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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

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ORIGINAL: Karmastic


bwaa hahahahaha, now you reminded me who it was.

respectfully, i wish you and others could just leave the baggage behind. try and fergit past encounters, and treat each post on it's own merits. i.e., behave and react to the post, not the poster. if you simply cannot do this, then ignore posts of people you don't like, who you cannot control your reaction to.

At first glance this sounds like a good idea.

Then I start thinking about things like.....I once tried saurkraut and discovered I hate saurkraut. Why would I buy it again. I once tried Zumba, discovered it fuckin killed my knees, why would I try it again. I once went to a WWF match, the most boring, longest, and miserable evening anyone ever paid a dime for. Why would I do it again? There is a saying about doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results. I once dated a remarkably boring and self centred, yet beautiful woman. Why would I want to bother with a second date when the first bored me to tears?

When I see a person repeatedly post idiotically, why would I assume they would magically turn into someone I want to give any credit for intelligence?

As for controlling reactions, I think that there is a factor that you are not taking into consideration. The 'making fun of trolls' factor. You see, on here, we have a fair number of sadists. Some of the most wicked are s-types.

Let the mods do their job. No one has recruited you for mod duty. And then, last but not least, perhaps you should take your own advice. If Oside's post to cb24 bothers you so much, please feel free to ignore them.

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if you simply cannot do this, then ignore posts of people you don't like, who you cannot control your reaction to.

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ORIGINAL: Karmastic
if i treat them nice, and they're still an ass, then that's on them.

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ORIGINAL: JstAnotherSub

Karma, the thing is, you have been here a couple of months, and you have no idea about past interactions among others who have been here longer.

Someone calling someone else a dickhead might be just because they think that person is a dickhead, might be that said person has acted like a dickhead so much that there seems no reason to believe they are ever gonna be anything else, or it might be friendly banter between folks who have cut up together on here for years.

You can choose how you respond to others, but please, until you are made a mod, don't try to instruct me on how to reply to anyone.

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ORIGINAL: littlewonder
We work as a unit, as one so anything he does to me is going to affect him as well and well, he doesn't want bad things in his life either.

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

Okay Im sure there will be alot of controversial posts to this but Im going to post this anyway. Cause Im that type of gal. lol.


This is my take on this. Unless a master is of the upmost caliber without love Mastering is just a way of getting what You want. I am talking in a relationship sense, not just play.

Very few people will take someone on they dont love without a huge payback for them. Its a huge responiblity for someone who has good intentions.

I see Mastering without love in most circumstances as this. You have a love sick slave doing anything to plz a man, and so all this obeying comes in to PROVE how good of a slave you are. If the Master doesnt love you well your really just an alternative and being used in all kinds of way to make the Masters life better either by financial ways, domestic duites, or an easy fuck in some circumstances. IT becomes a game of just how far this slave will go, almost laughable really at the slaves expense. Asking them to do things that can ruin their life in many instances, JUST TO SEE, ya know cause it really doesnt effect them and they want to see just how stupid the slave is. Cause said slave is truly just an alternative to a real meaningful relationship.
On the flip side, A Master with love guides a slave in all the right directions and does anything in his power to enrich her life, and he wants to give back because she is so appreciated and loved.

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respectfully, i wish you and others could just leave the baggage behind. try and fergit past encounters, and treat each post on it's own merits. i.e., behave and react to the post, not the poster. if you simply cannot do this, then ignore posts of people you don't like, who you cannot control your reaction to.

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

Okay Im sure there will be alot of controversial posts to this but Im going to post this anyway. Cause Im that type of gal. lol.

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This is my take on this. Unless a master is of the upmost caliber without love Mastering is just a way of getting what You want. I am talking in a relationship sense, not just play.

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Very few people will take someone on they dont love without a huge payback for them. Its a huge responiblity for someone who has good intentions.

