fucktoyprincess
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what you said resonated with me, and i wanted to know your physical description as opposed to blonde/blue, and i see that you're (East) Indian. you're right, i agree, having a sexual preference (or marriage preference) isn't racist.
you being Indian and this subject just reminded me of an East Indian girlfriend (well really sort of a last fling) I had, who lamented that she loved how beautiful and cute white babies were, and that was one reason she preferred to be with me, rather than to follow her family and cultural desire to marry traditional Indian. The context was that we were discussing a potential marriage interviewee/candidate approved by her parents, but she said he was too dark.
in that case, she was racist, and really, self-hating, because she was quite dark herself. i think she wanted me to convince her how stupid that thinking was, and later, she admitted, she did realize how stupid it was. as it turns out, she married the guy, and has a beautiful young daughter (who's also rather dark). she certainly loves that kid with all her heart, and i think, is learning to love the man too.
Ah, you raise another issue entirely.
This is one thing I do NOT like. People who date outside their group due to self-hatred. This is just so wrong on so many levels that I don't know where to begin.
Again, this construct of "racism" can have many forms. And one is our own attitude to ourselves.
Another thing to mention here is that Indians similar to Africans, have a color bias within their own groups (with lighter skinned people being favored). This is actually also related to the caste system which we discussed in another thread. It is not something that Indians or blacks are all that open about with other groups, but this internal "racism" or "colorism" is there.
I am very proud of my cultural background and my religious background (although I am not religious myself). I have dated across the spectrum, simply because I view the human species as one species, and don't feel the need to think about people in terms of what I consider to be artificial categories. I am attracted to people who I, personally, find attractive - and, for me, attractive can come in many different ethnic/racial/religious packages.
From a genetic perspective, we become stronger as a species the more "intermarriage" that occurs. In other words, too much "in-breeding" within a "group" is actually detrimental to the gene pool in the long run. So I actually do think that we are deep down, wired for a little bit of "opposite attracts". By that I don't mean Africans will be attracted to Norwegians and vice versa, but that even within a group, that sometimes people seek out a partner who is a little "different" from them somehow. For example think 1950s blonde woman and tall, dark, handsome man as an archetype of a certain era for what constituted an "attractive" couple. Anyway, this is all off the top of my end. No substantiation for any of it. But I do find the topic of interest.
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