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RE: Uh oh, low. Sex drive? - 7/15/2012 10:19:32 AM

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It's going to come down to finding someone compatible - either matching sex drive or understanding. You have several things going on (depression, stress, BC) that cause low sex drive, so until those are fixed (I mean this semi-humorously, as it's not that easy) you're going to have to just accept your level of interest and find someone else who does, too.

They are out there.

I used to have a VERY high sex drive, much higher than Chael's. Now it's almost non-existent due to medical issues (mental health, meds for it, and bc). I'm the top/dominant in this case, but it's still a compatiblity issue even from this direction. He accepts it and understands that it's not intentional. We enjoy sex when possible.

Again, compatible partners are out there. For anyone it takes time and often some sifting through those not suited. Just try to enjoy the trial and error on potential partners and let the right match show up when it naturally does.

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RE: Uh oh, low. Sex drive? - 7/15/2012 10:31:02 AM

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Poor diet and no exercise can cause depression and low sex drive. Consider being vegan, taking lots of supplements like MSM and Vitamin C, and MMS. I don't think you'll be depressed after that. If you are, which is doubtful, maybe a nice spanking.

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RE: Uh oh, low. Sex drive? - 7/15/2012 11:49:21 AM

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ORIGINAL: ARIES83

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Always stressed, and extreme low self esteem, always have had that though
abuse is not something I've thought of that could affect a sex drive, just other aspects of my life

Look Chelsi, there is a lot of good advice here but
as for the extreme low self esteem... You cuter than
a frigan box full of puppies. Don't worry, soon as you
find a guy that makes you forget all your stress and
self esteem stuff, I have no doubt the sex drive will
be fine.

-ARIES

^ that made me laugh. Thank you (:

To everyone about diet and exercise : these things are things I am good about and take pride in.
It's not that I feel godawful all the time. I disagree with people who find me adorable or cute or anything of that sort. But that's how I see myself. Outwardly anyway.
I have depression but it is not a constant, I have up and down days, it's something I've dealt with for a very long time.
However, I will take it to my doctor and discuss possible ways to help with my problem and I thank all of Y/you who helped or commented here. Well to those of you who made serious helpful comments anyway (:

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RE: Uh oh, low. Sex drive? - 7/15/2012 4:02:37 PM

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You've been called a eunuch????

*makes notes*

Another suggestive bit of evidence that the littlewonder profile I found could indeed be you.

*eyes littlewonder with suspicion*

Oh yeah, I guess I forgot to mention that little tidbit...that explains why I can't find a cock attached to me!

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RE: Uh oh, low. Sex drive? - 7/15/2012 4:03:48 PM

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Poor diet and no exercise can cause depression and low sex drive. Consider being vegan, taking lots of supplements like MSM and Vitamin C, and MMS. I don't think you'll be depressed after that. If you are, which is doubtful, maybe a nice spanking.

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RE: Uh oh, low. Sex drive? - 7/15/2012 6:45:00 PM

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I'm with the OP on this one. And I am near certain it is one of the reasons I was annoying to my former owner. I would much rather give myself a quicky hand job in the morning before work, and be fine with my own thoughts of kink while doing so......Then be finished with anything envolving sex on that same particular day.

See where I am going with this? I thought of myself. I'm not saying you go somewhere and masterbate without your Sir, but if you claim to submit, you should. If the Sir wanted to get laid, he should have been able to use you, and you would have happily complied. Just sayin'.

I remember my own former mistakes...At least a few of them. I would rather not watch others make the same mistakes I did.

(JEBUS KHRIST! does that make me sound old?......."If I knew then, what I know now........)

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RE: Uh oh, low. Sex drive? - 7/16/2012 1:24:18 PM

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That's not what I got from the op's thread at all. If she's anything like most women like her, I don't think she goes off on her own and masturbates. She simply has no interest...at all...ever. That doesn't say she doesn't comply with her owner or some guy. It just means she's not getting anything at all from the sex and/or she doesn't initiate because sex is simply never ever on her mind because her mind is too full of other everyday shit...stress, work, family, friends, other stuff she has to do, low self esteem, depression, etc.....

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RE: Uh oh, low. Sex drive? - 7/16/2012 1:39:43 PM

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That's not what I got from the op's thread at all. If she's anything like most women like her, I don't think she goes off on her own and masturbates. She simply has no interest...at all...ever. That doesn't say she doesn't comply with her owner or some guy. It just means she's not getting anything at all from the sex and/or she doesn't initiate because sex is simply never ever on her mind because her mind is too full of other everyday shit...stress, work, family, friends, other stuff she has to do, low self esteem, depression, etc.....

Actually, I do agree with you. I didn't spell it out, but maybe I should have. Sex doesn't do anything for me, but I do like a good orgasm still. (Yeah, I know how sad that is. I don't need to be told.)

And I wasn't trying to say she sneaks off somewhere else to do "stuff" either. I apologize if that was the implication I made. Again, I do, but she isn't me either.

But with her, and I believe, also myself, one of the reasons my former relationship soured so greatly is that she had a MUCH MUCH MUCH higher sex drive than I had, and probably ever will have.

I was with the OP on this one because I'd like the try and find the answer to her question, as well. I share her same problem.

I do admit though that I did try and "poke her with a stick" with my comment of not being a good sub, and her not complying with her Sir's needs to have sex though. (also another reason why my former relationship turned sour eventually).

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