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Is she a fake? - 6/15/2012 9:59:32 PM

rayjames

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I have been messaging back and forth with a really beautiful mistress I found on the site. She had 2 pictures of herself but they seemed rather casual.

She wanted to skype and I agreed thinking she wants to check if I am real. the first time, we skyped she did not show herself and got really offended when I asked her if she could as if I was calling her a liar. I had to run somewhere so it was only 5 minutes anyways so I did not mind.

The next day we agreed to skype again, but she refused again and I told her I cannot skype if she does not show herself. She got really offended and blocked me both on skype and on collarme.

What do you think, was she a fake or did I miss the mistress of my life?

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/15/2012 10:03:09 PM

LadyHibiscus

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Fakey fake fake.

It take more than five minutes to decide if someone is the one and only. Even if you have really really poor impulse control.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/15/2012 10:04:10 PM

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Someone really offended over your asking to see her to confirm wouldn't have asked you to skype. You were being worked.

Some of us will get on cam... some will reach for the phone and some will meet in person. I don't cam. I meet in person after talking by phone. I sure wouldn't ask you to get on cam so that I could see you and then get mad at you if you wanted to see me.

If she was really a she and that unreasonable... you didn't miss much.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/15/2012 10:06:41 PM

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It depends. Some men can be pushy about seeing what a woman looks like. I have no qualms about my looks, and yet even I get annoyed when people push me to cam, just because it seems like they're obsessed with the superficial. If I'm not asking them for money or a service, I don't feel obliged to reveal any part of myself to them and some people don't get that. If it's a casual talk, there's no guarantee a person gets to see what I look like. I generally voice with everyone though.

It also depends on what she had in her profile. Did she say she didn't like to Skype? Did it say that she would? And if she did say she would, when did she say she would? Before talking to someone? After she felt comfortable?

All of that stuff matters.

And as a for the record, if you hadn't talked to her that long, I wouldn't see it as a big deal. I'd move on.

But what do I know. She could have just as easily been a fake. I think I'm just being optimistic.

Edit: Also, what do you mean by Skyping? The first time were you just both on voice? Or where you on cam and she was on voice? And the second time, was she asking you to voice while she voiced, or to cam while she voice?

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/15/2012 10:17:48 PM

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Yes. I'd bet dollars to donuts 'she' is a he.

Next!!

PS: Did You check the pictures on tineye and google image?

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/15/2012 10:37:41 PM

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just tried google image search and found it

seems like I got played

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/15/2012 10:39:51 PM

LadyHibiscus

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Those of us that are 'real' dont make it hard to talk to us. We're women who may or may not be interested in talking to you, certainly, but no one genuinely interested in making friends sets up barriers to that.

Filters, maybe.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/15/2012 10:43:34 PM

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just tried google image search and found it

seems like I got played

*pats* You'll find someone else. Though it hasn't led to a relationship for me, I have met some genuine people here, so they do exist.

(And kudos to MistressDarkArt, I forgot all about tineye)

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/16/2012 5:52:54 AM

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Sounds suss

Better luck next time - its sucky when that happens

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/16/2012 7:23:16 AM

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Sorry that happened. At least you found out before you invested too much time.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/16/2012 8:00:06 AM

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Think of it this way, you're on a site where meeting people is a primary goal for a good proportion of the members. If someone seems that they want to get to know you, and then throws up things that get in the way of that, what is their intention? Another tell tale is if people get overly offended by a reasonable request. You were within your rights to ask 'her' to show herself as you were showing yourself and it was something you both agreed to use.
I'm thinking it was a guy who wanted to see your goodies.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/16/2012 11:38:08 AM

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I have neither a camera or mike on my computer, so I don't skype or cam. Even if I did, I doubt I would ever agree to either on here before meeting someone in person.

In your case, and seeing how "she" is the one who suggested it, I have this advice for the future:

If someone asks you to skype, make it clear that you either want to meet them in person, or if they will have to show themselves as well. Anyone who refuses or makes excuses, tell them that's ok, you are happy to wait until they are comfortable doing so, but you will not do it until they are ready to show themselves as well.

