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Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 7/29/2012 7:13:02 PM   
PiratesAhoy


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Status: offline 		Hello everyone!

I'm just curious about everyone's opinion on this but...would you ever consider dating a Dom/Sub/Switch that had bluntly told you that they were a virgin? Would it deter you from wanting to know them since they would probably have little to no experience, or would you be OK with it?

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RE: Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 7/29/2012 7:14:52 PM   
xLaChienne


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Status: offline 		No.

We would be too far apart in EQ.

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RE: Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 7/29/2012 7:15:23 PM   
RemoteUser


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Status: offline 		If she likes cartoons and dislikes panda bears, we'd be off to a good start.

However, I am happily taken.


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RE: Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 7/29/2012 7:25:45 PM   
Endivius


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Status: offline 		I would be fine getting to know her and see where things go. However, I wouldn't rush into anything, and I certainly wouldn't write her off. Just because she hasn't had sex doesn't mean she isn't a person or capable of generating the chemistry and deep connections we all crave and desire. It just means she hasn't fucked anyone. Big deal.

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RE: Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 7/29/2012 7:28:21 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		Well being that I'm 40 years old and I dated men my own age, the answer would be no. It would feel like I was dating a child. EEeeww


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RE: Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 7/29/2012 7:30:33 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		No interest. Pretty much the same reason as lw.



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RE: Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 7/29/2012 8:14:40 PM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		A virgin MY age? No, thanks. When I was young, maybe.

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RE: Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 7/29/2012 8:45:21 PM   
lizi


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Status: offline 		I couldn't possibly be on the same page as a virgin. I'd want someone closer to my own life experiences to spend my time with.

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RE: Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 7/29/2012 8:48:02 PM   
CRYPTICLXVI


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Status: offline 		A virgin as a sexual virgin or a virgin as new to BDSM?

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RE: Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 7/29/2012 9:02:21 PM   
TNDommeK


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Status: offline 		If sexual Virgin, no.

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RE: Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 7/29/2012 9:05:33 PM   
sheisreeds


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Status: offline 		No way, I won't even consider a relationship with anyone who doesn't have a similar level of relationship experience. Having been married and divorced by age 26, virgins don't really fit into the picture.

Thankfully my current partner has a similar level of relationship experience, in fact we met by chatting about our impending divorce hearings :)

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RE: Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 7/29/2012 9:05:56 PM   
UllrsIshtar


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Status: offline 		Sexual virgin, no.
Virgin top/Dom/Master, no.
Virgin bottom/sub/slave, yes.

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RE: Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 7/29/2012 9:14:48 PM   
ReMakeYou


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Status: offline 		Take one under my wing? I'm always happy to give pointers.

Take one into my bed? Sure. In the sense that I'm picky who I bed in general. Virginity is like a divorce or a family trauma; I'll want a sense of how it impacts things before I'll do anything further.

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RE: Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 7/29/2012 9:28:52 PM   
FrostedFlake


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Status: offline 		I'm near 50. If she is old enough for me to date, I would think it strange. After all, I was 12...

Reviewing the question, Experience is not what I would be thinking of. Motive. Why. That is what matters.

< Message edited by FrostedFlake -- 7/29/2012 9:31:35 PM >

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RE: Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 7/30/2012 12:36:47 AM   
RaspberryLemon


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Status: offline 		I don't see why not. Someone having "experience" with someone else is irrelevant to what experience they would potentially have with me. Individuals react to each other differently--having experience with one does not equate to being better equipped to handle a different one.

That being said, I'm very young. Were I older like most others who have answered? My answer might be different. If at 40 or 50 they are still virginal, I'd be wondering why.

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RE: Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 7/30/2012 4:25:38 PM   
SylvereApLeanan


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Status: offline 		Absolutely, I love virgins. I love being the first to leave my mark in every sense of the word.

Although, if I were a sub/bottom/masochist and the person had no experience topping, I'd probably either want to go very slow or have a third party on hand to act as a spotter. However, since I am a dominant sadist who doesn't switch or bottom for anyone, it's a moot point.

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RE: Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 7/30/2012 6:31:15 PM   
kalikshama


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quote:

Sexual virgin, no.
Virgin top/Dom/Master, no.
Virgin bottom/sub/slave, yes.


Ditto

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RE: Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 7/30/2012 7:49:30 PM   
Mysia


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Status: offline 		My first sub was 14 years younger than I and a virgin (age 22 at the time). I've often thought that I wouldn't touch a virgin, but he showed me that teaching can be fun. And frustrating. More fun, thankfully.

Experience is key in so many areas of life but I see no problem with being the first experience in this case.

I do agree with another here--if that person is older (say, 40 plus) I would have to wonder WHY the person is still a virgin.

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RE: Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 8/1/2012 7:42:46 AM   
LanaDeVille


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Status: offline 		Well considering that I don't have sex, it wouldn't matter to me at all.

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RE: Virgin Doms/Subs/Switches - 8/2/2012 4:25:55 AM   
BlackTigerDragon


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Status: offline 		I'm a virgin myself so it probably wouldn't make any difference.

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