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BeautyDebased -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 8:15:37 AM)

Who defines crazy?

Sure everyone is to a degree, what always gets to me is this comment that pops up, anxiety ridden or takes pills...erm so what? I have been diagnosed with anxiety disorder/agoraphobia, I don't chuck little tantrums, freak out or do anything much different to anyone else, what I do get is I'm very shy though I am perfectly capable of going out where anyone else could if Master is with me and to small places alone, I hate this big stigma, sure I take medication, but they make no difference to how I am other than prevent panic attacks which admittedly I can't really remember the last time I had one...it's more the fear of having one but I am working on that, Master is fantastic and has helped me more than anyone has been able to, grow my confidence and make me feel a little more secure, that it's not the end of the world and statistic wise, most of the population has anxiety to a degree, hell everyone has it just not anxiety disorder.

As for the bedroom, play and anything like that, I'm not what you would call extremely wild, I have the limits Master and I set but I like to experiment then who doesn't, had to add that, because I have noticed a few profiles even stating, no girls with anxiety issues...well that's sad for them because what they don't know is anxiety really isn't that bad, someone like that has more issues, rather than learning they simply discriminate.

Besides, I never have just fucked someone either, to me I need to be with them for a good four to six months and in a genuine relationship, like with my Master who I am now engaged to, were getting married on the 10th of October this year, a special date for us because it was the 10th of the 10th three years ago that He collared me :).


mittens.



ChasePup -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 8:39:03 AM)

I have done a lot of self reflection and really have come to the conclusion that we are all a little crazy beneath the surface. On the outside the majority of us pay our taxes, mind our manners, wave to our neighbours..etc. while on the inside there's a desire to completely loose yourself to your primal urges & desires...be them crazy or just a bit weird.

Those in the BDSM community want to explore these sides of themselves, and sometimes I think things go much further than they anticipated...but that's not necessarily a bad thing...depending on what these acts of discovery involve.


This pup is a completely urban professional by day, crazy/kinky mother'fucker by night. That's how I like it and will always be this way until the day I die. =)


"Making God blush since 1995"



LaTigresse -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 8:54:58 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I had a pet monster. Won't do that again!


This.

I'd rather be alone than deal with some batshit crazy bitch's drama.

I rule my pussy, my pussy doesn't rule me.

Novel concept for many it seems.



BeautyDebased -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 8:59:02 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

I had a pet monster. Won't do that again!


This.

I'd rather be alone than deal with some batshit crazy bitch's drama.

I rule my pussy, my pussy doesn't rule me.

Novel concept for many it seems.



There is a difference,

I personally wouldn't become involved with someone with a ton of serious issues, schizophrenia for example, I just couldn't deal with the drama, little issues don't concern me, though with that being said I'd never leave my Master regardless.

The other kind of crazy, ie, play crazy...well, guilty as charged and proud of it lmao.



subbyinlosangele -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 9:04:28 AM)


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ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

While reflecting on my own comment, “Maybe the fact a girl looks crazy enough to have sex with livestock shouldn't be a feature I count in the plus column?”, I recalled how many of my friends say I collect “dangerous pets” for lovers. To them, the things my lovers did were 'over the edge' and denoted a lack of morals or sensibility as they viewed it. To me, yes they were a bit wild, but that was what made them interesting and fun. As mentioned in the other thread about morals & limits, I tossed mine out and enjoyed myself.

I say “I am a very jaded old fuck”, but the truth of the matter is I have always been a jaded fuck, even when I was young. My sex life actively started at an age too young to mention. By the time I reached age of consent, I was already entrenched in BDSM, had a collared submissive masochist and was living in my own place with her as a poly primary pair. I started my journey into the world of relationships and sexual exploration a bit left of center so to speak.

Over the years I have a chosen a few lovers based more on our mutual goals and mutual interests than on the sensibility they displayed. Sometimes I took the wild girl that would fuck a ____ while I _____ as everyone else _____. <insert random TOS acts at will> It really was quite a lot of fun with the crazy ones that were capable almost anything. I truly enjoyed my time with those pretty girls that were off their rockers. I really did keep some in cages or chained . . . and I confess that it's not just because of the romantic BDSM aspects but for a few, it doubled as safety measure too.

