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The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 4:43:17 PM   
ARIES83


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Status: offline 		I found this on the net somewhere, can't
remember where.
I think the person said its from a actual guide
for new wives in the 1950's or something similar.
I can just picture them handing this type of stuff
out to girls in school after baking class haha.

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"THE GOOD WIFE'S GUIDE"

1. Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a 
delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting 
him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his 
needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a 
good meal is part of the warm welcome needed.

2. Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed 
when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be 
fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.

3. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

4. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of 
the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the 
table.

5. During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a 
fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven 
of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering 
to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

6. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise 
of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet.

7. Be happy to see him.

8. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.

9. Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, 
but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - 
remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

10. Don't greet him with complaints and problems.

11. Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all 
night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through 
at work.

12. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or 
lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

13. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

14. Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment 
or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will 
always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no 
right to question him.

15. A good wife always knows her place. 



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RE: The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 5:08:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		You forgot #16. - Kick him in the nads when hes being an asshole.

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RE: The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 5:17:36 PM   
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15. A good wife always knows her place. 




This is very close to how I live my life only I wear nipple clamps while I'm dusting.

Except for #11 - causing someone to worry about you is just cruel so to stay out all night ... I'd be calling hospitals, truly, as it would be so out of character for him.

edited to trim the long ass quote!

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RE: The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 6:08:27 PM   
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RE: The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 6:13:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		Considering that many wives work outside the home I would ask if this list then also applies to the husbands? And if that is so, I wonder how #11 would go over with men?


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RE: The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 6:39:16 PM   
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Most, but not all, of this would be better named “The good submissive Guide'. It certainly doesn't take into account dominant women or male submissives; And, like Slaveluci, if it is done willingly, it is a beautiful relationship! And #11 has got to go!

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RE: The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 6:43:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		idk. i do everything but #15 with my fiance & i am pretty demanding/princessy

nothing wrong with treating your man right(as long as he knows HIS place)


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Most, but not all, of this would be better named “The good submissive Guide'. It certainly doesn't take into account dominant women or male submissives; And, like Slaveluci, if it is done willingly, it is a beautiful relationship! And #11 has got to go!



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RE: The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 6:46:23 PM   
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This sucks if someone has to do it unwillingly. To choose to do it for someone you wish to serve is amazing. It's all about the motivation. Contrary to the beliefs of some self-annointed "feminists," it's empowering to choose to live like this if it's what a woman wants...


This^^^

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Except for #11 - causing someone to worry about you is just cruel so to stay out all night ... I'd be calling hospitals, truly, as it would be so out of character for him.


And this^^^

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RE: The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 6:47:45 PM   
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  nothing wrong with treating your man right(as long as he knows HIS place)




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RE: The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 6:54:50 PM   
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I found this on the net somewhere, can't
remember where.
I think the person said its from a actual guide
for new wives in the 1950's or something similar.
I can just picture them handing this type of stuff
out to girls in school after baking class haha.



Oh some lady at a chuch I went to years ago tried to feed me this shit. Of course she also tried to get me to buy plumming PVC pipe to whip my 3 month old baby with every time she cried. She tried to tell me if I whip her every time she cries and say now we are going to be cheerful then she would learn. I so wanted my husband to walk up to hers while she was standing in the room and loudly tell him, " When you catch your wife crying or upset make sure you slap the shit out of her and say now we are going to be cheerful." Sadly he would not do it.. But hey if she thinks it is good for a 3 month old baby then it is good for her too, right.



Don't complain if he stays out all night?? Oh my. I will not even touch that one. Late for dinner. Yes my husband is late now and then but he is kind enough to shoot me a two second text message that he is running late.


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RE: The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 7:44:27 PM   
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Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.



Is this why many men require a bi-sexual female.....because his boring day may need a lift?

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RE: The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 7:51:18 PM   
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Is this why many men require a bi-sexual female.....because his boring day may need a lift?



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RE: The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 7:59:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ok, sounds like almost all the things I do for him when I know when he'll be here. I try my best to do those things everyday to make sure just in case he comes over unexpectedly.

The only thing I don't do is light a fire since I don't have a fireplace lol. I do however...well I used to...keep the house at a temperature I know he likes but with me going through pre-menopause I would die of heat exhaustion if I did that now. lol....although when he comes over he turns it up and I end up roasting.

