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RE: Behaviour adjustment techniques, am i crazy? - 6/27/2012 3:34:43 PM

JeffBC

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Thank jeff, cesar is getting alot of good reviews around Here, I'll have to give him a second chance haha.

Just make sure you pay attention. He does not say he is a dog trainer. He calls himself (rightly in my opinion) a dog psychologist. The VAST majority of the show is about D/s... and the dog psych problems that come up when the dog is allowed to dominate in a human world. It's for similar reasons that I don't feel I ever "trained" Carol. I just dominated her then told her what I wanted her to do/think/feel/whatever.

I think I read one of your posts somewhere saying you Started off as vanilla? Am I thinking of the right guy? How did you two come to deside to work towards D/s?
I ran into it online. Prior to that I thought BDSM was the stuff of fevered porn imaginings. You were ALL fictitious in my mind LOL. There were two driving issues for us. The first was Carol wanting to use sexual D/s as a path to healing some old emotional scarring of mine (great idea that by the way). The second was that it just fit us. Carol is socially submissive. I'm socially dominant. I was always dominant in the relationship, of course. We just didn't have words for it. Really, the new thing for us isn't D/s, it's TPE. Since then we've kept exploring that path because bossing Carol around makes me happy which makes her happy.

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RE: Behaviour adjustment techniques, am i crazy? - 6/27/2012 3:40:16 PM

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Thanks JeffBC. I always try to explain that to people about when I was married. Both of us were exactly the same as both of you. We just never called it D/s. It was just the order of things in how we grew up and our personalities. It seems when I try to explain, no one gets it lol. They scratch their head and say "so he wasn't your Dom...." lol