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I see Mastering without love in most circumstances as this. You have a love sick slave doing anything to plz a man, and so all this obeying comes in to PROVE how good of a slave you are. If the Master doesnt love you well your really just an alternative and being used in all kinds of way to make the Masters life better either by financial ways, domestic duites, or an easy fuck in some circumstances.

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IT becomes a game of just how far this slave will go, almost laughable really at the slaves expense. Asking them to do things that can ruin their life in many instances, JUST TO SEE, ya know cause it really doesnt effect them and they want to see just how stupid the slave is.

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Cause said slave is truly just an alternative to a real meaningful relationship.
On the flip side, A Master with love guides a slave in all the right directions and does anything in his power to enrich her life, and he wants to give back because she is so appreciated and loved.

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ORIGINAL: lizi

What does it matter what people get out of it and why would that concern you or anyone else? Adults do as they like for whatever reasons they have and that is their right. Someone may enjoy getting things from another without an emotional investment in them, and the person who is supplying the things, whatever they may be, can be perfectly fine with that arrangement. Human beings are multifaceted, they all have different reasons for doing what they like, how fulfilling their lives are to them are their own responsibility as well as what they engage in.

The original post of this thread really makes no sense to me, it's like saying the sky is blue. Yes, people will do as they like and in this country anyway, they are guaranteed that freedom as long as they don't break any laws. Therefore both people involved need to be responsible and looking out for themselves - this lifestyle does not give predators carte blanche to do as they like, if anyone is being taken advantage of, or is in a situation that isn't right for them, then they are the ones responsible for not entering it to begin with or stopping it.

On another note, Domination in any form does not have to have love involved. It is not a prerequisite. Many wish to have it, many don't. A slave or submissive who is involved with a Dominant who does not love them is not necessarily engaging in something that is detrimental to them. Also, a Dominant who loves his submissive partner does not necessarily do anything in his power to enrich the slave's life. Anytime blanket statements are made they are rather silly because by their very nature they will NOT include all of the human race within the perimeters that they are trying to make.

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What does it matter what people get out of it and why would that concern you or anyone else?

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
I can dominate anyone willing to be dominated. I don't even have to like them or give a damn about them. I can play with someone I don't love, but I have to find them attractive and very likable. I can love a person and not want to dominate, or play with, them. I can have sex with a person and not be in love with them, want to dominate them, or want to play with them. I won't invite a person to my home, into my private space, unless I trust them. If I cannot trust you, I won't play with you or have sex with you, but I can care about you and I might want to dominate you.

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ORIGINAL: chatterbox24

Okay Im sure there will be alot of controversial posts to this but Im going to post this anyway. Cause Im that type of gal. lol.


This is my take on this. Unless a master is of the upmost caliber without love Mastering is just a way of getting what You want. I am talking in a relationship sense, not just play.

Very few people will take someone on they dont love without a huge payback for them. Its a huge responiblity for someone who has good intentions.

I see Mastering without love in most circumstances as this. You have a love sick slave doing anything to plz a man, and so all this obeying comes in to PROVE how good of a slave you are. If the Master doesnt love you well your really just an alternative and being used in all kinds of way to make the Masters life better either by financial ways, domestic duites, or an easy fuck in some circumstances. IT becomes a game of just how far this slave will go, almost laughable really at the slaves expense. Asking them to do things that can ruin their life in many instances, JUST TO SEE, ya know cause it really doesnt effect them and they want to see just how stupid the slave is. Cause said slave is truly just an alternative to a real meaningful relationship.
On the flip side, A Master with love guides a slave in all the right directions and does anything in his power to enrich her life, and he wants to give back because she is so appreciated and loved.

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ORIGINAL: Endivius

nope, no question, just more of the usual onetwuewayism.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: FemalecumLover


Why everyone has to be offensive when someone is proposing an opinion/an Idea

if we are the kinksters who are outcasts cant tolerate each others opinions
how can we expect the society to accept us !

V

Because we have previous experiences with this particular poster. Feel free to look up her first two threads.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_4007074/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#4007074

http://www.collarchat.com/m_4038446/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#4038446