Have you ever taken a lover of questionable sensibility because they slaked your lusts and shared your kinks . . . do you fuck the crazy ones?
If so, do often find them to be more fun than the 'sane' ones sometimes?
Will you choose the 'wild ones' again?



"Crazy" isn't a fixed point. We all fall somewhere on the spectrum between the polls of Normal (not sure what that is) and Crazy (ditto).

So, to me, the question isn't whether "do you fuck the crazy ones?" It's at what point does the craziness put you off and make you so wary that you walk away.

And for me there isn't a fixed answer to that, either. There is a range of "crazy" that I will accept or not depending on a lot of other criteria, some having to do with the woman, some having to do with what's going on in my life.

That said, the older I get, the less appealing I find crazy overall. "Erotic, wild" crazy can turn into "tiresome, checking my watch" crazy much quicker than in the past.



Delilya -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 9:21:14 AM)

I'm the good kind of crazy. I am very responsible in my day to day life. Non-violent, kind to those around me, don't throw tantrums, work hard. I think I have a nice balance.



littlewonder -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 9:23:09 AM)

Imo, those who think they are crazy, are not.

The crazy ones never think they are.



JeffBC -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 9:23:46 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist
Have you ever taken a lover of questionable sensibility because they slaked your lusts and shared your kinks . . . do you fuck the crazy ones?

No. I don't do casual sex so "fucking a crazy one" is equivalent to "marrying a crazy one". No, I'm not that crazy.



fucktoyprincess -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 9:26:15 AM)

FR

ResidentSadist, I sort of assumed from your question that you meant crazy as in far out on the extreme of either mental health issues or some other sense of extreme. I certainly answered assuming that was what you meant.

I, too, agree with those who say crazy is a spectrum. I, too, have my "wild and crazy" side. But it comes out in certain ways only. And most people who meet me would never in a million years guess that that side exists. In other words, a kind of controlled crazy, if you will. So that bedroom antics are one thing, but I'm quite a responsible, practical, possibly even boring, person outside. I'm quite happy with a good book and my cup of tea, so to speak. I'm not particularly drama full outside of my interests in BDSM. And there are many of us out there - perfectly normal, wholesome on the outside, but capable of bringing out our inner freak at appropriate times and places.

I've had lots of relationships with people who are like me - normal, stable, functioning adults who were able to let down the inhibitions behind closed doors. But there was no unnecessary drama outside (after all every relationship has a bit of drama).

But I've been with some truly unstable people. Unstable either due to childhood experiences or psychological disorders. Some were under treatment and on medication. Some had disorders that didn't require medication, but still this issues affected their ability to be properly engaged in a relationship. And some were simply in denial about the fact that they had "issues" that likely needed professional help. Those types are the absolute worst. And again, when we speak of "crazy", this can mean so many things. I would put even mild depression in this category - in other words, many of us probably have been with someone who is facing a psychological challenge. It all depends on perspective.

To me, if all one is talking about is trolling for great sex, then fine, I guess one sleeps with whoever will put out the best experience. But a relationship is a different thing. And the unstable people from my past were, regardless of how good they were in the sack, simply not relationship material. I feel, at the very least, a relationship should be a source of stability for two people, as they navigate their lives. And that is very difficult to achieve with someone, especially someone who will not even acknowledge the issues that they have, whether that is depression, anxiety, addiction, or any number of other issues. Not to mention that raising children with someone who is unstable, or not willing to take control of their issues, is an absolute recipe for disaster. [sm=2cents.gif]



LaTigresse -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 9:26:50 AM)


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Imo, those who think they are crazy, are not.

The crazy ones never think they are.