But otherwise, those are the ways I grew up and so they come naturally to me. I don't understand why you wouldn't do these things for your man. It's just being respectful and polite to the man you love. They are completely normal to me.

I try to make his life as easy as possible. I try not to complain, I try to make sure I have something for himto eat and always have his tea ready, I try to look nice for him except when he comes over and I'm asleep lol. If there's something he needs done, I do it,etc...again, it's just making sure he's happy and comfortable. I can't imagine having it any other way. I wouldn't know how.

As for the staying out late, I rarely ask him where he's going or why. If he wants to tell me he will. Sometimes I might ask him out of curiosity and he usually tells me but otherwise, it's not my concern. If he doesn't call or text or come over the next day then I might start to worry. Until then, it's his prerogative to do what he wants to do without me questioning it. He's pretty predictable though lol....work, job related stuff, hanging out with friends, etc....We always say we're like an old married couple except without the married lol.

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RE: The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 9:02:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		That sounds kind of reminiscent of the crap in the book Fascinating Womanhood written by Helen Andelin in 1963. So if the woman is working also to bring home a paycheck, do all those suggestions apply equally to men? Yeah, I didn't think so.

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RE: The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 9:25:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		Depends on your relationship. We agreed to an unequal relationship so if I was working he would still expect me to keep up with the house and with him, especially him because he is my priority.

That's not to say he wouldn't help with things. He would. He actually likes doing some stuff like cooking. But in the end those things are my responsibility and it's what I agreed to. Work or school is not an excuse even though there may be exceptions from time to time due to circumstances.

So if you both agree to an equal relationship then you both help out and don't use the above as a guidebook for you. Your relationship is different than what the guide is speaking about since you do not live a traditional lifestyle.


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RE: The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 9:28:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		It may be how to be a good wife but not to a good husband. See, a good husband would call if he was going to be late, rather than her worry he was in a hospital somewhere. And a good father would want to interact with his children. So a woman married to a man like this may be a good wife, but she's got piss poor ability to choose a good partner.

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RE: The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 9:32:53 PM   
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That sounds kind of reminiscent of the crap in the book Fascinating Womanhood written by Helen Andelin in 1963. So if the woman is working also to bring home a paycheck, do all those suggestions apply equally to men? Yeah, I didn't think so.

NBMG


Heh, I don't think this was the rules for a wife, more a thing that they tried to teach little girls to strive to be like when they grew up, even in the olden days, id say life often got in the way of the "ideal" arrangement you would like to have.
And Im pretty sure that none of that applies in reverse.
Its from the days womens rights were, " you have the right to remain silent and when is dinner going to be ready?"
But I found it good to read, for nostalgia value.
And found it interesting how easily it can translate into a modern day submissive wives guide.

-ARIES


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RE: The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 9:33:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

Ephesians 5:33


Here's the Good Modern Woman's Guide I found that someone wrote.

Be sure he has good, easy to follow directions to the quality restaurants that deliver curbside. This way when he arrives home he’ll have exactly what he wants for dinner and it will be ready when he arrives and you get fed too. You can be a dear and call in the order. We know how he doesn’t like to do that.

Prepare yourself…a good cocktail will work.

Be a little gay (we now know this means happy) The cocktail will relax you and you’ll appear to be happy when he arrives
Clear away clutter today this means turn the computer off and the tv on and kick stuff out of the way to make a straight path to the tv. That’s all he’ll notice.

Be happy to see him.. This may take several cocktails.

Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him….more cocktails.

Listen to him. This should be getting easy now after several cocktails.

He’s coming home with a great dinner and if he’s late make sure he knows how to use the microwave to reheat; if he really comes home late and without dinner have your dinner delivered and eat without him (just be sure he pays for your dinner when he does get home). No need to try to understand his world of strain, you were out there all day too.



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RE: The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 9:44:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		So many cocktails littlewonder!
Sounds like an old friend of mines mum haha,
eccept its Wine... and after to many she is very
surly... And i think she may have tried to hit on
me once....

I think your plan has to many cocktails

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RE: The good wife guide. - 7/5/2012 10:04:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		Clearly times have changed. Of course when that was written there were no cell phones. It does translate well into modern submissive habits.

I agree, a text, or better a quick call would be respectful and keep the worry demons away.

I think it's interesting though that when those rules were more common place, the divorce rate was much lower too.

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