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Please Advise - 7/17/2012 9:04:31 AM   
puppet11


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Status: offline 		Hello, I am a loyal and obedient sub and I love my Master dearly. He seems troubled and I have not been pushed or "taken" with the violent passion that we normally interact with. He is a very strong and wonderful Master. I have been wanting His dominance in bed alot recently and it is not there. I have mentioned it lightly in conversation and I have been told that there is a level of energy that He needs to give that violence to me and that with all going on He does not feel it when we are together. I am worried does that mean that I am no longer able to elicite this in Him? He tells me no. I feel as if I need this session and violent energy in our love-making and I am trying to be patient however it is getting harder and harder when we are together to not become dissappointed when I make my neck, back, my flesh so readily available and unmistakably desiring his hands, teeth, His claws and i receive little or none of this from Him. I want my Beast back. What can I do?
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RE: Please Advise - 7/17/2012 9:05:56 AM   
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RE: Please Advise - 7/17/2012 9:10:52 AM   
Byste


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Status: offline 		You can give the man space. Stop thinking about your needs and focus on his. If you're submissive, submit. Dominants are people too. Making demands on him right now just makes you another thing that is draining energy from him. That's not helping.

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RE: Please Advise - 7/17/2012 9:12:24 AM   
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RE: Please Advise - 7/17/2012 9:12:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		Stop being so self-centred and ask your master what he needs?

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RE: Please Advise - 7/17/2012 9:13:36 AM   
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RE: Please Advise - 7/17/2012 9:36:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		The other threads have been removed. Please continue the discussion here.


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RE: Please Advise - 7/17/2012 9:38:46 AM   
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RE: Please Advise - 7/17/2012 9:42:34 AM   
OsideGirl


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Status: offline 		OP: 1) It's not all about you. 2) Submission is about more than kinky sex.

I find it interesting that you're more concerned about your orgasm than you are about your partner. Why aren't you asking him if he's okay or if there is something going on in his life that has him concerned?

< Message edited by OsideGirl -- 7/17/2012 9:45:26 AM >

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RE: Please Advise - 7/17/2012 9:43:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		Has he seen a doctor? He could have a low level illness that is sapping his energy. He could be having job or family problems. Stress will drain his energy.

More importantly is why he hasn't shared with you what's happening in his life. You can't help him if you don't know what's going on.

Be helpful and when he's recovered he will remember that. Be demanding and you may well be the one thing he can't deal with and has to let go.

In the meantime, go exercise. It will help you deal with the cravings.

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RE: Please Advise - 7/17/2012 10:09:23 AM   
puppet11


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Status: offline 		Stef... to be honest I planned on posting it until I was able to get feedback. I am oh so sorry if I am taking up your precious space on this forum. Did you have any possible advice or are you simply a spectator?

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RE: Please Advise - 7/17/2012 10:10:29 AM   
puppet11


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Status: offline 		Byste:
thank you

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RE: Please Advise - 7/17/2012 10:13:18 AM   
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Status: offline 		Puppet, you got some good meat on the other thread... take it for what it was worth and please, don't go on defense.

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RE: Please Advise - 7/17/2012 10:17:02 AM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: puppet11

Stef... to be honest I planned on posting it until I was able to get feedback. I am oh so sorry if I am taking up your precious space on this forum. Did you have any possible advice or are you simply a spectator?


You violated the rules of the forum which you agreed to and your response is to snark someone that called you on it rather than accepting responsibility.


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RE: Please Advise - 7/17/2012 10:17:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		I read all of the OP, and roughly half way through, my reading it seems I agree with everyone here. All I read is that "you need", and more of "you need", and then again, more of "you need".

Then I replied to your second post, and thought to myself, "you seem awfully goddamn arrogant, as well".

I strongly question whether or not you are even a "sub", and not just someone that wants their own kinks catered to.

I strongly suggest if you are sincere, that you seriously re-evaluate your own situation.

< Message edited by joeleyre -- 7/17/2012 10:21:08 AM >

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RE: Please Advise - 7/17/2012 10:17:26 AM   
puppet11


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Status: offline 		OsideGirl:
It is funny that you should presume that which you do not know. You can ask me if I have tried speaking to him I was under the impression that would be unmistakable. I am not as self-centered as those of you who have replied would make me out to be. We have been in this relationship for sometime now and it is a change in behavior, I am not speaking on just physical "sex"... I can be beat and fucked anytime it is not that i am looking for it is the connection between the two of us, I am seeking help in what i should to rekindle, He is withdrawn and sad and I feel pain seeing it in Him. I and He have found solice in our "violence" together and He appears restless and not at ease anylonger. I do not need to be berated by those of you who would rather attempt to dominate this thread. You are not my master please do not try an assume such a position with me.
I did not know that multiple posting was illegal, I do apologize for that.
Yes Lockit... I recall your replies to my post and do consider what you have said. thank you.

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RE: Please Advise - 7/17/2012 10:23:23 AM   
puppet11


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Status: offline 		I can not control the way in which my post are interpretted. If I appear arrongant it is as My Master has taught me, I do not bow to any other but Him. I will stand on my 2 feet secure, however I do come humbly requesting advise. I will listen to those of you who have that to offer. I will not, however, be "degraded" by anyone. I serve my Beast.

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RE: Please Advise - 7/17/2012 10:25:23 AM   
OsideGirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: puppet11

OsideGirl:
It is funny that you should presume that which you do not know.



All I know is what you posted in your OP, which was "I need" "I need" "I need". Perhaps, you need to be clearer, then.

How long have you been in this relationship? What have you discussed with him? (other than your needs)


< Message edited by OsideGirl -- 7/17/2012 10:26:30 AM >

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RE: Please Advise - 7/17/2012 10:25:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		Your OP came out as very needy and mememe hence people are calling you on being self-centered.

I get the loss of connection worry though. Ultimately he is only capable of giving you what you can. If you put more pressure on him by making your flesh available to him all of the time he is around he will end up not wanting to be around you. He is not able to give you what you want right now. He has made that clear. If you push, it will likely push him further away. Be his constant right now.
Good luck

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RE: Please Advise - 7/17/2012 10:26:44 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Don't deign to ask advice from others then, it will be as the beastie boy blowholes.

No sense fucking around here then. 

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