I am just wicked, evil, mean. Crazy would mean I wasn't in control of how I express that. After 50 years of being.......wicked evil mean......and still not in prison, I am fairly comfy in believing I err more to the side of sane than crazy on the Nut-o-Meter.

Subject to change as years advance and dementia sets in.[:D]



littlewonder -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 9:31:29 AM)

For me when I speak of crazy people, I mean the type that have an arrest record, violent, stalkers, those who talk to an invisible person or stuffed animal as a real person, those who still put out water and food for a dead dog because he doesn't believe it's dead (yeah, had a friend like that), people who are in and out of psych wards more than not, people who you wouldn't trust with your dog let alone your children, someone who you have to walk around like on eggshells because you have no idea who they are this week or when they will snap, etc....

yeah, those people are crazy.
Anything else that people call controlled crazy or whatever are not crazy. They are eccentric but still in a controlled manner. If it's controlled, it's not crazy.



LaTigresse -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 9:32:19 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder

For me when I speak of crazy people, I mean the type that have an arrest record, violent, stalkers, those who talk to an invisible person or stuffed animal as a real person, those who still put out water and food for a dead dog because he doesn't believe it's dead (yeah, had a friend like that), people who are in and out of psych wards more than not, people who you wouldn't trust with your dog let alone your children, someone who you have to walk around like on eggshells because you have no idea who they are this week or when they will snap, etc....

yeah, those people are crazy.
Anything else that people call controlled crazy or whatever are not crazy. They just like to have fun from time to time but still in a controlled manner. If it's controlled, it's not crazy.



I knew what you meant........just having fun with you.



littlewonder -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 9:33:04 AM)

Oh I know you did lol. But I just find it funny when people talk about themselves being crazy lol.



Winterapple -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 10:06:54 AM)

It's crazy to confide in your Teddy?[&o]

I was going to ask who said We all go a bit
mad sometimes." Then I remembered it was
Norman Bates.

The man I was involved with was bipolar so he
suffered from a mental illness. He was as many
people with mania can be a very charismatic.
He was very intelligent, artistic and in manic
episode thrilling because he was so alive.
Even when he was stable he balked at calling
himself mentally ill. So, I agree that people
with serious issues don't recognize it in
themselves.
When I think of bad scary crazy I think of
sociopaths and psychopaths. People who
function in society but are capable of horrible
things. Violent, obsessive stalker types.
Someone with full-blown schizophrenia can
be scary and dangerous but they are usually
incapable of intimate relationships.
Sometimes what we call crazy is just neurotic
or histrionic or unsocialized. And some crazy
bitches are bitchier than they are crazy.



OsideGirl -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 10:08:28 AM)

One of our closest friends maintains that there is a "crazy to hot" ration. The hotter she is, the more likely you are to put up with the crazy. He also maintains that the crazy ones are more entertaining in bed. Pretty much every one for him ended badly (and everyone around him). He's finally found himself a girl over 25, who is attractive and not bat shit crazy. I'm proud of him.



needlesandpins -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 10:37:47 AM)

i consider myself to be very normal in my everyday life, however, people constantly tell me i'm weird, or strange. the man i loved the most had problems enough that i said no and chose someone i thought was safe. he ended up being a cunt, and still is. i'm not sure i can be classed as crazy though.

as to my playmate......yep there's some crazy there lol

needles



doctorgrey -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 10:45:32 AM)

I have pieces of paper that state I'm okay.
Can't speak for her though!

DrG



needlesandpins -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 10:50:27 AM)

those bits of paper don't count for anything when you wrote them yourself with slugs thinking they were crayons ya know.......

needles



Thaz -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 10:55:56 AM)

<Holds hand in air> Yes, yes I do.



TNDommeK -> RE: -=Do you fuck the crazy ones?=- (6/12/2012 11:12:10 AM)

See, we need to define crazy. Like "how to lose a guy in 10 days" crazy (just watched that movie last night) or like "boiling rabbits on the stove" crazy?
Once we establish the degree of crazy it might be easier to say yes or no.

Oh and needles, the slugs for crayons was hilarious.



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