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You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 8:58:41 AM   
ChasePup


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Status: offline 		A question for both subs & Doms. Do you restrict or are you restricted from eating certain foods?

When I was last in a D/s relationship I was given a meal plan & fitness routine that was strict but fair (had 1 cheat day per week).

At first i found it unpleasant but have really come to appreciate that aspect of my previous relationship - it was care & control beyond sexual to keep me healthy and easy on the eyes. Going on 29 i'm happy He did that.

Metabolism is a bitch once you hit 30!!
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RE: You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 9:01:35 AM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		I'm not allowed anything at all with caffeine and he helps me to watch what I eat because we both want me to be more fit, tone and healthy. The eating food part isn't that bad for me since I'm more strict about that than him but the caffeine thing was and still is difficult.

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RE: You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 9:13:52 AM   
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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

I'm not allowed anything at all with caffeine and he helps me to watch what I eat because we both want me to be more fit, tone and healthy. The eating food part isn't that bad for me since I'm more strict about that than him but the caffeine thing was and still is difficult.



oh god...giving up coffee would be more painful than a 5 hours of flogging for me..well..maybe not...but still. I only have one cup a day though and there's new research on the benefits of black coffee to health.

Good for you for being health conscious!

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RE: You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 9:20:29 AM   
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Do you restrict or are you restricted from eating certain foods?

sort of.

The way you phrase this is odd for our relationship. It's not exactly like I "restrict" certain foods. I own a human. Eating and nutrition are part of the care & maintenance for a human. So I feed my human. It's isn't some sort of "control thing". It's mandatory if you want to own a human (for very long)

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RE: You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 9:26:06 AM   
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Status: offline 		I am trying to loose weight now I have had a medication change that increases my mobility so I am concious of that, he does not set any specific rules for me with that though..

He is allergic to nuts so whilst i am not banned from eating them, if i want any I tell him, then make sure I am sat other side of room and wash hands etc afterwards and no kissing for a bit (though neither of us are really into kissing anyway)

He dislikes fish and I love it so i get to cook fish when he is out for the evening so I still get to have it..

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RE: You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 9:35:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		Heh...Master can't have mushrooms so I don't cook with them when he's around and/or will be eating here. I wait till he's not here and not around.

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RE: You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 9:55:02 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm celiac and so can't eat gluten's. To make life easier Steve also has a virtually gluten free diet. I'm not submissive though and neither is he!
I hate food shopping, in fact I don't really care for food but Steve is really good at finding gluten free products and enthusiastic about just how much we can eat.

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RE: You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 10:21:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		Every Tom, Dick and Harry seems to want to control my diet. Some want to make me thinner, some want to make me fatter. Some are happy with me as I am.
Getting fitter and healthier is kind of tempting, Jenny Craig with perks kind of, but shouldn't it really come from within rather than from someone else. I'm always a bit suspicious of people who want to 'fix' me. What happens once you are fixed...

I've been mulling it over quite a lot if I would want this to be part of a relationship. I wouldn't want a relationship to revolve around my diet and fitness (more than a few have offered this) but should I be happy with someone who's happy with me being unfit and fat.

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RE: You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 11:44:18 AM   
onlyfreelycaged


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Status: offline 		I'm expected to take care of my self. Sometimes I'll be told to try out a different style of eating for a while.. but other then that it's just too much work for both people.

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RE: You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 11:58:54 AM   
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Status: offline 		I would say definitely so, if they weren't healthy. Eating fast food, lots of sodium intake, processed foods, or sodas everyday just isn't healthy. So yea, I would monitor and control what was on the menu. However, one would be surprised the things that can be eaten. I love cheesecake, it is absolutely fattening as hell. So Hubby made a protein cheesecake. I can eat it all day. He found the ingredients on the internet. He is a serious weight lifter. So anything healthy, He usually finds.

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RE: You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 12:10:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		Welllllllll, let's see. I think the food I eat, the quality of it, the health of it, is extremely important. I am equally fussy about the food I feed my furry babies. I was fussy about what my kids ate when they were in my care and I am fussy about the foods I feed those, that are guests in my home. I have 'convinced' Generic Dude to eat much healthier as well.

So, that all being said, how could I NOT be fussy about the care and feeding of anyone I would find special enough to want to own and have serve me?

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RE: You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 1:08:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, there is usually a diet and menu plan in my house. And like you, there is a hall pass once a week for the Sunday meal.

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RE: You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 1:17:38 PM   
Karmastic


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Status: offline 		i would never try to restrict what my partner eats, BDSM or otherwise. i suspect i'm in the minority on that. i think it's cool that your D was able to do that with you, with good results.

that said, i tend to be with those that eat somewhat like me. e.g., reasonably healthy food, and not fast food or a lot of junk. so, it's kinda by default.

