few others. Believe it or not, I found more female subs there than here. As far as male subs, CM rules.

Salinedion -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 4:15:43 PM)
Match.com was sub girl gold for me for a while. Why not test a slightly oblique ad and see where it goes? 50 Shades of Grey (whatever its merits) provides a rare window of relative normalization of our people and referencing it can only help with the timid fence sitting crowd. Better for dom guys, sure, but 2012 will be dating chit chat gold with everyone's mother knowing what it's about. Back in the day, I used to say, "You know the film, The Secretary? That one sort of just really, really stayed with me" and then try (usually vainly) to gauge the reaction. 'Always good when our team gets a goofy day in the sun.

seekingOwnertoo -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 4:27:03 PM)
A Lot of real Dommes answered this thread, already .... [:)] .... So how to tell real from fake? By what they write! What they say! Their morals and values ... You know, the same way as in life off the Internet! As LP is famous for saying ... get off the net ... go to a munch and meet real people!

crazyml -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 5:00:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ChewMeUp So much for trading decorum for drive-by foron swipes. It cannot be said that I have not tried to respond with patience and understanding, to the spree of hostility, uninvited hostility, at any attempt to begin a constructive conversation. AH AH! I feel I need to apologise... Right up until you made it clear that this was an attempt to begin a constructive conversation, I'd written you off as another one of those whining bitches! But since you're keen to have a constructive conversation... Firstly I'd dispute your claim that there's a "trend" ,, quote: In consideration of the above, lets not have the indignity of a bunch of naysayers pretending there is no significant trend of fraud I have to, with the greatest respect, and in a true spirit of constructive conversation, gently inform you that this is utter bullshit of the crassest order. There is no trend - there have been shitloads of scammers here ever since I joined. No trend - just lots of them. All the time. Sometimes it goes up a bit, some times it goes down... Now, I'll be honest, even though I'm now utterly convinced that you're not a whining bitch - I am still getting a little... let's call it "anger". In the spirit of being constructive, can i suggest you work on that - Obviously, empathetic and compassionate souls can see the true you beyond it, but I fear that some people might fall into the misapprehension that you're a pathetic whining bitch - Which does you no service. You see - if you really were a pathetic whining bitch the answer would be simple - "Fuck off and join some other forum and irritate them with your whining". So... My sincere suggestion to you is.. Get the fuck over it Block and hide are your friends. Don't email every gossy big titted 22 yearold (5"3') domme you see and pay a little more attention to the actual profile text. You'll find the proportion of really interesting, smart, genuine dommes will rise dramatically. I can say this with enormous confidence, as I regularly swap emails with a bunch of them... if I were a sub male I'd be up to my ears in dommes. So... simmer down, put your brain in, and apply some common sense. It will work wonders, I assure you.

frazzle -> RE: Who is real? (Focus: Femdom) (5/25/2012 5:29:34 PM)
And Crazy ruins a train wreck by using common sense and logic [:D]

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