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RE: Male and female doms - 7/25/2012 8:52:31 PM   
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RE: Male and female doms - 7/25/2012 9:29:25 PM   
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Thank you everyone. I'm sorry if I was vague. Maybe this will help. If a female is trying to learn more about being a Dom, should she read about both sexes, or just her own?

I would say read about both, talk with both, learn from both, and then adapt what you learn to your own style. That's what I do. Oh, and don't forget that you can learn things from experienced submissives too.

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RE: Male and female doms - 7/26/2012 7:17:30 AM   
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Thank you everyone. I'm sorry if I was vague. Maybe this will help. If a female is trying to learn more about being a Dom, should she read about both sexes, or just her own?


Have you checked out the booklist? http://www.collarchat.com/m_1726118/tm.htm

The Topping Book was written to be gender neutral.

The Loving Dominant and Screw the Roses are from a male D perspective but should have value none-the-less.

I have no personal experience with the ones written from a FemDomme perspective but trust ResidentSadist's judgement in including them on the booklist.

Also checkout AAkasha's website, which is in her sig line in her posts. See her thread The Good Girls Guide to Domination (Femdom Help, non fiction)

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RE: Male and female doms - 7/26/2012 7:31:54 AM   
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Thank you everyone. I'm sorry if I was vague. Maybe this will help. If a female is trying to learn more about being a Dom, should she read about both sexes, or just her own?


Oh both! Definitely


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RE: Male and female doms - 7/26/2012 8:00:35 AM   
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Thank you everyone. I'm sorry if I was vague. Maybe this will help. If a female is trying to learn more about being a Dom, should she read about both sexes, or just her own?


Oh both! Definitely



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RE: Male and female doms - 7/26/2012 8:07:31 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ah, I hate to interrupt the snarkfest, but didn't we have a thread on this not too long ago? I Think it was more about submission, but that's just kinda two sides of the same coin.

I didn't follow it to the end, but at the point I left I think there was a consensus forming that as a generalization, males are roe sex oriented, females more service oriented.

If that's true, then a domina would probably focus more on non-sexual service whereas I'd just fuck ya like Three or Four times a day.

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RE: Male and female doms - 7/26/2012 8:09:00 AM   
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Ah, I hate to interrupt the snarkfest, but didn't we have a thread on this not too long ago? I Think it was more about submission, but that's just kinda two sides of the same coin.

I didn't follow it to the end, but at the point I left I think there was a consensus forming that as a generalization, males are roe sex oriented, females more service oriented.

If that's true, then a domina would probably focus more on non-sexual service whereas I'd just fuck ya like Three or Four times a day.


We did, but the question on this thread was vague and broad. The thread on male and female submissives was actually a well thought out question.


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RE: Male and female doms - 7/26/2012 8:22:52 AM   
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Not exactly a snark fest... surely?

Aaanyway... You do make a really important point.

The types of sub that a male dom will attract are likely to have different needs and wants to the types of sub a domme would attract.. Hence the other thread being really interesting.

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RE: Male and female doms - 7/26/2012 12:52:36 PM   
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Are male doms pretty much the same as female doms?


Not really. The difference? Two words. Blow jobs.

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RE: Male and female doms - 7/26/2012 1:01:25 PM   
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RE: Male and female doms - 7/26/2012 1:08:31 PM   
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I didn't follow it to the end, but at the point I left I think there was a consensus forming that as a generalization, males are roe sex oriented, females more service oriented.


I lose interest in the service without the sex.

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RE: Male and female doms - 7/26/2012 2:47:40 PM   
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Thank you everyone. I'm sorry if I was vague. Maybe this will help. If a female is trying to learn more about being a Dom, should she read about both sexes, or just her own?

I find a lot of value in reading both. I will say this though, I find myself closely aligned with more female doms than male doms.

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RE: Male and female doms - 7/26/2012 3:48:23 PM   
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RE: Male and female doms - 7/26/2012 4:09:54 PM   
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Are male doms pretty much the same as female doms?

Not really. The difference? Two words. Blow jobs.

haha True. Doms are more focused on getting blow jobs than Dommes are on getting eaten, for the most part anyway.
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Thank you to all. I finally finished filling out my profile, for what it's worth. Sorry for that.

It's still hidden. On the Edit Profile page, click on Unhide Profile at the top.

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RE: Male and female doms - 7/26/2012 4:54:33 PM   
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haha True. Doms are more focused on getting blow jobs than Dommes are on getting eaten, for the most part anyway.


Ain't that the truth? Doms go for blow jobs with femsubs - what's the Femdom/malesub equivalent? Forced bunch-of-roses-giving, no doubt.


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RE: Male and female doms - 7/26/2012 4:57:14 PM   
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RE: Male and female doms - 7/26/2012 6:21:49 PM   
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Doms are more focused on getting blow jobs than Dommes are on getting eaten, for the most part anyway.


My resolve to be gender neutral forbids me from drawing the obvious conclusion about one gender's oral prowess

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RE: Male and female doms - 7/26/2012 7:50:01 PM   
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Are male doms pretty much the same as female doms?


One is generally bald, bearded, bad-tempered and weird. The other is the same, only male.

I was drinking soy milk as i was reading that. Was in between sips though, better luck next time.



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RE: Male and female doms - 7/26/2012 10:01:49 PM   
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RE: Male and female doms - 7/26/2012 11:22:01 PM   
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I didn't follow it to the end, but at the point I left I think there was a consensus forming that as a generalization, males are roe sex oriented, females more service oriented.


I lose interest in the service without the sex.

I remember something like that from a previous thread on the topic, something like women become more submissive with sex, men are the opposite, and become more submissive with chastity.

Sorry guys, it wasn't my observation.

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