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RE: You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 1:28:25 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have terrible eating habits, because I am not hunger-driven. I will go all day without eating, because I am just nauseated in the morning and I can get a cup of coffee down and not much else. Go without eating all day? No problem. So someone to bring me toast in the morning would be fine! I am a total foodie, though, and being Italian, a food enabler, too. What I eat is very important, and I don't eat low quality stuff.

I am not attracted to people who subsist on doritos and diet mt dew, so chances are I wouldn't have someone like that serving me. My previous sub is a type 1 diabetic who didnt really take care of himself (in my opinion) but that was on him.

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RE: You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 1:57:31 PM   
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I tend to adjust my diet to accomodate my partner, provided it is a healthy adjustment. If they wanted to control my diet I wouldn't mind so long as it allows me some comfort foods or occasions to cheat. I love cooking, and I enjoy good food, if someone insisted on putting me on say an all vegetable diet or nothing but rice cakes I'd probably laugh and end the relationship.

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RE: You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 2:05:41 PM   
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Status: offline 		I'm not going to and never have made out a detailed meal plan and fitness routine for a partner. If the assumption is that he is far from My ideal and he is someone that is interested in Me and I see the potential then I would suggest that he speak to his doctor, a nutritionist, and find a personal trainer. As I am none of the above then I wouldn't suggest or imply that I have that knowledge or entertain the idea that I can fix or mold him into My preferred body type if he didn't have the desire to seek it out on his own and the motivation to put it into place I have no issue with befriending, encouraging, and supporting someone in their efforts. However, I wouldn't seriously consider a man as relationship material until after he achieved his fitness goal with the byproduct being that he would then fit My preferred aesthetic and I'm quite direct about it.

I see it as a compatibility component. Someone who is sedentary and eats a certain way will never be happy with Me as I would expect that he complement My schedule, routine, and eating habits. All of which are quite strict. If it feels like work and the motivation doesn't already exist, again, we wouldn't be compatible.

Now perhaps if he is a guy with an average build that isn't overweight but isn't defined then the odds are that joining Me in My routine will curry that definition in a short amount of time.

As to care and control, I see that as him learning to prepare dishes and meals that fit into My diet as well as desiring time spent with Me enough to get his ass out of bed at 5 in the morning to run or workout. I could demand it but that is nowhere near as satisfying to Me as him caring enough and having the motivation to do so. I've honestly never had this be a problem as the endorphins and hormones are flying high after a hard run/workout and there is much to take advantage of when we are both hot, sweaty, and sticky already.

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RE: You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 2:23:44 PM   
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So Hubby made a protein cheesecake. I can eat it all day. He found the ingredients on the internet.


Please recipe me!

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RE: You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 2:31:01 PM   
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Do you restrict or are you restricted from eating certain foods?


He would have to be both more knowledgeable than I and share my values regarding organic/local food. I'd accept Michael Pollan as my Food Dom.

I got this at my library; it's a fast read:

Food Rules: An Eater's Manual

Food Rules is broken down into 3 sections (and this will sound familiar to those that read In Defense of Food): 1- What should I eat? (Eat food) 2 - What kind of food should I eat? (Mostly plants) and 3 - How should I eat? (Not too much).

Each section includes 20 or so rules that you can pick and choose from in order to eat a healthy diet. Some of the rules overlap (Avoid food products that contain ingredients that a third-grader cannot pronounce and Avoid ingredients that no ordinary human would keep in the pantry, for instance) and some seem like such common sense that it is almost laughable to include them, but that is why this manual is so important. It distills all of this complex information that we see and hear every day and turns it into something relatable.

We know, somewhere in our minds, that certain grains and oils are better than others. Pollan gives us an easy rule to help know which ones are best. We know that most breakfast cereals are little more than desserts and Pollan gives us an easy rule to know which ones are safe.

Some rules are humorous (it's not food if it arrived through the window of your car) and some are serious; some rules are easy and others require a bit more dedication. But what this manual has is a wide range of useful tips that can be applied to any life at any time. This is no complicated diet; this is a little pocket book of sensible, realistic rules to help you eat your best.

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RE: You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 3:52:52 PM   
littlewonder


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Go without eating all day? No problem. So someone to bring me toast in the morning would be fine!


Master is this way as well. He'll go a day or two without even eating because he'll be so wrapped up in things that he forgets to eat. The problem then the next day is that when he does finally eat, he's sick from eating because his system I guess goes into some kind of shock. lol

I used to go a day or two without eating when I was first in college and would be studying or I was drinking to the point I was too busy drinking to eat. lol


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RE: You are what I SAY you eat... - 6/12/2012 6:11:41 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ChasePup

A question for both subs & Doms. Do you restrict or are you restricted from eating certain foods?

When I was last in a D/s relationship I was given a meal plan & fitness routine that was strict but fair (had 1 cheat day per week).

At first i found it unpleasant but have really come to appreciate that aspect of my previous relationship - it was care & control beyond sexual to keep me healthy and easy on the eyes. Going on 29 i'm happy He did that.

Metabolism is a bitch once you hit 30!!


(Wait till you hit 50)

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