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bashfulbyte -> RE: Should I or Shouldn't I???? (6/29/2012 6:10:54 PM)
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I have been the other woman. It was a sugardaddy arrangment, he contacted me because I mentioned D/s in my profile. That is the dynamic that we had and he controlled everything and I was not allowed to date or work. I lucked out in the arrangement department because we had incredible chemistry. I was living "50 shades of Grey" with a married man. He would see me once or twice a week, sometimes for play, sometimes just because he needed a friend. Sometimes we would go on trips and I would have to listen to him talk to his wife on the phone, telling her lies lies lies and damn he was a silver tongued bastard. We ended up falling for eachother. He eventually broke it off because he was getting too attached. He said, "I'm stupid, I'm going to get caught." It wasn't as if I was just dumped, it was as if he had died. It was painful. I think you should consider wether or not its worth it to put yourself in a positon to get attached to a man that would cheat on his wife instead of confront her with their problems and his needs and try to solve them. In my case, he did the same thing to me, After about 6 months he began to actively seek others. The reason he gave me for all this was, "I'm 42, I'm completely grey, I've been with the same woman for 15 years. I just wanted the feeling of going to lunch with an attractive woman. thats all I ever wanted, I would give them 200 dollars to justify me only wanting a lunch date. I never expected to meet anyone like you." Who knows if its true. The play and the closeness and connection we had was great but it was not worth it in the end and I was left devastated and feeling foolish. You may get attached to him and you will always come in second to his wife and children, no matter how bad he says it is at home.
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