So often, dominants (both male and female), real or fake, will try to get an s-type to show themselves on camera just for their own kicks. Until you meet someone and begin a relationship with them, they don't own you, and you owe them nothing. Try not to let your strong desire to find someone make you do things you shouldn't.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/16/2012 12:21:38 PM

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Yes, everyone has said everything already. LL gives good advice by saying to wait until she is comfortable. Also I would advise telling her that until that time nothing will be coming to her until she proves herself. Be it material goods or cybering etc.
There are real ones of us out there, but there seems to be more of the fakes. There are good folks on this side of CM. Good luck to you.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/16/2012 2:18:38 PM

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I don't think she was the mistress of your life. Maybe she wasn't ready to show herself to you but she shouldn't have required you to show yourself either then. Or maybe "she" was really a "he." She may or may not have been fake. But if she used a picture she got off the internet somewhere, you can bet "she" is a fake.

I do know there are a lot of Dominants out there who try to get the sub/slave to show themselves on cam first, either as a power play or for some sexual kicks, depending on what all is being shown. I remember that from my days as a sub long ago. I have no problem at all showing my face on cam to prove I'm really me. I'm entirely clothed though.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/16/2012 2:29:10 PM

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I don't think she was the mistress of your life. Maybe she wasn't ready to show herself to you but she shouldn't have required you to show yourself either then.

Yep yep. Don't fool with people who won't reciprocate. It's important for one to always give as much as one asks for. =)

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/16/2012 2:38:45 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: rayjames

She wanted to skype and I agreed thinking she wants to check if I am real. the first time, we skyped she did not show herself and got really offended when I asked her if she could as if I was calling her a liar. I had to run somewhere so it was only 5 minutes anyways so I did not mind.

Interesting that she'd even skype with you. So, presumably, you could at least ascertain that she was a real, live woman?

I've often wondered if there's a type who'll do messaging, emails, and even Skyping - but no more than that. You, the sub, becomes the modern-day, internet version of a Black Lace interactive porno novel. She gets a buzz. Then she goes back to her vanilla life - either as a singleton or as married to her square-as-a-cube husband.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/16/2012 2:53:48 PM

LadyHibiscus

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There's lots of them, Darling. SL is full of them, so is alt.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/16/2012 4:05:40 PM

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I've guessed as much. I did try SL for a while, but ended up feeling it to be quite depressing.

I've noticed a certain predilection for such women to zero in on a man who can express himself well. It's words, rather than images, that does it for women, so I hear, so perhaps that's not surprising. It's weird and miserable to be used as a 'romance object' - perhaps as weird and miserable, in its own way, as it is to be used as a sex object, for wank purposes, as seems to be the common experience for many women, from men. I hate both species of bollocks, I really do.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/16/2012 4:18:08 PM

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I've guessed as much. I did try SL for a while, but ended up feeling it to be quite depressing.

I've noticed a certain predilection for such women to zero in on a man who can express himself well. It's words, rather than images, that does it for women, so I hear, so perhaps that's not surprising. It's weird and miserable to be used as a 'romance object' - perhaps as weird and miserable, in its own way, as it is to be used as a sex object, for wank purposes, as seems to be the common experience for many women, from men. I hate both species of bollocks, I really do.

I actually liked SL. I met a lot of nice people and made a lot of friends. My computer just couldn't support it anymore.

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RE: Is she a fake? - 6/16/2012 5:23:09 PM

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I would be very reluctant to send someone a picture of myself over the internet, so her refusal does not automatically make her a fake. For example, I don't want my name and picture ever being asociated with a site like this as it would likely cause me considerable embarrasment at school (and the rumour mill would make sure everybody knew).

If however I met someone at one of these "munches" and they were willing to vouch for a person online I might consider it, but again I would have serious reservations.

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